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Hi ladies!!!
So sorry to be intro ing here but I have been lurking for a few months and you ladies seem like a wonderful bunch! I have been silently rooting for you all! About me: 31 years old and husband is 44. I have a 2 year old daughter and 3 step children. Step kids are great but they are older and we only see them ever other weekend unfortunately. When trying for number 2 (number 1 just took a round of clomid) I had 3 chemical pregnancies. Went to RE because of the losses and found I have .33 AMH. Now I've had 3 failed iui's (one being and injectables cycle) also have found husbands sperm is not the best. Had 1 decent post wash count and the other 2 were pretty low.

So my question is we are limited on funds and pay oop. Our chances for IVF are not good and it is crazy expensive anyway. I am ready to do donor embryo. I feel like it is a beautiful option for us and would be the best chance of success. My husband feels we are giving up
To soon on our own. I'm worried that if we do more injectable iui's it won't work them we will be out of money and can't do embryo donation. What would you do? Would love your thoughts.
Thanks for reading my book!!! Will be thinking good thoughts for you all!
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Re: Intro and advice please!! (Warning:child mentioned and stupid ticker I can't get rid of)

  • 2MamazInSeattle2MamazInSeattle member
    Hi!

    First, I am sorry for your losses C/p's suck and three of them...well that sucks more.

    I think donor embryo sounds like a great path. However, my advice is that you both need to be ready and all onboard. It sounds like DH isn't quite there yet. Perhaps a talk with him on at what point he would feel ready (after 2 more IUIs, only after IVF...etc.) - and see what agreements/compromises you can reach.

    Going a TPR route is a big decision, but can and is ideally a really joyful one once you make the leap. If you both aren't "leaping" together it can be a lot tougher.

    One last thought - money is a big deal, though often there is a way. We will plunk down $25K for a car and pay it off over several years; you can do that with IVF too. Home equity loans work too. Etc. Just ideas but wanted to toss it out there.

    Nice to meet you, and good luck!!
    Lil'mamaz was born on Aug 21, 2014! She's PERFECT!

    It's been a long road to here...
    Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
    June'12 - First RE Visit
    Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
    Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
    Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
    Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
    Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect. :(
    Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
    Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
    Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
    Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
    EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
    Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
    We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle


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