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Chapter79 · February 2014

Anyone got an UO today?

Shabutie · February 2014

I hate minivans. And SUVs. I will never ever give up my muscle car for children. It was my first baby

Chapter79 · February 2014

Shabutie said:

I hate minivans. And SUVs. I will never ever give up my muscle car for children. It was my first baby

I kind of agree. We will never own either. Plus I don't necessarily see the need when we have one kiddo. We have plenty of room in our sedan.

I think Valentine's Day is cheesy. I think it puts pressure on spouses that shouldn't be there. I would MUCH rather receive a small "gift" on a random day of the week/year to show H's love... verses on a day where he feels pressured to do so because he "should" and everyone else is. That's not a gift of love.

We prefer to focus it on DD. I'll make her a little heart dessert and give her a book with a little chocolate candy

Tink112011 · February 2014

The outrage over the SuperBowl Coke commercial just makes me furious. I have family members on FB who got all snotty about it and it makes me want to say something that I know I would regret. I want to punch people who are intolerant of those different than them. I'm normally a "see both sides of the argument" type of person, but no one will ever convince me that speaking English should be expected by everyone living in this country.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

Shabutie said:

I hate minivans. And SUVs. I will never ever give up my muscle car for children. It was my first baby

I drive a jeep. But I maybe drooled at a mini van the other day at walmart. One click and all the doors opened and closed.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

Chapter79 · February 2014

JackoftheBox said:

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

It's odd to give a gift for both, you mean? I've never in my life heard of this! I would always give a gift for both bridal and wedding, those are two separate things to me. My brothers wedding is coming up in May, bridal shower end of March. I'll give something at the shower, and then a wedding gift. Is that what you mean? That's necessary to me, especially close family. I didn't know it was a "thing" not to give for both, honestly!

Tink112011 · February 2014

On the topic of gift giving and weddings, I loathe gift registries. It ruins the whole point of gift giving, in my opinion. Gifts should be thoughtful. If you don't know what to get someone, give them money. Better yet, no one should ever feel obligated to give a gift.

Chapter79 · February 2014

Tink112011 said:

On the topic of gift giving and weddings, I loathe gift registries. It ruins the whole point of gift giving, in my opinion. Gifts should be thoughtful. If you don't know what to get someone, give them money. Better yet, no one should ever feel obligated to give a gift.

Agree, never obligated. I would rather someone come to my wedding empty handed, rather than stay home thinking they should because they can't afford a gift. I'd hate that. Above- I was referring to if you actually plan to do gifts and have the money.. I've just never heard of giving for shower and not wedding. If anything, I would prefer to give to wedding over shower. That's bigger to me. I also bet some differences in that vary by regions and people. Things are just done differently in places.

And I like registries

I did one for wedding and baby. I loved getting things I actually picked and needed. I have a feeling if registries didn't exist, people would get a LOT of things they don't need, want or like.

Chapter79 · February 2014

OhBenji said:

JackoftheBox said:

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

I find it odd and gift grabby. We always bring one gift and that's it.

Huh, color me informed! I wonder if this is a regional thing?
That's not gift grabby to me.. here, it's 210% normal

JackoftheBox · February 2014

Chapter79 said: OhBenji said: JackoftheBox said: I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!
I find it odd and gift grabby. We always bring one gift and that's it. Huh, color me informed! I wonder if this is a regional thing?
That's not gift grabby to me.. here, it's 210% normal

Just to clarify, I think she means gift grabby to the recipient to expect two gifts.

This MUST be a regional thing. You are not alone @chapter79 several ladies on parenting do this as well. 'Round these parts LOL bring one and your done. I always thought that was the whole point of the shower.

And BTW THANK YOU SO FREAKING MUCH for agreeing to disagree and letting it be. Everyone can do their own thing

I will not think less of you if you give two gifts!

JackoftheBox · February 2014

HMM that quote box turned out weird... ^^^

JackoftheBox · February 2014

Tink112011 said:

On the topic of gift giving and weddings, I loathe gift registries. It ruins the whole point of gift giving, in my opinion. Gifts should be thoughtful. If you don't know what to get someone, give them money. Better yet, no one should ever feel obligated to give a gift.

I like a gift registry!! How the hell are you suppose to know what they want/need? I like to give a gift rather than money. I do agree that if you would like to stray from the registry that should be perfectly acceptable.

And I 200% agree with the bolded!

PB102012 · February 2014

Shabutie said:

I hate minivans. And SUVs. I will never ever give up my muscle car for children. It was my first baby

I hate mini vans as well.... but SUV's I am all for!

I have an Acura TSX right now, but next year we are upgrading me to a MDX, and giving my car to my husband to use for a commuter.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

I hate gym lunks. Yes you work out a ton, yes you look great and know how to use every machine in here. Keep it to yourself. Wear CLOTHES that cover your body. I am just trying to tone things up. After you grow a human being and have it cut out of your abdomen then come talk to me.....

Tink112011 · February 2014

JackoftheBox said:

Tink112011 said:

On the topic of gift giving and weddings, I loathe gift registries. It ruins the whole point of gift giving, in my opinion. Gifts should be thoughtful. If you don't know what to get someone, give them money. Better yet, no one should ever feel obligated to give a gift.

I like a gift registry!! How the hell are you suppose to know what they want/need? I like to give a gift rather than money. I do agree that if you would like to stray from the registry that should be perfectly acceptable.

And I 200% agree with the bolded!

I think I just feel that gift-giving in our materialistic culture has gone too far. Gift registries make it too routine, too transactional. It's not as special when someone buys the bath towels that you picked out yourself. But I'm also anti-crap, so I suppose it IS better than getting a ton of stuff you dont/want need. Anyone ever see the "Story of Stuff?"

https://storyofstuff.org/

Chapter79 · February 2014

JackoftheBox said:

Chapter79 said:

OhBenji said:

JackoftheBox said:

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

I find it odd and gift grabby. We always bring one gift and that's it.

Huh, color me informed! I wonder if this is a regional thing?
That's not gift grabby to me.. here, it's 210% normal

Just to clarify, I think she means gift grabby to the recipient to expect two gifts.

This MUST be a regional thing. You are not alone @chapter79 several ladies on parenting do this as well. 'Round these parts LOL bring one and your done. I always thought that was the whole point of the shower.

And BTW THANK YOU SO FREAKING MUCH for agreeing to disagree and letting it be. Everyone can do their own thing

I will not think less of you if you give two gifts!

that was the weirdest quote box ever, haha!!
I actually really love that about this board. I think we've done super well about "disagreeing" in a really civil way. NO ONE will ever agree 100% of the time. We are all different people, raised different, different regional areas and different minds. If we all agreed, it would be a BORING world. There's NOTHING wrong with doing things differently. It's normal. And debating can be healthy. It's all how you handle and do it. I never judge others for doing things differently, and it really grates on my nerves when people do.
I like when stuff like this is discussed... I like being informed. And while I will always do a gift for both

It's interesting to see that others do different.

Chapter79 · February 2014

Omg wtf is up with the weird quote boxes!

amie444 · February 2014

I give both a shower gift and a wedding gift.

But what I hate?

People who bring gifts to the wedding. Send that ahead of time! The bride and groom don't open them at the reception most of the time. And then they have to make arrangements to get the gifts from the reception to their home. It is hard when the couple is leaving on their honeymoon from the reception.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

It was fun getting random packages at my door before our wedding!!

I agree @amie444

cedenton · February 2014

jkep5909 said:

I FUCKING hate nap time!

@jkep909 Does not compute.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

Yea @jekep909 I think you are broken. Nap time is my favorite time of the day

eyenigh · February 2014

BostonKisses2 said:

We usually don't give wedding gifts anymore, or at least something for them to "take home." 9 times out of 10 MH is playing for the wedding, and he doesn't charge the couple and makes that their gift instead. Around here, people usually give a gift for both the shower and the wedding (if they were invited to both), but I know some people who only give a gift for the shower.

I don't have a UO today because I'm boring.

I'm a giver of services, too. I'm a freelance graphic designer (I really only do favors anymore because my full-time job is way too full-time) so if I like the couple, I end up offering to do shower invites for free or wedding invites (sometimes at cost rather than free depending on what they want because paper can get EXPENSIVE). If I was smart, I would just give them $100 and keep my mouth shut because it usually ends up being at least a $500-$1000 gift if I actually were to bill for it. Honestly, the main reason I do them sometimes is because I hate when people have terrible invitations-- I can't help but critique and then I feel bad that I didn't offer help.

Chapter79 · February 2014

OhBenji said:

This might not be an UO but why the f are the Winter Olympics being held in Russia? They hate us.
I am scared for all the athletes.

Because the Olympic committee is garbage.
I'm worried for the athletes, their families, the reporters covering the games, etc. I'm super excited for the Olympics and can't wait, and I just hope everyone remains safe.

tifdaski84 · February 2014

MissPeansMama said:

Chapter79 said:

JackoftheBox said:

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

It's odd to give a gift for both, you mean? I've never in my life heard of this! I would always give a gift for both bridal and wedding, those are two separate things to me. My brothers wedding is coming up in May, bridal shower end of March. I'll give something at the shower, and then a wedding gift. Is that what you mean? That's necessary to me, especially close family. I didn't know it was a "thing" not to give for both, honestly!

I agree with @Chapter79. I can't imagine not giving a gift for the shower and wedding. I've never heard of such a thing. Where I'm from a gift for both is the norm. Although we usually do a gift for the shower and money for the wedding. The way I've always heard it explained is the shower gift is something the couple needs for the house (small appliances, towels, decoration, thing like that) and the monetary gift at the wedding should be used for the honeymoon.

I'm also in the camp of gifts for both the shower and the wedding. I thought that was the norm. With that said, I specifically asked for no one to throw me a bridal shower so that people wouldn't buy me two gifts. I didn't want to be the receiver of two gifts but I'll give them. I usually do an actual gift for the shower and then a money or gift card for the wedding.

KatieB19 · February 2014

Chapter79 said:

OhBenji said:

JackoftheBox said:

I don't deem it necessary to bring a gift to a wedding if you already gave one at the bridal shower. This was a topic on parenting this week. Apparently it is the norm for everyone else, but I think it's odd... To each their own!

I find it odd and gift grabby. We always bring one gift and that's it.

Huh, color me informed! I wonder if this is a regional thing?
That's not gift grabby to me.. here, it's 210% normal

I'm in the two parties, two gifts camp also. Although I tend to do a check for the wedding. The bridal shower is like a party, of course you bring a gift. And the wedding... weddings are expensive! Free food and open bar? Least I can do is give a gift.

And registries are life savers. Cus that's what I would want to do when newly married, return or exchange every duplicate or unwanted item.

Now engagement parties? Ok that I think is gift grabby. Send a freaking announcement if you want to tell people.

kristennd · February 2014

Hopefully I don't cram too many opinions into one post.

I love gift registries. Not just because I want to know what they actually need/want but especially because then you don't have to worry about people getting duplicates. Especially when most is now coming from mail order, so what a pain to exchange. But I was also raised that cash is an uncaring gift, so that really colors things.

We do have an ongoing Amazon wish list for LO but that's because all the family is very far away and they want us to keep suggestions up there. They know we're always keeping track of what's developmentally appropriate for him at any given time, what's the right size of clothing, etc. And, again, what he already owns. We'd certainly never mention it in the context of a local birthday party though.

I was once invited to a bridal shower but not to the wedding. But the wedding invitations didn't go out until after the shower was held. I thought that was tacky and gift grabby.

KatieB19 · February 2014

kristennd said:
I was once invited to a bridal shower but not to the wedding.

WOW.

kristennd · February 2014

KatieB19 said:

I was once invited to a bridal shower but not to the wedding.
WOW.

It was a coworker. She invited all the women in the office to the shower but then only some to the wedding.

tifdaski84 · February 2014

kristennd said:

KatieB19 said:

I was once invited to a bridal shower but not to the wedding.
WOW.

It was a coworker. She invited all the women in the office to the shower but then only some to the wedding.

Now, THAT's gift grabby. Yikes.

JackoftheBox · February 2014

M&MHaveMyHeart said:

OhBenji said:

What you guys give 2 gifts? I don't so we should really argue about this!!!

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