Parenting advise

leesa031906 · February 2014

My daughter is 15 months old& she's been throwing temper tantrums & recently she started to bang her head on the floor when she gears mad. If I am holding her and she gets mad, she tries to head bunt me. I am not sure how to stop this behavior.

kalette · February 2014

DD used to do that a lot. For the most part I just ignored it. It was pretty self correcting, because it hurt. Now she will do it, but only on a soft surface, and nit neatly as often since she has words.

Beth.1212 · February 2014

I've heard that you can insist she do it on a soft surface like a bean bag, and then just ignore it. I hear it can be a bid for attention.

emberlee3 · February 2014

Put her down so she can't head butt you. At DD's 15 month appt, she threw a hilarious tantrum where she carefully lowered herself onto the tile floor, and gently flailed around while checking for my reaction. She's a drama queen.

cedenton · February 2014

https://youtu.be/ZI0ae4MHutE

Beth.1212 · February 2014

cedenton said:

https://youtu.be/ZI0ae4MHutE

Is it wrong that I am LMAO at this? Our children are turning into a bunch of manipulators!

cedenton · February 2014

Beth.1212 said:

cedenton said:

https://youtu.be/ZI0ae4MHutE

Is it wrong that I am LMAO at this? Our children are turning into a bunch of manipulators!

Nope. I watch this every time I need a pick me up. It's friggin hilarious.

sunnyday016 · February 2014

I ignore tantrums. I would stop picking her up.

colemangal85 · February 2014

I actually just posted something similar to this - he will bang his head pretty hard. Should I just assume that he will only go so hard before he really causes damage?

smileybabyboy · February 2014

cedenton said:

https://youtu.be/ZI0ae4MHutE

That's hysterical!

momofmanyinthemitten · February 2014

I was ignoring DD's tantrums for a while until a read a book about positive parenting. They recommended holding LO tightly and letting them know that you love her and can't let her hurt herself or you. Once I started doing this, the tantrums were less and less frequent and much shorter.

jllmb79 · February 2014

kielpinskim do you remember the name of the book?

momofmanyinthemitten · February 2014

It was one of the books from the amazon book list on the play at home mom blog. All of their recommended parenting books have been amazing.

traveltheworld · February 2014

theresat858 said:

kielpinskim said:

I was ignoring DD's tantrums for a while until a read a book about positive parenting. They recommended holding LO tightly and letting them know that you love her and can't let her hurt herself or you. Once I started doing this, the tantrums were less and less frequent and much shorter.

I think this depends on the kid. I started out trying to hold LO through her tantrums, but it made them worse. For her, ignoring them makes them stop much faster. However, preventing tantrums with the techniques of HToTB has helped a lot as well. (talking to child at their level, acknowledging their feelings about something -- like "I know you want to play with the outlet. But mommy says no. You are mad. You want to play with the outlet. But it's not safe. I'm sorry honey.")

I agree it totally depends on the child. We tried to hold DS and he hated it. He also hated the Happiest Toddler On the Block method (especially the mirroring his emotions part). What works for us is this: we get down to his level, hold him so that we can look in his eyes and say (very calmly) "mommy knows you are upset because ______, but let's try to calm down and count to 10 together", then we let him go and very softly count to 10 slowly. Half of the time DS would stop screaming so that he can hear us (since we are using a soft voice). If he stops, we praise him and give him lots of hugs and kisses and make a big deal of him being able to calm down. If we get to 10 and he is still screaming, we walk away. We make sure he is on a soft surface.

kderham · February 2014

My son was doing this too and it drove me insane. I really wasn't worried about him hurting himself - it seems pretty self-correcting to me - but I was struggling to deal with it. We started doing Love and Logic Magic. Its hard the first week or two but it works great once they get the hang of it! All I have to say now is "That's so sad" and he stops what he is doing and moves on to something else. We haven't had a tantrum in well over two months! I highly recommend it!

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