Orgasmic birth

Shelovesaginger · February 2014

Thoughts on this concept?
I feel I'm far too shy to ever have an orgasm in front of anybody other than my husband.

Jags8 · February 2014

I don't think it always means literally having an orgasm (though some women claim to have one). I think it's more about having an enjoyable, joyful birth experience.

Edit- words are hard

Mysterious_wife · February 2014

I don't think you could control it, if it happens.

Lynzdice21 · February 2014

From what I know it's an interesting concept I guess- but probably not something for me. I don't think I would be able to focus like that!

DebateThis · February 2014

Kimbus22 said:

There is absolutely nothing even close to orgasmic about birth and I'm firmly convinced anyone who says otherwise is a delusional nutjob. Delusional. Perhaps they hyponotized themselves into thinking that a human head bursting out of your nether regions and tearing you in half is enjoyable. Because they are insane.

This is pretty dumb.

yellowrose314 · February 2014

My cousin had one with her daughter. She said she felt pain during labor, absolutely, but when her daughter was crowning is when it happened for her, and the doctor said it actually made the delivery faster, I guess from the pulsation of her internal muscles? I'm not sure the exact mechanics of it. But it is possible. @DebateThis, just because you did not have a positive experience, doesn't mean others can't either.

DebateThis · February 2014

yellowrose314 said:

My cousin had one with her daughter. She said she felt pain during labor, absolutely, but when her daughter was crowning is when it happened for her, and the doctor said it actually made the delivery faster, I guess from the pulsation of her internal muscles? I'm not sure the exact mechanics of it. But it is possible. @DebateThis, just because you did not have a positive experience, doesn't mean others can't either.

WTF, why are you quoting me? I'm the one that pointed out how dumb it is to call orgasmic birthing mothers "delusional, insane nutjobs". I had about the most "positive" birthing experience I could have ever hoped for, thanks.

yellowrose314 · February 2014

Oops!! @DebateThis, that is totally my bad, did not quote the right person. Very very very sorry. I meant @Kimbus22

yellowrose314 · February 2014

@Kimbus22 Alright, I can understand your point of view, however, can you maybe see how saying that those who may have experienced something different from you are "nutjobs", "insane" and "delusional" could be construed as rude and disrespectful? I don't even have kids and that's how I would take it. You have your view, but to state in such an absolute way that "childbirth sucks, it just does", seems kind of arrogant to me. Although maybe I'm just overly sensitive to the nuances of language... who knows.

MamaKct · February 2014

Kimbus22 said:

I just can't buy it. My brain cannot wrap around the fact that there is anything physically enjoyable about birth. Maybe it's because it's so insanely far removed from my experience that I can't even fathom it's possible. It is literally a human being bursting forth from the most sensitive region of your body with no regard for you whatsoever.

Don't get me wrong. If there's some sort of voodoo I can do to get this child coming out of me to give me an orgasm instead of feeling like a car is being pulled out of my vagina with rusty meat hooks, I'm all for it. I just don't think it's gonna happen and I tend to place the people who talk about the wondrous joy of childbirth in the nutjob category. I love my kid. I love being a mom. I love being pregnant. But childbirth sucks. It just does. The end result is amazing. The process blows.

FYI ~ my 2nd was a lot better than my first. I hope you have a better experience this time.

JonandJennifer · February 2014

This is totally true, I have a good friend who is a doula that had a mama who had one. Your definitely not going to know if you don't have a natural birth. Having one myself the urge to push when you are in transition is incredible. Its a feeling I wish all birthing moms could feel. Our bodies are miraculous that's all I'm saying. Call me crunchy if you wish--Im totally ok with it.

MrsWS · February 2014

I had a great and very easy time giving birth to my daughter, but I cannot imagine how embarrassing that would be to orgasm in front of a team of nurses and Dr....

Would you even be able to feel it if you weren't having a natural birth?

JessaPrimate · February 2014

Ina May Gaskin talks about it in her natural childbirth book.

JonandJennifer · February 2014

I wasn't implying that you couldn't have a wonderful birth if you weren't crunchy. The epidural causes all kinds of changes physically and hormonally and I question with those side effects it would be possible. So I didn't clarify with that earlier.

JonandJennifer · February 2014

That was supposed to say sorry instead of so!

anitabanita · February 2014

Nicb13 said:

Joy2611 said:

Nicb13 said:

I was more concerned about not shitting on the doctor or farting because it was so quiet in the room.

Great. Now I'm concerned about this, too.

Wouldn't have been so quiet in the room if the doctor didn't turn off the Jersey Shore marathon I was watching.

This is bad.

MariaBend25 · February 2014

I thought most women end up shitting (obviously squeezing the same region of muscles will work up a deuce)... A good doctor cleans it up before you ever know you took a dump.

Sliptak · February 2014

I fear the labor shits too!! I asked my mom one time if it happened to her (she's a very conservative asian lady) and she yelled at me saying that was disgusting and rude lol...I wonder if she was so defensive because she did, or just didn't know that it's common and it didn't happen to her

ETA: I love how this discussion started about having an orgasm during birth and has shifted to pooping during birth lol

mnicolew · February 2014

So glad to see that I'm not the only one who fears the crapping while delivering thing. It just disturbs me that it even happens in the first place.

Shelovesaginger · February 2014

If the room was quiet and I farted from pushing too hard I'm pretty sure both DH and I would be laughing. I can picture it now, but I haven't given birth so I guess I can't say that until I've been there.

anitabanita · February 2014

I crapped loads. I was actually trying to poop, I figured that would be the easiest way to push out correctly and I didn't want my babe stuck in my birth canal, losing oxygen. It was fine, my boyfriend still thinks it was the most beautiful moment of his life, and he loves me as much as and possibly more than he did before he watched poop escape from my butt. Probably because, oh I dunno, I gave birth to his child. Birth isn't about us, suck it up yall.

LimaD · February 2014

Sliptak said:

I fear the labor shits too!! I asked my mom one time if it happened to her (she's a very conservative asian lady) and she yelled at me saying that was disgusting and rude lol...I wonder if she was so defensive because she did, or just didn't know that it's common and it didn't happen to her

ETA: I love how this discussion started about having an orgasm during birth and has shifted to pooping during birth lol

exactly what I was thinking. this is hilarious

LimaD · February 2014

anitabanita said:

I crapped loads. I was actually trying to poop, I figured that would be the easiest way to push out correctly and I didn't want my babe stuck in my birth canal, losing oxygen. It was fine, my boyfriend still thinks it was the most beautiful moment of his life, and he loves me as much as and possibly more than he did before he watched poop escape from my butt. Probably because, oh I dunno, I gave birth to his child. Birth isn't about us, suck it up yall.

omg. as annoying as you are, this just made me laugh til i cried.

Shelovesaginger · February 2014

I can't believe she is still here when nobody gives a flying fudge what she has to say.

anitabanita · February 2014

glad to add a bit of laughter to ur day girl

Chichigo · February 2014

MariaBend25 said:

I thought most women end up shitting (obviously squeezing the same region of muscles will work up a deuce)... A good doctor cleans it up before you ever know you took a dump.

Im pretty sure it's a nurse stuck doing that.

MariaBend25 · February 2014

@chichigo lool, yea you are right...unfortunately

I was once in a class where a guy said his wife "better not take a shit on his child" during labor. I informed him that she will be shitting like every other woman does and he better never open his dang mouth about it either considering she just gave "his child" life. infuriating.

I personally figure that if I work up a poop just by going for a run the marathon of labor will certainly be stirring these bowels...not one shit will be given. oh, wait...

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