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Support person during C/S

MarineWife6713MarineWife6713 member
in February 2014 Moms
Just needing opinions from others...
I will be having a rcs in about 2 weeks. We still do not know if DH will be allowed to take his leave in time or not.
Of course if he is home in time, he will be the one in the OR when our son is born
IF he is not able to make it, I plan to be alone as I was with DS. I did it before, can do it again. And i dont feel it fair for someone else to stand in his place if he cant.
The family IS NOT understanding this. My mil, sil, my own mother as well as my fathers girlfriend (yes, his damn gf) have all said "If he isnt home you know I'll be in with you"
-__- they are becoming very pushy about who will be where, how they (mil/sil) will TAKE the baby off my hands for a day or so if I need it. Are you kidding me?!? No. No no no.
And no one is listenin, let alone asking, what it is that I (we) would like. I feel run the hell over.
Any suggestions on how to nicely word it so i dont hurt anyones feelings? Im about to scream just leave me aloneeee. But i know thats not ideal.
Sorry for the long vent.
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  • notreal2notreal2 member

    I have read in other places nurses have told people they will be the bad guy so the moms don't have to, enlist the nurses to tell your pushy family that NO ONE will be coming in with you.  Then recover.  As long as someone you trust is taking care of your DS and will follow your wishes about visitation, I would just stand firm and trust the nurses will keep everyone out.  It's an operating room, so it will naturally be restricted anyway.


     

     

     

     

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  • slwprincessslwprincess member
    If you don't want them in the OR, ok that's easy. Just tell the nurses and they will handle it. Personally, I would want someone designated to go WITH the baby to NICU in case of emergency. But afterwards, yes, i do think you need help so don't push them away completely. Line up help for your older child... But also make sure someone is there to help take care of YOU. I overdid it with my second and really regret it. This time, I'm trying to be OVER cautious and have way more help than I think I actually need.

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  • MarineWife6713MarineWife6713 member
    Haha. I like that. Ice!!!
    Thank you ladies. Hopefully DH will be home and none of this is an issue! But quite possible that he wont be there. Its a wait & see thing.
    They all know only 1 person is allowed in the OR with me, And luckily (i guess?) none of them have been around each other when they bring the subject up. They can duke it out in the waiting room for all i care. MIL is a verrrry selfish person. She told my husban he wasn't needed - he made the baby but that she & her daughter would take care of it all. Had to scoop my jaw off the floor.
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  • MissDemeanorMissDemeanor member
    MarineWife6713 said:
    Haha. I like that. Ice!!! Thank you ladies. Hopefully DH will be home and none of this is an issue! But quite possible that he wont be there. Its a wait & see thing. They all know only 1 person is allowed in the OR with me, And luckily (i guess?) none of them have been around each other when they bring the subject up. They can duke it out in the waiting room for all i care. MIL is a verrrry selfish person. She told my husban he wasn't needed - he made the baby but that she & her daughter would take care of it all. Had to scoop my jaw off the floor.
    Yikes! What did your husband say to that?
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  • MarineWife6713MarineWife6713 member
    He wasnt there :( i know he wouldve told them a biiiig F you though :)
    he has been in California since we got pregnant in June. Thats where he was stationed for schooling. I flew out for his graduation & our wedding. 9 months after the wedding night... Ta da! Levi is on his way lol. But anyways, he was home for 2wks at xmas and thats all. He has not had to deal with anything here. Thus why Im sorta struggling with how to handle it all.
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  • MarineWife6713MarineWife6713 member
    I guess if i wouldve said she told *me* my husband wasnt needed that wouldve made a bit more sense lol. Oops!
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  • ndtrojanndtrojan member
    MarineWife6713 said:
    Haha. I like that. Ice!!! Thank you ladies. Hopefully DH will be home and none of this is an issue! But quite possible that he wont be there. Its a wait & see thing. They all know only 1 person is allowed in the OR with me, And luckily (i guess?) none of them have been around each other when they bring the subject up. They can duke it out in the waiting room for all i care. MIL is a verrrry selfish person. She told my husban he wasn't needed - he made the baby but that she & her daughter would take care of it all. Had to scoop my jaw off the floor.
    In. Shock. I would have flipped out.
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  • MarineWife6713MarineWife6713 member
    Right??!!! Why the flyinf fuck would you need to take a newborn "off his mothers hands"
    Offer to watch the 3 1/2 year old, or bring a flippin cassarole! But take the baby?
    After that was said, back at the get go, it really freaked me out & i dont even want them around. SIL has baby fever, and MIL is just... Like that.
    Up side! We love to north carolina 3 weeks after birth hahA
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