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Baby Shower

abernard43abernard43 member
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My Mother-In Law has decided she wants to give me a shower, now in the city where she lives.  The first date she can get a venue is March, 2nd - my due date.  We have practically everything we need.  I politely declined her offer, however she is insisting on having one ON March 2nd.  Again,  I politely reminded her that is my due date and we have pretty much all we need at this point.  Her answer was that I did not need to be there people just wanted to support us.  I have already had a shower a month ago in the city where we live.  Since she is an hour away, even if I am not delivering then, I am not sure I want to be traveling an hour one way.  I feel I have done all I can to politely decline indicating the difficulties.  Her desire to go ahead with it anyway is bothering me.  Doesn't this make me look bad if she throws me a party, where I am the guest of honor, when there is a good chance I will not be there?  I have no idea if she plans on telling our friends that fact ahead of time.       
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Re: Baby Shower

  • Jbruce7612Jbruce7612 member
    Well it def wont be your fault if you can't make it because you're in labour! What is she thinking!???
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  • abernard43abernard43 member
    Thanks.  I felt it was selfish too.  I just did not know how to handle it.  She has the list of our friends already as in December we had talked about doing one the beginning of February.  After some preliminary planning, we had some family members fall ill and I never heard back.  We moved ahead and made sure she was invited to the other shower - which she attended.
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  • JuneMrsJuneMrs member
    Let your DH handle it! If she wants to party without you let her. You can always return the gifts for credit and use the credit to buy more diapers, bigger clothes, next stage items, etc. You cannot control other peoples chaos sometimes you just have to roll with the crazy :-)
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  • cMichelle0423cMichelle0423 member
    In my opinion, I wouldn't think this makes you look bad at all. Knowing the situation, I'd say your MIL looks annoying for throwing you a shower that A) you wont be attending and B) you don't even want.

    To avoid conflict, maybe suggest that she hosts or throws a meet the baby party a month or so after the baby is born? That way people won't feel obligated to bring gifts, and your MIL gets to have something to do.
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