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bliss611
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Having a meltdown (vent)
bliss611
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We've been cooped up with the snowstorms for three days now and I'm melting down. DS simply does not listen. I don't mean doesn't do what I ask but simply ignores every question I ask, any comment I make, very selective listening and lot of rambling.
I know it's not his fault - though we don't have a real dx yet, the pragmatic speech delays are obvious and both the psychologist and the speech therapist pointed that out.
But three days of non-stop being with him, DH working late, and no other help I'm just falling apart today. I spent a good part of today yelling at him about one thing or another. And now I am just so frayed that I couldn't even yell. I just sat down on the sofa and cried for the last 10 minutes. Freaked DS out a bit.
Have the tv on babysitting him now.
There's just so much going on and I can't even get through the day anymore. Just feel like I falling apart when I can least afford to do so. On top of it, I feel like a terrible mom the way I've been with him.
How do you do it?
I know it's not his fault - though we don't have a real dx yet, the pragmatic speech delays are obvious and both the psychologist and the speech therapist pointed that out.
But three days of non-stop being with him, DH working late, and no other help I'm just falling apart today. I spent a good part of today yelling at him about one thing or another. And now I am just so frayed that I couldn't even yell. I just sat down on the sofa and cried for the last 10 minutes. Freaked DS out a bit.
Have the tv on babysitting him now.
There's just so much going on and I can't even get through the day anymore. Just feel like I falling apart when I can least afford to do so. On top of it, I feel like a terrible mom the way I've been with him.
How do you do it?
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Re: Having a meltdown (vent)
i pick my battles. our rules list is short--if it doesn't harm anyone or property i just don't battle. If my child ignores something important like we need to get dressed or were not going to be ready in time for the bus i hand over hand it. I find yelling creates bad behaviors so when i find myself losing my cool i go take a time out and try again when I'm calmer.
Can't wait for him to go to nursery school tomorrow morning. I really need those two hours!
Yes auditory processing is a an issue. I don't have many rules either. But being cooped up at home with just me makes DS go looking for trouble and doing things he very well knows not to do (throwing play doh in the toilet or spilling bottle of water all over the rug) - again and again and again. It wears patience really thin. And he gets to the point where usual discipline methods (time outs, taking away toys, etc) just doesn't work at all and that's where I lose it. I know it's ineffective and I shouldn't.
I really do need to work on my talking methods with him now that I am aware of his issues. So thanks for those tips auntie.
Taking him anywhere is difficult because of his anxiety issues. the only gym close that has open play hours, he reacts badly to it because we did a class there last year and for some reason halfway through the semester he decided he hated it. And new places in general are a challenge.
Thanks again