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1st birthday vent/drama

kgrobotkgrobot member
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Morning! Just needed to vent...

So our LO's 1st birthday is coming up and I have no idea why my DH is freaking out about having a party at our house. He is concerned about how many people we are inviting, other people's children wrecking the house, etc. Why are birthday parties so much drama? I thought you just got a cake and some balloons, kicked everyone out after a few hours and then ran the vacuum. I am not hiring a three-ring circus and I am not buying everyone's kid matchbox cars. What's the big deal? I have other mom friends that stress out about this crap too--am I just clueless?

Also, it is annoying to me that my husband never wants to actually PLAN anything we do but boy does he have opinions about it. >:-/

grr!

I need it to be the weekend! stat!

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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    I hear ya! I hate going to parties that are over the top with Pinteresty crafty stuff, makes me feel like such a slacker. All kids need are some food and cake and balloons. Especially for a 1yr old party, they don't know the difference. DS is turning 2 this month and were just having the grandparents over for dinner and cake.
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  • skibunny59skibunny59 member

    For me DD's 1st birthday was stressful but that's because I had 40 people in my small house.

    I didn't stress with crafts and all that junk although I did make a photo banner that had a picture of DD from birth to 12 months.  I actually like doing crafts but I just don't have the time.

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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    Oh boy!  That does sound stressful!

    We didn't do a big first birthday party-- we took my parents and LO out to dinner.  This past bday (her 2nd) we took LO to the aquarium.

    Lots of my friends also majorly stress about bday parties for their LOs.  I figure I have time to do that (once she is in school?)

     

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  • jlaOKjlaOK member
    Ha.  Your DH sounds like my DH.  He freaks out every year about how much the parties cost even though we've only ever invited family.  It's not my fault that we have almost 20 people in our immediate families.

    DD turns 1 in June and I already know he's going to make a stink over my small plans.
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  • kgrobotkgrobot member
    edited February 2014


    jlaOK said:
    Ha.  Your DH sounds like my DH.  He freaks out every year about how much the parties cost even though we've only ever invited family.  It's not my fault that we have almost 20 people in our immediate families.

    DD turns 1 in June and I already know he's going to make a stink over my small plans.
    Oh, yeah, I can't imagine I'm not going to hear about how much we're spending later, even though I am literally just providing cake and punch. Except he also suggested that we have two parties, one for friends/daycare buddies and one for family, to which I responded, "I am not doing TWO parties." That makes no sense!
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  • mlee116mlee116 member
    We did hamburgers, hotdogs (plus cake and ice cream), invited our close family and friends and put up a banner for DS's first birthday and it was still too much.  Although, I did make his cake and that turned out to be a huge pain.  I was exhausted by the end of it.  

    This year we're doing snacks and cake with just a few people.  I've gone to some pretty fancy birthday parties for kids and I don't get it either.  I don't see why a child needs a blowout every year.  Also, a lot of people try to top what they did the year before and before you know it, you're on My Super Sweet 16 giving a Mercedes to a 16 year old.
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    We do small family parties. First big party was for DS turning 4, and I outsourced it all to a bouncy place.
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  • ebp913ebp913 member
    My oldest's 1st was at our house and I went overboard, not like Pinterest crazy but we had too much food, I rented tables and chairs, we paid our cleaning lady to come an extra time, etc.  This year, we are going to the Little Gym, bringing a cake and calling it a day.  I wish now looking back that we just did nothing but I feel like I can't do that to my son since my daughter got the first birthday thing.  I know he won't know but I just feel bad.  I plan to scale back bigtime til they are old enough to really care.  My daughter's 2nd bday was simple and easy even though we had it at a local gym.  We invited a few friends and called it a day.  It took about 2 hours of planning and errands and we were done.  I'll happily pay for convenience!
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