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SCREW YOU Parents Magazine

MrsCrossleyMrsCrossley member
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According to PARENTS magazine, a 12+ lb baby should be able sleep through the night without feeding. Also, by 3/4 months baby should be sleeping on her own in her crib. They go on to list the "mistakes" that moms make that hinder this progress from happening.

I say: SCREW YOU GUYS !

Anybody with any common sense knows EVERY mom is different; and more importantly, every BABY is different. In my opinion the sooner you can get baby to sleep on her own & especially through the night on her own, the better -- Theoretically. But we all know this isn't just going to happen because you want it to; no matter how hard you try, in some cases.

I for one am a first time mom of a 3 month old, breastfeeding & co sleeping. Other moms are always trying to say what I'm doing is no good & my baby should be sleeping through the night by herself. Baby falls asleep on the breast, lays next to me, & wiggles around in her sleep until she finds the boob at least once if not twice until the a.m . It works for us. & one day my husband & I will have the bed to ourselves but we just had a baby & she's top priority. My baby's needs are always met, even if that does make her "spoiled". I'm obviously trying for a more independent baby but we work at her pace. I know it's going to happen, she won't be stuck on me forever.

Not to say that my way is necessarily the absolute right way, I just think it would be refreshing for other new moms who "spoil" their babies to be reassured that its okay as long as baby & mommy are okay. Don't let those pushy asshole moms (as polite as they may think they're being) or magazines force you into thinking you're doing a bad job. Motherhood is instinct. You know your baby best, don't get all caught up in the "norm". Good luck :)

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  • taraleannetaraleanne member
    I don't think you can spoil a baby. And certainly not a 3 month old!! I have a 7 month old and I don't see any way that I spoil him, or could spoil him. He's too young to be spoiled. I don't know what the "magic" age is that you're spoiling them but perhaps I'll know when I get there, it's just as you said, it if works for mom and baby then that's what counts! 
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  • MrsCrossleyMrsCrossley member
    Lol I thought the same when I read that ! Mine was 11 lbs at one month
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  • MrsCrossleyMrsCrossley member
    Me too ! Baby girl slept for 4 hours on her back by herself the other night & even though it was clearly my biggest success in sleeping terms, I couldn't help but check on her all the time. My husband didn't even want is both sleeping at the same time since she was alone! Lol. Definitely feel you
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  • Lesley0228Lesley0228 member
    My older DD woke up every 2-3 hours until she was 9 mo old and didn't STTN until she was over a year old. DS was sleeping 8-9 hours by the time he was 6 weeks old. I did not somehow become the baby sleep whisperer during this 4 years in between my kids. They are just very different kids. DD was difficult to get to sleep, difficult to keep asleep and difficult to soothe in general. Heck, the kid is 4 yo and still hell on wheels. DS is just a chill baby and likes to sleep. I'm sort of glad I had my challenging child first, it's been very humbling to parent her. I may have thought I was the most amazing mom ever if I had DS first. 
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    I just want to know who the pushy asshole moms are. :-?


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  • nranneynranney member
    I by no means am an expert but both of my kiddos were sleeping through the night by 4 months. DS is now 2.6 yrs and will only sleep 3-4 hrs before waking up and wanting you to come comfort him, he has had night terrors since 6 months. DD is 9 months and has been much easier than DS. She falls asleep on her own in her crib where as DS needed to be put in bed asleep, a trend that continues to this day. My kids pediatrician was actually mine and my husbands pediatrician as kids, so I valued his opinion since we turned out okay. I bottle fed both of my kids and as long as they were drinking 5-6 oz before bed they would sleep all night. I have a couple friends that breastfeed and they did not have as much luck since their LO's weren't taking in that amount and they were feeding more often. Weight has nothing to do with the length that they will sleep at night, both my kids were around 8 lbs at birth. DS and DD were around 14 lbs at 4 months.

    I think it does depend on the situation and what works best for your family. Even if you get your child to sleep through the night before they turn 1 you may have more often wakings once they get a little older. My pediatrician recommended the book Solve Your Childs Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber. It of course isn't a foolproof way to look at sleep but it does give some insight as to what is going on with your child when they sleep or lack thereof in my case. 
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  • gdangelogdangelo member
    If you read anything by Dr. William Sears (The Baby Book) he will confirm everything you are saying.  What you are doing is great and called attachment parenting.  I am a second time parent and I can tell you everything sorts itself out.  There will be times your children go to sleep beautifully and there will be weeks or months you want to tear your hair out. Eventually everything sorts itself out - I have never heard of a teenager wanting to sleep in their parents bed  --lol :)
    Mothers unfortunately can be competitive with their children when in fact we should be supporting each other.  If someones child "sleeps through the night" then that same child probably has another issue somewhere else (eating, potty training etc).  Take heart - no child or parent is perfect!
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  • gdangelogdangelo member
    I should also add the "No Cry Sleep Solution" is an excellent book as well.

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