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vent... how rude

sweet*18sweet*18 member
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I'm 40w4d today and we were supposed to go to the Justin Timberlake concert this weekend. It's a drive just under an hour from our house and close to the hospital I will deliver.

I gave my SIL the tickets last weekend (free tickets, didn't charge her for them) saying "if I have the baby before the concert you can have these but if not I still want to go with DH".. well here I am still pregnant and instead of offering the tickets back she is rubbing it in that she's going and she couldn't find anyone to go with her so she asked my MIL... I'm pissed about this because I told her she could use them if I had the baby but wanted them back if I was still pregnant.

This also makes me mad because my dad, mom, sister, aunts and uncles are all out of town so if I go in to labor we have no one to watch the kids (MIL was going to watch kids while we went to concert). We do have friends that have offered in the past but they are also going to the concert.

So am I being ridiculous that I am upset that she won't give them back? Or am I legit in being upset? Grr I better have this baby before the concert so I'm not so upset about her keeping tickets.
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  • dunvillesdunvilles member
    You are past your due date... why did you buy the tickets in the first place knowing you would be this close to labor or delivery??
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  • sweet*18sweet*18 member
    I did say she could have them if I had the baby before but I wanted them back if I was still pregnant.

    I won these tickets and could have easily sold them before the concert for a good price. I also went in to PTL at 34 weeks and was told I would be very lucky to make it to 37 weeks by 3 doctors.. well I must be very very lucky since I'm overdue.

    I know I'm having a pity party and I should just get over it but she could at least stop rubbing it in my face.
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    bribbon said:

    sweet*18 said:

    I did say she could have them if I had the baby before but I wanted them back if I was still pregnant.

    I won these tickets and could have easily sold them before the concert for a good price. I also went in to PTL at 34 weeks and was told I would be very lucky to make it to 37 weeks by 3 doctors.. well I must be very very lucky since I'm overdue.

    I know I'm having a pity party and I should just get over it but she could at least stop rubbing it in my face.

    What did she say when you reminded her of this?
    Her response was a quick. "I'm so excited to go, he's going to be so good in concert" and walked away. I guess I'm just upset that she knew when I gave her the tickets that I wanted them back if I was still pregnant.

    I'm scheduled to be induced on Monday and I am trying all the OWT (NOT castor oil or anything like that) to avoid It and nothing, not one vonyt. I was hoping if I went to concert, I could dance the baby out (my hips, legs and back ache but I still want to go)..

    You ladies are right, I'm being ridiculous but I'm a hormonal, emotional roller coaster. That's why I love this board, willing to call out my ridiculous behavior. I will just suck it up and listen to his cds instead and have a dance party with DD and DS :-)
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  • cksmith29cksmith29 member
    Yeah, I probably wouldn't have physically given her the tickets in the first place.  You should have just told her they were hers if you had the baby.  I'm sure she conveniently forgot. 

    As other PPs have said, I can't believe you would actually want to go this late in the game?  A loud, crowded concert sounds like torture right now. 
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  • littlepig2littlepig2 member
    if I knew there was a possibility that I could still go to the concert, I wouldn't have actually given her the tickets.
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  • sprashleysprashley member
    Hopefully she will at least bring you back a t-shirt or something.  Granted, probably not a lock of his hair... but...something.
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  • shellbell3845shellbell3845 member
    I'm sorry you're upset, but I can't imagine going to a concert at this point and I'm only 37+2 weeks. I want to see a movie this weekend, but I told DH we had to get there early so we didn't have to wait in line. Maybe you can see him next time!
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  • MissDemeanorMissDemeanor member
    I agree with pp that you shouldn't have physically given up the tickets, and that the concert probably would have been hard on you.

    But I'm giving you a pity party pass anyway. Your SIL rubbing it in isn't cool. And not getting to go to something you were looking forward to sucks. And sitting around waiting to go into labour sucks. You deserve to ugly cry. My highly unattractive siggy pic is me crying in the shower, because I didn't get to go out to a dinner I was looking forward to. Disappointment while pregnant can feel like the end of the world, even when rationally you know better.
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  • noconalovenoconalove member
    I went to the JT concert at 35 weeks and was wishing I was home the whole time! It started 2 hours late and went wayyy later than I would have liked. It was too loud and I swear the baby was not happy, he was kicking the entire time. I was so upset/anxious I didn't enjoy the first half and spent most of the concert in the quiet bathroom. Plus, there are a ton of drunk women there and you will get all kinds of comments. 

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  • jpoindahousejpoindahouse member
    edited February 2014

    I agree that you shouldn't have physically have given her the tickets, but based on your post you did make it clear that the tickets were only to be used by her if you had given birth and that you wanted to use the tickets if you were still pregnant. The fact that she is now using the tickets against your wishes is a little upsetting. Perhaps she misunderstood you when you gave her the tickets? Perhaps she thought that you were just straight up gifting her with the tickets?

    What really disturbs me about the whole situation is that you, your sister in law, and your mother in law all like Justin Timberlake. I mean...it's Justin Timberlake. Doesn't he have some ridiculous song about riding around in a space coupe? I know you can do better, OP.  :P

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  • noconalovenoconalove member
    Plus, those tickets are EXPENSIVE! I could think of a way better way to spend $250

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