I have a sensitive daycare question

KatieKim0815 · January 2014

So my kids go to DC during the day. Long story short but I was hospitalized in September with a muscle disease and that plus the pregnancy have me managing energy expenditure like crazy. Also I have weeks where I have 1 doctor's apointemnt and other weeks when I have 4.

DS1 (3.5) goes to preschool MWF and does so well there - he learns a lot and loves it! Tuesday and Thursday he joins my DS2 (1 year old) who goes to an @ home provider every day of the week.

This is hard for me because I love the person the @ home provider is. She's a wonderful woman. She lives under tough circumstances. Her S/O isn't supportive at all and just not the right guy for her. He's never home when my kids are there (he's perfectly nice even if he were there) but I know there's tension between the two. She has about 5 kids there during the day one of whom is her own. And the way she speaks to the kids (mostly the older ones) isn't the way DH and I do. Mind you DH and I use a lot of patience with the kids, we rarely yell and if we have an impatient moment we explain why to our kids. She sort of just yells and says "COME ON GUYS. Move it!" Etc etc. Just very impatient and no filter. (No swearing or anything).

However it makes DH and I cringe. We wonder what effect it has on our kids really. We've been with her for years but now I'm wondering...should we take hte kids out and move them? I feel guilt doing this because she is a good person and I just don't know where to draw the line.

Sorry about the word vomit.

Linnea503 · January 2014

I'd be really uncomfortable with that. I work so hard at helping DS talk nicely that it would bother me. The domestic tension would concern me too.

zbeesma86 · January 2014

sounds like you want to move them. I would. make you and DH happy. and no more worrying.

cmrand4 · January 2014

I would listen to your gut and move them.

bumpuser924057 · January 2014

I'm switching my kid's preschool for a similar reason - among other things, I don't like how his teacher talks to the kids. She's too flustered and too impatient, and I send him to school so he can get AWAY from my flustered, impatient self for a couple days a week. I would move them and find someone who you're more comfortable with.

jf198400 · January 2014

On the WM board we always say if you don't feel comfortable, you need to trust your gut. I've never heard someone say they regretted making a change.

dmartin726 · January 2014

If your not 100% comfortable with them being there, then move them.

ASullivan1231 · February 2014

Agree with all - move them. It's crazy to me that she'll yell at them at all, especially in front of you! If yelling isn't your style I'd move them. I always try to be nice but my kid is more important than being nice.