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Frustrated-preschool behaviors, vent

mommytoconnormommytoconnor member
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My son is 3.5 and has SPD, speech delay, and poss ADHD. He has been in preschool thru school district now for about 5 months and doing really well. Over the last few weeks, I have been getting very frustrating reports. His teacher is great about keeping me in the loop about things. For example yesterday he did amazing and got star of the day, he shared, was polite, took turns, etc and no yelling at others. So great to hear, then today I get report that he had a really rough day, he was not wanting to share, was yelling at teachers and even others that he normally doesn't do this with, wasn't taking turns well, had to miss circle time because he was yelling. His teacher thinks it's something she is doing or not doing but can't figure it out. When he started she did a lot of sensory things right at the beginning of class and throughout the morning, which really helped, then she backed off saying he didn't act like he needed it. I explained to her that this is why we do these things, to prevent them for having an outburst. So she started to do a few of these things again, but obviously something is missing or going on. I have had this several times where one day he gets star of the day and the next it's a bad day. He goes to daycare after preschool and seems to do fine, teacher always says he has a good day. I have made plans to go in on Thursday to preschool to observe what is going on, but I am super frustrated about this back and forth behaviors. Don't know what to think. He really thrives at school and does great but struggles some days.  Anyone else have this happen with one great day and then next horrible? Am I making more of this that I should? Is this a somewhat normal thing for these SPD kiddos?TIA.
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  • joshsmandyjoshsmandy member
    From my experience with my son it's normal. I would ask her to pay close attention to what she does on his good days and try to use that as a starting point to help figure out what is lacking on his bad days, or even if you are able go observe for a week and see what pointers you notice and can point out that she may be over looking... It may be something minute that we may consider insignificant. Good luck.
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  • funchickenfunchicken member
    I was wondering if it could be weather-related, too. DD2 is NT, and she's been a little off at school this month because their routine has been so off, and they've had so many snow days. On the days they are there, it's often been too cold to play outside. Yesterday I was talking to a bunch of the teachers in the hall, and they were ecstatic that it was finally warm enough to take the kids outside.
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  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member
    -auntie- said:
    A couple of thoughts-

    1. Are the sensory things included in his IEP? 

    If they are, she doesn't get to make the call on whether she does them or not. 

    2. If she believes they're not needed, and you aren't going to "fix" SPD in 5 months because that's just silly, then she'd meet with the CSE/CST to come up with a plan to fade over time while collecting data. She wouldn't go cold turkey, she drop  time spent on sensory in some way- perhaps shorten the sessions or give one less opportunity for sensory work daily.

    3. The business of pulling a service that works doesn't sound like the MO of a seasoned sped teacher. If Connor was failing math because he couldn't read the board, and then caught up because he got glasses, would you take the glasses away once he caught up because he didn't seem to need them anymore? Hell no.

    4. It could be your DS has lost his trust in this woman- she hasn't been consistent and he may feel on some visceral level that she has failed him.

    5. It could be garden variety third quarter school fatigue- a lot of kids and many teacher seem to lose their mojo around the 100th day of school.

    6. It could be weather related; do they generally get out on the playground daily and now aren't because of weather? DS's 2nd grade teacher had a miserable 3rd tri  and wasn't up to wrangling kids on the playground, so she pulled recess almost daily. It sort of pissed me off, her class was all of 8 kids and she had a co-teacher. Once she delivered and the co-teacher took over they were back to recess and even walking to the town's library and things got better.



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