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Pretty heartbroken to be trading my "Birth Month" board for this one..

SRose1005SRose1005 member
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Hi all, I'm new. Sorry in advance for being a wicked downer. Monday I had my first u/s because of pelvic pain and they found that my uterus was empty, but my hCG kept going up normally so I had another exam scheduled for today. I had my second u/s this morning at 6.5 weeks and my pregnancy was discovered to be ectopic. We got to see his little heartbeat, but were told there was no way to save him and that if we didn't act immediately my tube could rupture and cause hemorrhaging. I was rushed to the OR and had a laparoscopy. It was my first pregnancy, and I'm just numb. This has been far and away the worst day of my life. The doctors kept telling me how lucky I was, how much worse it could have been, and how I would probably be able to get pregnant again in the future and I just don't care. I want yesterday back. I want THIS baby back.
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Re: Pretty heartbroken to be trading my "Birth Month" board for this one..

  • Jen9823Jen9823 member
    That sucks. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Hang in there

    TTC since 2010
    MC at 5 weeks in December 2013
    MC at 5 weeks 2 days February 2014

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  • Happymomtobe17Happymomtobe17 member
    This is so sad. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I just miscarried my first, too, and it's heartbreaking. I'm glad you didn't lose your tube. 

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    thinking of you.
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  • Maxsmommy123112Maxsmommy123112 member
    :( we are pretty much all downers on this page, don't feel bad. We are here to support you through this dark time. I for one feel your horrible pain. I remember my 1st MC. Unfortunately it doesn't get easier. Every baby IS a baby. And I always say, I don't want to go through it again, why couldn't I have THAT baby. And people have been telling me I'm lucky too. Trying to pass the baby at home led me to hemorrhaging and almost needing a transfusion. I hate 'it could've been worse' because losing a baby is pretty shitty! I didn't have this board with my first MC and it has helped me so much. Just knowing I'm not alone and not crazy for the emotions I'm having makes a big difference.

    I am so sorry for your loss and just take it day by day. It never goes away but you do learn how to cope.
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  • MissErika16MissErika16 member
    So sorry for your loss. I've experienced an ectopic before as well. There are no words. The loss of a life sucks.
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  • babytwo2014babytwo2014 member
    So sorry. I also saw a heartbeat in Oct '13 and a week later, it wasn't there anymore. I completely know what you are going through. Don't give up. We lost our second this past week at 5 weeks. I'm not giving up. Allow yourself your time. No one will be able to tell you the magic words. xo
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  • dpalczerdpalczer member
    Sorry for your loss. Thankfully they were able to help you in time. This board is great for talking and just plain venting. We are all in the same boat, I am living the motto " Everything happens for a reason" right now. I hate whatever the reason is but it makes me feel a little better.
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    BFP #1 Jan 2008-Aug 26 2008 c-section delivery to a 5.13# boy
    BFP #2 Jan 2014- Feb 1 2014 Natural Miscarriage at 8w2d
    BFP #3  June 23.14 - Due March 1.15
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  • SRose1005SRose1005 member
    Thanks all. Sorry for your losses, too.
    @MissErika16 if you don't mind my asking, did you have a laparoscopy after your ectopic? Was there anything in particular that you found helped with the pain post-surgery? I'm taking my meds and my whole belly is still so sore I can barely move, and the doctor said I need to get up and walk around every 20 minutes to prevent blood pooling.
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  • eveiej76eveiej76 member
    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I've recently had a miscarriage, it was my first pregnancy. Give yourself time to grieve and heal.

    I send you my thoughts and best wishes for a healthy pregnancy in the future....


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