Not an awesome update

mm29 · February 2014

Our embryos look like crap. Right now it's looking like we will have zero to biopsy and freeze. We have 3 early blasts, grades B, C, and C. We have 10 morula's with varying degrees of fragmentation. Our RE is not optimistic that we will have anything to biopsy and freeze tomorrow. This cycle is very similar to my last, using my own eggs. Even though I am poor responder (we only had one), it was only a morala on day five, and we did a six day transfer of a blast. It ended in a chemical pregnancy. She is pretty confident this is the balanced translocation that DH carries that is the problem. She gave us a few options to think about.

1. DE/DS

2. Use frozen eggs (six eggs), she will cut all her costs (if her boss gives her permission, so we can afford another donor egg cycle), use DH's sperm and confirm this is DH and not the donor. (I'm confident it's my DH, our donor is proven, my understanding is all her cycles have been successful, and she had a child's of her own)

3. A cycle with my eggs and donor sperm. I'm not sure if this would be an iui or ivf. She feels age is a better indicator for success than ovarian reserve.

We are devastated, we have spent more than $60k. We cannot take it another loan. We are barley affording the bills we have. Donor egg was supposed to be the answer. We are devastated!!

luvboston · February 2014

Hugs

brooklynesque · February 2014

Oh no. I am so sorry. I hope you do have a few that look better by tomorrow.

Remember you also have the option of embryo donation -- which is a lot cheaper than any of the alternatives your RE mentioned. ((Hugs.))

rlk2 · February 2014

Big hugs!

hmz819 · February 2014

Hugs to you and DH. I'm so sorry.

Probably not the time to think about this right now but I agree with pp about donor embies. They are an option esp if you go with DE/DS

sorrellam30 · February 2014

I'm so sorry! It sucks that many of our decisions have to be financially based, I'd do a million ivfs if I could to get pregnant unfortunately with no insurance that's not an option. How does DH feel about donor sperm?

DoublePortion · February 2014

Huge hugs!

mm29 · February 2014

brooklynesque said:

Oh no. I am so sorry. I hope you do have a few that look better by tomorrow.

Remember you also have the option of embryo donation -- which is a lot cheaper than any of the alternatives your RE mentioned. ((Hugs.))

I have considered D embryo, but we now have another loss to grieve. DH is not happy with any of the choices we have right now, so it may take some time.

PurpleIris30 · February 2014

Oh no! I'm so very sorry.

Sophistikitty · February 2014

I am so sorry.

mm29 · February 2014

My RE just called 4 of the morula's progressed to blasts. They will biopsy them and freeze. I'm not optimistic, as they are a day behind. Out of 23 mature eggs and 15 embryos we only have four for pgd testing.

Km672 · February 2014

I'm so sorry you didn't have more to biopsy!

I don't blame you for being guarded. This is so hard!!

Fx for 4 normals and a transfer in less than 2 weeks?

beachy6 · February 2014

I'm so very sorry.

sorrellam30 · February 2014

FX for your four!

zazu13 · February 2014

mm29 said:

My RE just called 4 of the morula's progressed to blasts. They will biopsy them and freeze. I'm not optimistic, as they are a day behind. Out of 23 mature eggs and 15 embryos we only have four for pgd testing.

Words are inadequate to say how badly I feel about everything you have had to go through. I don't know why some people's path to motherhood is so much harder than everyone else's. Big hugs and lots of prayers still going out to your 4 hopefuls. I know you will be a great mom and I hope it is sooner rather than later.