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Hi, I'm new and completely overwhelmed.

Hi ladies, 

I'm new here... I miscarried in December (my first pregnancy) and just found out yesterday that I am pregnant again. I thought I'd be excited and that I was ready to do this again, but really I've just been a mess for the last 24 hours. Terrified and overwhelmed seems to be more accurate. I'm pretty sure my husband thinks I've lost my mind.

I know I'm never going to be as naively excited as I was the first time, but I guess I'm just hoping I can get to a place to be a bit more hopeful.

Looking forward to getting to know some of you :)

Re: Hi, I'm new and completely overwhelmed.

  • There's a huge mix of emotions that comes with being pgal. Wishing you a healthy and happy 9+ months. 

    Also, you might still need to do some grieving for your December baby, and that's ok. I think we all have had those moments of being reminded of the LOs we lost, while also looking forward to (FX!) bringing home our take-home babies. 

    Be gentle with yourself. It's ok to cry. Take it one day and one appointment at a time. 

    First-time mom, 35+, parenting after a loss (mmc Oct. 2012 @ 8 wks), ttc for a year after loss

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  • I completely understand what you are going through.  My anxiety is through the roof as well...I am terrified to be happy and look forward to things but dont want to be negative at the same time.  One day at a time. 

    Currently...everytime I go to the bathroom and dont see any blood, I look at that as a success.

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  • ((Hugs)) sorry you are feeling this way. As others have said it is all too common among this community. Congrats and welcome :)

    married my best friend 10/04/08, TTC since July 2012
    BFP#1 Thanksgiving 11/22/12, mo-mo twins(one sac), traditional EDD 7/27/13, EDD due to risk 6/15/13
    mmc Angel 2/7/13 @ 15w3d, mmc Aubrey 2/13/13 @ 16w2d, D&E 2/16/13

    BFP#2 9/21/13, EDD 6/2/14, DD born 5/17/14 

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    All AL always welcome in my threads!

  • Welcome and congrats. Hope you have a happy pregnancy!! :)
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    BFP 4/17/13, MC began 5/2/13 @ 6 weeks
    EDD 12/27/13
    TTC since 2/2013
    BFP#2 9/23/13 EDD 6/8/14
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  • True, being pregnant will never be the same after a loss, but I think that makes the prize all that sweeter!

    Welcome and congrats!


    Me: 37 DH: 40 TTC since 9/09
    #1 BFP 1/10/11; missed m/c discovered 7w5d
    IF Dx: Endo, hetero MTHFR mutation, poor morphology
    #1 IUI: 1/18/12 = BFN
    #1 IVF/ICSI 4/2/12 = 2 x 7-cell and 1 x 5-cell transferred (3dt) = BFP!!
    H was born at 41w2d on 12/29/12 - be still my heart!
    #2 IVF/ICSI 1/19/14 = 2 x 8 cells transferred (3dt) = BFP!! EDD 10/09/14
    M&W born at 37 weeks on 9/18/14 - I am the momma of 3 boys!!!

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  • I am so sorry you are feeling so stressed.  PgAL definitely isn't easy.  Congratulations and welcome, though.  Wishing you a very H&H 9 months!

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  • I'm sorry you're not feeling as excited right now but in time things will get better. Congrats on your BFP! 

    BFP #1 born 10/16/10

    Started TTC Dec 2012, BFP #2 05/28/13, EDD 02/06/14 MMC 06/11/13

    BFP#3 12/29/13, EDD 09/08/14

    Praying this is our blessing
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    I'm so sorry for all you've been through.

    Congrats on your +++ :) There are some great people here who will help you through the tough days & celebrate the good days. Welcome!



  • Congrats on your BFP! The ladies on this board certainly get the stress and emotions that come along with being pgal.  I am wishing you a happy and healthy nine months.  Welcome to the board!
    Married 8/4/12
    BFP #1 EDD 12/5/13, MMC
    BFP #2 EDD 4/27/14- Our rainbow arrived 5/1/14!
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  • I  know that the emotions with PGAL can be a roller coaster.  Congratulations!
    BFP 6/30/13 EDD 4/6/14 MC 8/4/13
    BFP 9/12/13 EDD 5/18/14 DS born 5/16/14
    BFP 8/16/17 EDD 5/1/17[/spoiler]
  • Welcome and congrats!

    Julius Justin - 11/07/2002 - 10 lbs 22 in 
    Isabella Genavieve - 02/03/05 - 7 lbs 11 oz 22 in 
    Arianna Kaitlynn - 04/10/2013 - 4 lbs 15 oz 15 in

    BFP 08/10/13 
    TWINS!!!! 09/01/13
    Miscarriage at 12 weeks lost baby B 
    Arianna diagnosed with an Ompalocele at 13 weeks
    Arianna our Angel on 04/10/13 
    BFP 07/20/13
    Our Rainbow due 03/18/14 

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  • Welcome and congratulations!

    Since it looks like you are new to TB, before you get too settled in, I would recommend changing your screenname so it doesn't have your email address.  The interwebz have some crazies, yo.
    Me: 36 yo, TTC #1 since Feb. 2012
    BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12

    BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until  August 2013

    IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
    IUI #2 (back-to-back, 9/12/13 and 9/13/13) Femara + Menopur, four mature follicles, BFFN
    IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN

    BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014  Please stick and grow, LO!

    Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis

    ******All AL always welcome******
  • Congrats on your BFP! I (and I think all the ladies here) completely understand what you are going through.

    Are you having your betas drawn? For me, it helped a lot and each tiny bit of positive news I got helped me. My doctor's office has been great with giving me a little extra TLC for me since I'm also coming off a recent loss. I'm still nervous as hell, but some days are better than others.

    Take care of yourself and just take it one day at a time!

    TTC Since July 2013
    BFP #1 8/8/13, EDD 4/16/14
    MMC discovered on 9/18/13 @ 10w, baby measuring 9w. D&C on 9/26/13

    BFP #2 12/7/13
    , EDD 8/12/13. It's a girl!
    Caroline Marie born 8/20/14. 8lbs 11oz, 21 inches and perfect!

  • Congrats on being here! The first weeks are so nerve-wracking. Hoping you get some peace (even though I know I was a wreck...so it's okay if you're a wreck, too. :))


    2010: son born 9/1 

    2013: 2 miscarriages + d&cs, both at 10 weeks: April & July

    2014: son #2 born 6/29

    2016: Baby girl stillborn at 21w6d 4/29 and baby boy stillborn at 20w 3d 11/16

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