XP - Looks like we are about to have a live one.

stephcrosby09 · February 2014

Have a feeling this may get some good responses...

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12250617/working-after-giving-birth#latest

Zriseon3 · February 2014

Uh... Wow. I mean I personally have decided not to work but that is because any job I get in my field won't pay enough for daycare, DH makes enough for us, and I get to be a SAHM like I've always personally wanted. But I would never suggest anyone shouldn't have kids because they want to work. My SIL amazes me with her long hours and 3 kids. She doesn't have to work. She works because she says she likes having extra spending money for vacations and buying her boys things. If I had a job that I enjoyed I'd still work and that wouldn't keep me from having kids. Plus I am a photographer and I will ease back into working full time when I am ready.

mamamia866 · February 2014

I agree with you @zriseon3. That is very close minded of her to suggest a person shouldn't have kids just because they want to work after baby. My H would like me to stay home but for many reasons, I will be going back to work after 12 weeks. I wonder how she would like it if someone told her she's making a bad decision by not putting her child in daycare (I couldn't read the whole thread). What would she say then? Or call her selfish for not wanting to work and help provide for the family. Daycare has lots of benefits, and I hate it when others see it as "other people parenting your child." Being an only child right now, that's the only way my LO will build social skills with other kids his age. I could go on forever, but I feel a headache coming on. She is what I call an "imbecile."

nlane0723 · February 2014

Ummm she sounds like a spoiled little brat.

elliebean14 · February 2014

Wow. I just...wow. That thread will definitely provide some entertainment today. I love my job. I've gone through nine years of higher education and busted my butt to get into my field. My husband loves his job and his work is important. We planned for and love this baby, but I guess we will be bad parents since we want to work and provide for his stability, health care, education, and some fun. *headdesk*

Zriseon3 · February 2014

I have to say also that some of the comments on that thread bug me. Some called the OP and SAHMs spoiled brats. I don't agree with that at all. Ok the OP is being a brat. But I feel blessed to get to stay home, not spoiled. My situation could change at any time. I just hope that if it does I can find a steadier income that will be enough to actually have extra after paying for daycare. Because, let's be honest, my art school degree only has so many applications and not many make much money lol. So until things change or LO starts school,I will stay home. But no woman should ever be made to feel bad for going to work. And I truly admire working moms.

babylimas · February 2014

Is this debate already starting? I'm still sick of it from my first time through.

kelley72 · February 2014

it must be troll... if not ok might be entertaining, then again might give me a headache

peachy0709 · February 2014

OP would really hate me....and that's all I'm going to say on that matter.

rockopera · February 2014

Troll. Or young and bored with internet access. Or true asshat.

It just makes me a little sad when people feel like they need to justify themselves to internet assholes like this. Their minds won't change, they are just posting to rile people up and they succeed.

mhilpisch10 · February 2014

I think it's absurd that she is making it seem like pregnancies are planned to a T. Our pregnancy was in between -it wasn't planned and it wasn't an oops we were just open. Who is ever actually "totally" ready for a baby anyways? What a boob.

carrieandtim · February 2014

Unreal.

Meandthey · February 2014

She's nuts! My husband and I would love for me to Stay home but he runs his owns business an I work for the health insurance. We have a plan where we both will work an both take are of out child!! This women lives under a rock for sure

ifr8955 · February 2014

Not buying that this poster is real. But I agree with @rockopera, no one should feel the need to prove shit to internet strangers. Live your life however the hell you want to.

totalbabydoll4ever · February 2014

She's a troll! I am lucky enough in Canada to get a year off, but I am going to go back to work and I look forwards to it. I have parented my child and gone to school and worked for well over a decade, but I always make it to see firsts and ensure that I get to be part of the things my son does and have been doing it for over a decade. I plan to do this with this baby too!

KariB509 · February 2014

I couldn't help but respond to that shit. What an asshole. I saw a lot of other March mamas who had responded too!

KariB509 · February 2014

Also, I hope that bitch flags me for calling her an asshole. Should have sealed the deal and just called her a...gasp...cunt.

babylimas · February 2014

Those kind of comments just really don't bother me at all. I usually read them and feel pity that she isn't too bright.

Missfunball · February 2014

I cannot keep reading...my mind literally just blew something.

I just don't understand her post. It was judgey and didn't even ask a question, I'm going to give her the benefit and hope she's just young and needs assistance in how to phrase things....otherwise....you know....

What she should have said if she still felt obligated to post:

Missmommyxoxo

I was wondering what your stance was on being a STAHM. I personally feel that if the situation allows it, that there should be at least one STAHP - to me, its the responsible decision, especially in cases of planned pregnancies. What do you think?

PerkyErky · February 2014

Ugh. If you can and want to stay home, stay home. If you don't want to or can't then do what you gotta do. I know my kids are WAY better off not having me be a SAHM. I also loathe the comments about "someone else is raising your child"...um no, this is why I choose a daycare that I approve of and let them know my expectations (bf/ff only, cloth diapers, etc etc...I'm tired and those are the only ones that come to mind at the moment). Also does sending my kid to school to get an education mean someone else is raising them? I mean my kids will spend most of their waking hours in school once they reach school age.

And lastly who is ever truly financially ready for a kid, these little bastards (said only with love) suck bank accts dry! They are always needing some expense covered.

My kids may have two working parents but at least neither of their parents are complete douchecanoes.

lalaith50 · February 2014

There is no way that's real. Absolute MUD.

KTdid81 · February 2014

Stay at home or not, it is like she's assuming that daycares are bad places for children. I believe that many children benefit socially from being in daycare.

I want to go back to work. I love having a career. Do I feel guilty about it? Yes. Do I think I should feel guilty about it? No. But I do anyway.

stephcrosby09 · February 2014

I agree she has to be a troll. My pregnancy insomnia had me lurking and I couldn't help but post. I knew it would be a LONG day!

ndpoole · February 2014

I couldn't get past the 1st page. Ugh!

sebullows · February 2014

DH and I are both in shock! I am a teacher and make very little money. My husband is an accountant and doesn't make much himself. We will never be rich and struggle to live "comfortably". We will be hard working lower middle class for the rest of our lives and we are fine with that. If I didn't have to go back to work for the money, I wouldn't. So what she's saying is, I'm never entitled to have a baby. Ever.

crystaljoanna · February 2014

$100 says that her husband leaves her in the next five years. With such an entitled attitude and lack of compassion and perspective, I can't imagine her being married forever. She would then have to work like most women do

ring_pop · February 2014

Oh look, a one-size-fits-all parenting idea. How cute.

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