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Thought I was done waiting.

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I told DH that I don't want to have more blood test this weekend because no matter what they say the outcome will be the same. There will be no October baby for us this year. (He said "Just try not to think about it" to which I responded "say that again and I will punch you in the face." )
Jump to this morning and I had a long talk to RE office and they suspect a chemical pregnancy. But they need to be sure before I jump back into another cycle. I don't want to be benched a cycle that would make me feel worse than I already do! So now I am waiting to see when they want the blood work done since I can't go this weekend. I am so done with this waiting crap.
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Re: Thought I was done waiting.

  • Jeffreysmom24Jeffreysmom24 member
    I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I had 2 CPs last year so I can totally relate to your thinking. It was bad enough that it happened but to be benched another cycle just makes it worse. And your DH sounds alot like mine - that is something that he would say to me too! I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Just know that you can vent here and we are here to support you. Stay strong and sending you big hugs!
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  • tuscanbride2007tuscanbride2007 member
    I am so sorry hon! CPs are such a mind f*ck. After seeing all the BFNs, you think, finally! And then IF slaps you in the face again.

    ((HUGS))

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    BFP #2 08.04.11 - DD born still @ 37w3d on 03.25.12

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    BFP #4 10.17.13 - CP @ 4w2d on 10.23.13
    BFP #5 04.06.14 - MMC 05.07.14

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  • KC1212KC1212 member
    I'm so sorry! FWIW - my doctor told me that because with a CP the loss is an early and natural one, I did not have to wait one cycle. It simply felt like a heavy late period.

    I lost my chemical pregnancy on nov 9th and was pregnant in the middle of the same month (but it was the tubal one).

    My old (and stupid) doctor told me to wait one cycle with the chemical pregnancy so that it would be easier to "date" the next pregnancy if it happened right away. But he pissed me off for different reasons and I left him and followed the new guy's protocol.

    Talk to your dr but, they might not have you wait at all.

    If you have a D&C it's different because they scrape the lining of your uterus and you need a few months to let it build back up again.
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    Married 6 years
    Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI

    TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
    May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
    September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
    October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
    Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
    November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
    No longer benched per New RE/OB!
    Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic :( 
    Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
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  • pettycrockerpettycrocker member
    Why are they benching you or calling it a CP when your BW came back at 4? It has to be over 6 to even be considered a "maybe pregnant" and over 25 to be considered a "positive' with b/w, that just seems crazy that they would bench you for a 4?! Or even call it a CP. I would be throwing some serious side eye their way if it was me. Sorry they are being so ridiculous. 


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  • SnowflakeBride06SnowflakeBride06 member
    First, I am sorry for your loss.  Its better to make sure your beta is 0 before you try again. Just one cycle after you get AF should be enough.


     6/09 right tube loss (fallopian torsion) 12/09 BFP #1 (DD born 9/10)
    8/12 dx Lupus (ANA+/APA-), 12/12 BFP #2  natural m/c 6w 2d 
    TTC#2  since 9/12  50mg Clomid/Ovidrel IUI #1 Beta 10/4=BFN
                                 50mg Clomid/Ovidrel IUI #2 Beta 11/1= BFN
                                      100 mg Clomid/Ovidrel IUI #3 Beta 12/26=BFFN
    100 mg Clomid/Ovidrel IUI #4 Beta 2/14= BFFN
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  • lcloffredolcloffredo member
    They aren't for sure benching me but they want the blood work to make sure it doesn't go up. They said that it sounds like a chemical pregnancy with the positives and then the beta being so close to 5 and the fact that I haven't started spotting yet. Basically if the beta goes down I'm good to go but if for some reason it goes up then we need to see what's up. Hope that makes more sense.
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  • CheesyPeasCheesyPeas member
    I'm so sorry hon.  (hugs)
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

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