So the next item on my Baby Prep To-Do List is to research and select a pediatrician. I am not super sure where to start.
I have spoken to some friends/co-workers and asked for recommendations for the peds that they use for their kids. I have one name from that endeavor so far. I have spent time googling LGBT friendly family medicine practices, but haven't found much in my area. I know that we would like a ped that is within the healthcare network that my wife and I already use for everything (which isn't really limiting - there are still hundreds of choices within that network), but that's all I really know.
So here are my questions for parents and pregnant folks who have already checked this off of their lists:
Please explain this to me like I am a 5th grader here, because I really don't know where to start. So as much detail as you are willing to share, the better!
Thanks in advance, friends!
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********
Re: Picking a Pediatrician?!?!
1. Location. At some point you are going to have to drive there in a snowstorm with a sick child. You don't want to have to go far.
2. You aren't picking a pediatrician, you're picking a practice. You do need a primary pedi and you will see him/her for well visits, but if your kid has an ear infection, you're going to see whoever is available.
My research turned up the following additional advice:
1. Find out which hospital the pedi is affiliated with and see if it is convenient/you are comfortable taking your kid there.
2. Are there evening/weekend hours if needed?
3. If your doctor has his/her own practice, who backs him/her up when unavailable?
In the Boston area, I simply don't worry about LGBT friendliness -- I just assume people will be, and I've yet to be proven wrong. Pennsylvania is a little more conservative, but in the Philly area I think you'll be fine.
I gather it's not uncommon to interview pedis. That said, I doubt we will. I think we're going to pick whichever one of the 6 we like best from online bios and leave it at that. If we don't like him/her, we'll switch.
Also, I've heard it can be advantageous to have a pedi affiliated with the hospital you deliver at, but I'm not sure exactly why.
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********I'm going to go free-form in my response here, I'm running out of time in my day but wanted to mention a few things since I think we did something a little bit different:
We chose to go with a Family Practice group rather than a Pediatrician. We did this for a few reasons; this is the team that did our initial insems prior to us moving to an RE so we knew they were LGBT friendly. Also, this is the team that we both transferred our primary care to once they were in our network, because we think so highly of them.
Overall I've found it helpful that they know us (the parents) from a health perspective as well as our child. I believe we can also schedule successive visits if we want, in other words take care of the whole family all at once. We will likely take them up on that option in the future but it's nice to know that if we all get sick we can all be seen at one time.
Things I haven't liked to so much about the choice we made, are that they don't deal with babies all day every day. They certainly know what they're doing, but they don't already have a well-researched stance on every issue that I might bring up. They are always great about getting back to us with answers, but I sometimes wish we had a little bit more expertise at the ready. They don't seem to have their finger on the pulse, so to speak.
Back to the good stuff for a sec, it's totally awesome how much they fawn over Gabe every time we bring him in since they DON'T see babies all day every day.
Other things to consider, and have been mentioned above, are location, parking, and hours. Our Dr's office was always an easy and quick drive from our house ... until we had a sick and screaming (and hungry) kiddo in the rear-facing carseat in back. For this reason ALONE I am thinking about switching practices. If possible, you HAVE to find a clinic that has easy, convenient (and hopefully free) parking. Those car seats are NO JOKE to carry as your kid grows. Lastly I would highly recommend finding a clinic with some extended evening and weekend hours. There's just only so much work any one person can miss to take their kid to the Dr. And those well-baby checks really add up. Our clinic offers evening hours twice a week, but especially as your baby gets into that 6mo-5yr age range those evening hours start to conflict with the necessary routines of dinner and bed. Weekends would be way more convenient.
Good luck! We totally avoided interviews by going with a known entity, so I'm curious to hear how that goes for you guys.
Married to my amazing wife 6/12/10
TTC since 6/11
Unmedicated IUI #1 - 6/28/11 - BFN
Unmedicated IUI #2 - 7/25/11 - BFN
Robotic Myomectomy (Fibroid Surgery) - 11/15/11
Unmedicated IUI #3 - 4/24/12 - BFN
Progesterone Supported Leuteal Phase IUI #4 - 6/21/12 - BFP!!
Baby Boy G Born 3/24/13
On to #2, are we crazy?
IUI #1 - 11/28/14 - BFP! Beta #1 (11DPO) 34, Beta #2 (13DPO) 101, Beta #3 (20DPO) 3043
Ultrasound at 6w4d shows a single, fluttering heartbeat. Say hello to Sticky Ricki!
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********We've had two good pediatricians and a Naturopath doctor so far. We keep in contact with the Naturopath via Skype and our new pediatrician is just great. I like that their office has a "sick" entrance and a "well" entrance, so my healthy baby doesn't have to hang out amidst the germs. Their staff is also very helpful, always answers the phone, etc.
I met with our original pediatrician (in our previous hometown) before Kaden was born to discuss the post-birth plan, vaccines, etc. I felt so much comfortable knowing we'd both be on the same page. And he was very supportive of our more alternative approach to care.
Our current doctor is also great and spends a good amount of time with Kaden, offering advice and feedback and more "natural" suggestions to dealing with our current issue (his eczema). I also like that they offer evening and weekend hours and are affiliated with our local hospital in case of emergencies (in fact they're in an adjacent building).
I like this office a little better because I've never had to wait more than 5 minutes (over 2 check-up visits).
Good Luck finding the right practice.