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bliss611
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bliss611
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Hi everyone,
I'm just freaking out and noticed bump had a board for this so I thought I would post. I am jumping the gun a bit since I don't have a diagnosis for DS yet but I'm really getting worried it's worse than I expected.
DS has had sever separation anxiety since we tried switch from a nanny to daycare when he was 17 months old. He did not adjust well to daycare and I have been home ever since. We tried everything but couldn't get him adjusted to school or daycare set-up. Even leaving him with family for an hour or two is a production. He even gets upset at friends' birthday parties. And I really need to go back to work - financial reasons and I have a work requirement for a certification I was working on. Finally found a place I loved and we started him in nursery school last Sept. It was AWFUL but we kept thinking it was just separation anxiety and he'd adjust. He's gotten better but the director and school psych recommended an evaluation. The NYC Board of Ed does them to check for special needs.
The official meeting with a diagnosis and plan is set for later in Feb but so far the PT, OT, and the speech therapist have recommended he receive services. So I have been doing research and with his delayed gross motor skills, and delayed fine motor skills, sensitivity to loud noises, problems having a conversation, and all his social anxiety issues, I'm afraid it's Asperger's. And I'm kind of freaking out.
Not really sure there is anything to do until the meeting. Just fretting...
I'm just freaking out and noticed bump had a board for this so I thought I would post. I am jumping the gun a bit since I don't have a diagnosis for DS yet but I'm really getting worried it's worse than I expected.
DS has had sever separation anxiety since we tried switch from a nanny to daycare when he was 17 months old. He did not adjust well to daycare and I have been home ever since. We tried everything but couldn't get him adjusted to school or daycare set-up. Even leaving him with family for an hour or two is a production. He even gets upset at friends' birthday parties. And I really need to go back to work - financial reasons and I have a work requirement for a certification I was working on. Finally found a place I loved and we started him in nursery school last Sept. It was AWFUL but we kept thinking it was just separation anxiety and he'd adjust. He's gotten better but the director and school psych recommended an evaluation. The NYC Board of Ed does them to check for special needs.
The official meeting with a diagnosis and plan is set for later in Feb but so far the PT, OT, and the speech therapist have recommended he receive services. So I have been doing research and with his delayed gross motor skills, and delayed fine motor skills, sensitivity to loud noises, problems having a conversation, and all his social anxiety issues, I'm afraid it's Asperger's. And I'm kind of freaking out.
Not really sure there is anything to do until the meeting. Just fretting...
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auntie - thanks for the suggestion about a developmental pedi. I just emailed DS's pedi to ask if he knows anyone. As for why I'm thinking ASD/Aspergers and not autism - his motor delays are minor which is why his ped and I had not noticed them ourselves. DS is affectionate and social and likes being touched (hugs, kisses, snuggles) and asks to socialize with friends. From what I understand, that's not the case with autism. But he struggles with proper behavior - still doesn't understand personal space for others. He will stroke other kids' hair, give hug & kisses even when other kids resist. He definitely doesn't lack emotions.
The big distinction I've read seems to be in language development - DS language skills are right on par for his age - he has a vocabulary of 500+ words, can form 8-9 word sentences, asks for what he needs. But he has major problems having a conversation - doesn't wait for his turn to speak, doesn't follow the topic and rambles about his own thoughts, etc.
My brother in law is autistic so I've seen those symptoms and DS doesn't really have autism signs.
I am on the hunt for a daycare that could handle him with the right care. Unfortunately I would have a long commute for work so finding an affordable one with the right care, long enough hours, that actually has space available has been a challenge. One that fits the bill is an integrated school and I've been on the wait-list for over a year! An official diagnosis may open up some options though so let's see...
So glad I looked into this board! Info and support is exactly what I need right now!
Thanks again!
That is a LOT of info to take in. I didn't come across the special interest thing for Aspergers but DS doesn't really have that. He does get obsessive about one thing but that one thing he's into changes every so often. So that doesn't fit him.
Extremely confusing. I'm going to read more about all the stuff you explained and at the moment, I'm going to try & find a dev pedi and wait for the dx from the CPSE evaluation. Otherwise I'm just driving myself insane thinking about stuff.
Thanks for all the info!!!
DS has gone through space/rocketship interest and though it fades for other stuff, he always comes back to it. He also likes to watch the same things over and over again on tv - not shows but specific episodes - multiple times a day for days. But I know other kids who do that maybe slightly less so and I'm not sure where the line is between being a "normal" child and where it becomes concerning behavior.
Anyhow I'm rambling. Thanks!