Separating twins????

Snugly Ael · February 2014

Hi Mommies,

My b/g twins would be 6 months old in 6 days. I was wondering if it's alright to separate them from our rooms (put them in one room)? Currently, my hubby and I sleep in separate rooms and each one of us have one baby. We feel that way we can get at least some sleep.

Is it a good idea to put the twins in one room? The only problem is that they both end up turning in their sleep and they cry out loud when they are on their tummy for long. I've been feeling that lately my hubby and I hardly get to spend some time and it is kinda upsetting that we both sleep in separate rooms. The twins DO NOT fall asleep on their own. We have to rock or hold or hug them to sleep. I have to start working on them sleeping in their own, but it's kinda hard with two.

Another thing is since the past one week they have been sleeping super early. They hit their sacks at around 5:30 - 6pm. They've been skipping their 4pm nap and thus end up sleeping so early. Before they used to sleep at around 7:30 or 8pm. And now as they're sleeping early they wake up early too!!!! That's around 5:30 or 6am.

I donno if I should let them sleep when they are sleepy or should I wake them up after 45 minutes i.e.give them a nap at 5:30 and then put them to bed at 8pm? When my hubby is out of town for work, I have a nanny for 2 days and one day I am all on my own.

Please advice. I know you BTDT mommies can give a lot of good advices. I'm desperate!!!

Brummy14 · February 2014

I think the short answer is - you do what works best for YOU.

We had them in the same room, and did the whole one-up-both up thing for their first year. However, we still slept in separate BRs, so one person was "on call," and the other could get some uninterrupted sleep without having to worry about monitors or whatever. That might mean waking the other up to help with feeding, but for us, having that mental "I'm not on call" break was huge.

That said, the same room set-up worked until we suspected one was ready to STTN -- then she ended up getting up more than she needed. We put them in separate rooms around their first birthday, and it's been GREAT. They BOTH now STTN, naps are a breeze and it's all that much better for everyone. We have one who is a very light sleeper, and has a lot of trouble settling back to sleep -- so the same room set-up made it hard for her to rest well, consistently. But, some people have their twins share rooms for years without any issue!

ballygirl · February 2014

My girls don't fall asleep on their own either. We have to walk around with them until they are groggy and then I rock them with a bottle and they go down. They are both in one room (almost 4 months). DH and I both sleep in there with them for now, although DH usually only gets up if I'm having trouble with one. They rarely wake up together. For awhile DH and I were doing separate rooms, each with a baby, but I found that I was waking up anyways even if the baby was in his room and we missed being together, so now all 4 of us are in one room. I think soon we will move back into our room and leave the girls alone in the nursery and just use a monitor for them. They make a lot of noise in their sleep - sometimes crying out or just making weird sounds and it wakes me up. But - they don't wake each other up. Even if one starts crying, it usually doesn't wake the other unless the other has not been asleep very long (like 10 min or less) and is not fully down yet.

TREDgirl · February 2014

Don't save the quiet one! They will learn to get used to each others noises and grunts and groans and not think anything of it. We also do one up both up and they are 16 weeks old.

They have been in their own cribs and in their room since 10 weeks and even though I have the monitor near my head at night I sleep so much better! They still wake up once during the night around 2 or 3 to eat and I do often have to wake the other one up. I tried this past weekend to let the one sleeping one continue to sleep. Sure enough 20 minutes after I put the first one back to sleep he woke up.

Good Luck!

TheDairyQueenx3 · February 2014

Mine don't fall asleep on their own and my singleton never did either. I nurse my twins to sleep and since day one they slept next to our bed and have never woke the other up. Occasionally they will "talk" to one another if one makes a noise but a minute or two later both are back asleep. Babies are noisy but you and they get used to it. I also do one up both up and nurse them at the same time. PP is right you need to do what works for you. We practice AP style parenting and for us it works wonders and have yet to be sleep deprived or any melt downs. I too am on my own a lot as DH is higher up in the Army and is gone quite a bit so I'm home alone with all my kids with 0 help but we/I have a quick easy routine and I am able to bath, dress, swaddle, feed, and put to sleep all three kiddos within an hour and a half to two hours. Then I'm able to finish some house cleaning that I wasn't able to do during the day before i go to bed myself. I made sure to keep them always on the same routine so like clock work at 10 pm they both start stirring around I nurse one final time and they are asleep for at least 4 hours and then wake one or two more times a night. Like AshB said give it a test run see how it goes I would try it for a week then if it's really not working try something else. The whole first year babies go threw all sorts of sleep wake patterns so it's not uncommon and they also hit sleep regression stages too. The first two years can be a guessing game but you just need to find what works best! GL I promise this is such a short stage and it does get much easier. It may seem like it will never end now but it does

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