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August 2013 Moms
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What have you learned?
V&G101808
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Sort of a GTKY...
Since becoming a parent (or becoming a parent AGAIN for some of you)... what have you learned:
-About yourself?
-About your SO?
-About yourselves as a couple?
My baby is ONE!!
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Re: What have you learned?
About DH: Even though he is a wonderful dad, the parenting part doesn't come as natural to him.
As a couple: That we work pretty good as a team when we try. And that's it's ok to ask for help, both from each other and from outside sources.
-About yourself? I've learned to trust my instincts. I've always gone back and forth on what I thought was right, what should I do, etc. etc. but since LO came into the world I don't really teeter-totter anymore, I just *know*. It's great to finally feel like I am cut out to be a mom (lots of doubt during pregnancy).
-About your SO? I've always known that DH had a huge heart but seeing him with LO is breathtaking sometimes. He has *it*, that built in dad gene. He's amazing and can balance everything so much better than I could ever even dream of. He's simply amazing :x
-About yourselves as a couple? That we have what it takes to weather the ups & downs. We've both had our moments since LO has arrived but we've never failed to raise the other up in those times. Sometimes it takes longer than usual
but the necessary hug/kiss/backrub is always right around the corner to make the other feel better.
About H - I learned that he has more balls than I gave him credit for. He's an amazing father and husband.
About us - I've learned that we actually make a really good team. I've learned that intimacy can be so much more than sex (ie: snuggling in bed, a long hug when he gets home, passionate kisses now and again) and can be just as important and meaningful.
about myself. .I am stronger than I thought
about my husband...despite his tough guy persona, he is such a softy when it comes to the kids (in a good way)
my relationship.. it is stronger than ever and that having kids can sometimes pair you together in a small game of "survivor" when it comes to raising kids
-About yourself? That I enjoy being a mom way more than I ever could. And that sometimes you're not doomed to make the same mistakes that your own parents did.
-About your SO? I thought he would be a great father, but I had no idea he'd be this good.
-About yourselves as a couple? I need to take care of our relationship and not take him or his presence for granted. Sometimes he makes things too easy on me, and I can be quick to take my bad mood out on him. I need to care for our relationship and not just put it on auto-pilot.
It's been a challenge, but one I CAN handle. I'm learning to have more confidence in myself this time around.
I've learned my husband is the definition of grace under pressure. I found out he was an amazing husband and partner after our first child, but realized how much he can handle (crazy me, wild toddler, high maintenance newborn) with a sincere smile the whole time! If there is one of us rockin' this parenting thing...it's him not me.
I learned that it's possible to miss someone you live with these past 5 months. I never understood that until recently. I've been so consumed with my career (albeit part time, is very important to me), being a mom of two, a wife, serving on a local board, and just life in general, that I've forgotten I need to take care of myself in order to take care of "us" as well. It sounds silly but I just realized that. I am half of this relationship...and I need to prioritize myself in order to maintain and better "us" as a couple.
About SO- he likes to feel needed, but gets worn out quickly without some private time to regroup
About us- sex is more important to our relationship than I give it credit for; we have to schedule time together (even if it isn't always romantic)
DS born 9/3/13; DD born 7/22/15; LO due 5/28/18
FS (age 5) and FD (age 2) to become AS/AD very soon!
About DH - that parenting doesn't come as naturally to him but he is an amazingly patient man. He has learned very quick & I like to call him the baby whisperer.
About us - that we support each other no matter what. We are an unbeatable team and can accomplish anything we set out to do.
About SO: that he needs reassurance just as much as I do. And no matter how stressed he is, he is always there to help me out and be supportive and positive and amazing.
About us: any time spent together is great. Even if we are just hanging out at home and not doing anything. And we need to work on setting aside more alone time.