One of those days

MrsC430 · February 2014

Hope it's okay if I vent. DH's cousin had a baby last week, and it's all we've been hearing about. My MIL and DH's aunt text/e-mail me pictures and updates literally every day (as though I don't already see them all over Facebook). His whole family knows we're dealing with IF. Part of me thinks they're being insensitive, the other part thinks they honestly don't know any better. I felt like if I spoke up about it bothering me, I'd look like a miserable witch.

Anyway - DH & I went to dinner last night. My MIL sent another text update while we were eating, and my frustration boiled over. I started crying in the middle of dinner and basically told him that his family sucks. Sigh. Who does that? DH just looked at me like I've lost my mind. This process has turned me into this jealous, bitter person that I can't stand. To add to my funk, my meds arrived for our next FET yesterday. Seeing the box made me want to cringe. I don't feel hopeful or excited anymore. I feel as though we're just going through the motions at this point. Is that awful?

What do you ladies do when you're in a funk? Planning on a little retail therapy today. Any other ideas would be much appreciated

sorrellam30 · February 2014

I was going to suggest retail therapy! Honestly I'd find a way to diplomatically let your MIL know that even though you're happy for them the constant updates are upsetting you. She can tell the aunt. They have zero reason to be offended and should completely understand.

beachy6 · February 2014

I'm so sorry. Insensitive family does suck. I agree 100%. My SIL is pregnant and I just plain told my DH that he needed to tell his parents that I (actually it bothers him, too) cannot sit and talk about her pregnancy. Just can't. I tell DH that his family sucks all the time, but he understands that I only mean about infertility stuff. Other than that, they're just weird

The cure for 'the funk' really is retail therapy! Since I have to be careful what I buy because we're saving for another cycle, I even enjoy grocery shopping. Sick. I know. And, if I'm really desperate, I go online to a store that I love and fill my shopping cart with TONS of stuff. I don't really buy it, but for some weird reason, it makes me feel better. And, I eat potato chips. By the bag full.

kflynn81 · February 2014

beachy6 said:

I'm so sorry. Insensitive family does suck. I agree 100%. My SIL is pregnant and I just plain told my DH that he needed to tell his parents that I (actually it bothers him, too) cannot sit and talk about her pregnancy. Just can't. I tell DH that his family sucks all the time, but he understands that I only mean about infertility stuff. Other than that, they're just weird
The cure for 'the funk' really is retail therapy! Since I have to be careful what I buy because we're saving for another cycle, I even enjoy grocery shopping. Sick. I know. And, if I'm really desperate, I go online to a store that I love and fill my shopping cart with TONS of stuff. I don't really buy it, but for some weird reason, it makes me feel better. And, I eat potato chips. By the bag full.

Me too, me too, me too!!! I told my doctor the weather was bumming me out because I couldnt grocery shop....no seriously, I'm in withdrawal!!! LOL

kflynn81 · February 2014

Can your DH say something politely to them? I know a few times we've had some similar issues and DH has just pretty much said, please cool it to them and that seemed to help.

As for funk... yes I like to shop for anything that helps. I love couponing!!! so Sundays are fundays for me when the paper comes in

zazu13 · February 2014

sorrellam30 said:

I was going to suggest retail therapy! Honestly I'd find a way to diplomatically let your MIL know that even though you're happy for them the constant updates are upsetting you. She can tell the aunt. They have zero reason to be offended and should completely understand.

^ This exactly. Your feelings are valid and important. They probably don't realize they're being insensitive. Take care!

MrsC430 · February 2014

Thank you all for the thoughtful words. I swear this board has been my saving grace!

@beachy6 Chips never fail to save the day! I'm gross and could easily kill a can of Pringles in one sitting

@kflynn81 I wish I was better at couponing!! You've inspired me to pick up the Sunday paper lol

chucktgirl · February 2014

That sucks. I would definitely ask DH to speak to his relatives and ask them to lay off flaunting the baby for a while, particularly since they know what you are going through. Most of the time people just don't know any better, or are just self-absorbed without the ability to think how things affect others. Either way, it's super annoying. Amazon is a fun place to do retail therapy for me. I also like to drink when I can. Or, even if you're not going to see a movie, stop at the theater and get a big tub of buttered popcorn. I LOVE that indulgence! Hope things get better soon!

PrettyAccountant · February 2014

I'm sorry. It hurts and it sucks. No matter how happy you are for them, you are sad for you and there is nothing wrong with that. I agree with the others- have DH speak to them and explain exactly how you feel so there is no mix ups as to how they should behave. Hugs.

Km672 · February 2014

This would really annoy me beyond belief. Especially when you are out trying to enjoy yourself. I totally get not being excited, you just have to do it! I hope this is it for you lady!!

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