My Mother-In Law has decided she wants to give me a shower, now in the city where she lives. The first date she can get a venue is March, 2nd - my due date. We have practically everything we need. I politely declined her offer, however she is insisting on having one ON March 2nd. Again, I politely reminded her that is my due date and we have pretty much all we need at this point. Her answer was that I did not need to be there people just wanted to support us. I have already had a shower a month ago in the city where we live. Since she is an hour away, even if I am not delivering then, I am not sure I want to be traveling an hour one way. I feel I have done all I can to politely decline indicating the difficulties. Her desire to go ahead with it anyway is bothering me. Doesn't this make me look bad if she throws me a party, where I am the guest of honor, when there is a good chance I will not be there? I have no idea if she plans on telling our friends that fact ahead of time.
Re: Baby Shower
2nd pregnancy -TWINS lost DD1 twin at 8 weeks 6 days DD1 born 6 weeks early
3rd pregnancy- TWINS AGAIN lost both babies at 9 week appt
4th pregnancy- singleton- born at 38 weeks 1 day with the help of weekly 17P injections
5th pregnancy- CP in June
6th pregnancy It's a BOY
To avoid conflict, maybe suggest that she hosts or throws a meet the baby party a month or so after the baby is born? That way people won't feel obligated to bring gifts, and your MIL gets to have something to do.