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Who's your person?

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edited February 2014 in Parenting

Not to drag this story out about DH and my fighting too much, I just want to know when you get shitty news, who's your go to person? DH and I barely talk any more and we were in the middle of an argument when I get a really fucking shitty text with news of a sick family member. At the moment DH was in the basement and my BFF had just sent me a text asking what I was up to. Naturally I sent her a response and told her the shitty news. DH walked upstairs and I told him too... Fast forward to a few hours later, I dropped kids off at my moms and come home to an empty house. Call DH, no answer. Um..ok. He calls a little while later and tells me he went out ice fishing. I really don't care, but a "gone fishin' be back later" shout out would've been nice. I spent quite a while texting with a different friend while I was watching season 2 of Girls alone on my sofa. DH gets home and gets upset that he's not "my person"

He's not my person. He sucks at being "my person". I want to know who is your go to person?! DH? BFF? Mother? Sister? Brother? ...Who is the first person you think to talk to when you're upset about something?  

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  • For the most part my SO is usually my person. Sometimes it's my sister. Depends on the situation.


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  • For the most part my SO is usually my person. Sometimes it's my sister. Depends on the situation.

    right, like if you're bitchin about SO? ;) just kiddin
  • If I need to bitch about my Dh, I call my mom. Come to think of it, she usually takes Dh's side too... If I need to bitch about my ILs, I call my sister bc she has crappy ILs and can relate. Everything else, I talk to Dh about.

    I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Hugs girlie. If you ever need a person, we're here for you!
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  • LaurelBee said:
    If I need to bitch about my Dh, I call my mom. Come to think of it, she usually takes Dh's side too... If I need to bitch about my ILs, I call my sister bc she has crappy ILs and can relate. Everything else, I talk to Dh about. I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Hugs girlie. If you ever need a person, we're here for you!


    :) thank you!

    hahaha, honestly my list is BFF/Emkat (tied), thebump, other friend, mom, DH.

  • Well @Emkatrine rocks, so I can see why you'd want her as your person :)
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  • chapski said:



    For the most part my SO is usually my person. Sometimes it's my sister. Depends on the situation.


    right, like if you're bitchin about SO? ;) just kiddin

    Pretty much :)
    Sometimes I see her before him so I'll tell her about something that happened that day before him.


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  • LaurelBee said:
    Well @Emkatrine rocks, so I can see why you'd want her as your person :)

    :D so sofa king does, like big time
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  • My h is my person but I probably put too much on him sometimes. He's my rock.
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  • H is in a lot of ways. My mom and my twin brother are helpful for talking about other things. It depends on the situation I think. Usually I go to H first.
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  • H is not my person, per say. I know he isn't the best with the heavy or petty stuff, but I always tell him everything because he wants to know what's going on with me and it gives him a heads up if I'm fixin to act like an emotional fool.

    If I am in need of emotional support I go to my sister, if I need to bitch about MH I go to my bff
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  • Depending on what's going on, it varies from my Dh or my bff or my other really great friend.

    Dh is actually a great listener but sometimes he doesn't give me the exact response i want or need.

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  • If it's about DH, then my dad is my person. If it's about pretty much anything else, then DH is my person.
  • Dh isn't really my person in the greys anatomy sense. We talk about everything that goes on with each other because we love each other, but he is less of a talker than I am. For long in depth talks it's usually my bff. 
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  • DH is my person.  He was laughing the other day when we saw the Parks and Rec episode where Ann needs to vent and tells the people listening, "Do not, under any circumstances, respond to what I'm about to say or try to tell me how to fix it."  After many years, DH still struggles with this, when I just want to vent.  


    I have a work person for small work things--she and I are friends and we just pop in to chat and decompress sometimes.  

    If I have an issue with DH, I go to my work friend, my brother, or TBH, the Bump.  I would NEVER go to my mom about it since they don't have the greatest relationship and it would hurt him to know I was talking to her about him.
  • DH, mostly. Sometimes my mom about work stuff, because she'll just listen then agree with everything I say whereas DH tries to give advice, haha.


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  • It kind of depends. Sometimes my H, sometimes my mom, sometimes my sister. Probably mostly my H, though, then my mom.
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  • It is usually DH and/or my mom but neither of them is very good at the emotional support side (DH is getting better) so often times it is my internet friends.
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  • Myself?  I usually mull something over in my head for a long time until I can get a handle on my feelings.

    Sometimes I end up telling someone (in that case, H, my mom, or my BFF), sometimes I just deal with it on my own.  This can have the result of people thinking I'm secretive or emotionally detached.  I'm not, I'm just introverted.  By the time I talk to someone, I can seem aloof, because I've already been dealing with it internally for quite awhile, and I can talk about it without getting upset.  It doesn't mean I'm less sensitive.
  • DH is my person. He's the only person I know who I can vent to without having to filter anything. I also vent to him about him - he's really amazing and listens and works with me to help figure things out.

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  • I start of with my DH, not always successful. Yes, it sucks. I usually end up keeping it all in, might call a friend or distract myself.
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  • I talk to my husband about all the important things, and the significant things.  But if I can only choose one "person" my sister is my person because she has been since we were babies, and it's hard to change that.  I am also her person.  


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  • DH mostly.

    BFF and mom are also up there in the mix. 

    If it's something work related, I'll tell DH but spend more time talking to BFF about it since we work in the same profession and she can give me more relevant feedback and advice.

    But DH is almost always my first sounding board.
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  • My H is really my only one

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  • DH obviously but sometimes he is not as wired as my BFF in terms of listening to my concerns. He changes topics, and shrugs off my problems as mundane concerns. i dont feel bad anymore.

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  • I think I have several people depending on the situation. Mostly, I seek my DH. He and I have been through some shit, so he understands me on a different level than anyone.


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  • I mostly internalize things and deal with it on my own. Sometimes DH is my person. Other times my friends are. Depends on the issue.
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