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September 2013 Moms
kennazebrowsky
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kimberlymacrae
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Re: kimberlymacrae
Thank you @kennazebrowsky, @jdoud77 and @starscream! I am a little nervous because I hate conflict.
Not to mention yesterday morning I ran a report of all her pending actions, there were 37! (which is a lot) Most of them were pending her action for over a week. well by today she's handled 50% of them but that's not the point, the point is they need to be done right away instead of holding for a week.
I kind of practiced what I am going to say (so dorky I know!) I am just going to stick to the point that all the issues are directly coorilated to her being in the office. The more she is out of the office (at home) the more issues and pending actions. She has been in the office for the last three days and things are starting to run smoothly again.
I kind of wish I had you guys in the meeting!
BFP 01/05/2013. EDD 09/18/2013. Low Progesterone. Gestational Diabetes. Rh Negative. Baby Ky-Mani born 100% healthy 09/17/2013. TTC#2 12/2013. BFP 02/01/2014! "Baby RaggaMuffin" due 10/07/2014.
BFP 01/05/2013. EDD 09/18/2013. Low Progesterone. Gestational Diabetes. Rh Negative. Baby Ky-Mani born 100% healthy 09/17/2013. TTC#2 12/2013. BFP 02/01/2014! "Baby RaggaMuffin" due 10/07/2014.
BFP 01/05/2013. EDD 09/18/2013. Low Progesterone. Gestational Diabetes. Rh Negative. Baby Ky-Mani born 100% healthy 09/17/2013. TTC#2 12/2013. BFP 02/01/2014! "Baby RaggaMuffin" due 10/07/2014.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
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Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
So here’s the skinny on the meeting.
First of all she was 5 min.-10min. late. I was waiting in the conference room and I finally just left a note for her to call me when she got there because I had shit to do on my computer. Anyways fast forward. It was a little discouraging because all she wanted to talk about was personal matters, not anything really work or productivity related. She was all “I have just noticed that things are different, you used to text me on the weekend and at night, we used to go out for fresh air together, blah blah blah”. Basically I told her that my life has changed a lot in the last few weeks (which is not a lie) I told her that when I am at work I am a machine now (less chit-chat time) because I have so much to get done at work and I don’t want to have to work in the evenings (like I used to) so I try to get my to-do list done throughout the day so I don’t have to take things home. I also told her that I don’t text anyone anymore at all because I never know where my phone is and Ky takes up all of my time. So there’s that.
Then I was just telling her about how frustrated I’ve been in the last few weeks watching on stand-by as she “figured out how to balance completing all the tasks” and I told her that I struggle sitting by and watching this chug along when I could very well either just do it myself or tell her exactly how to do it. She understood, I also told her that in the last 3 days I have noticed that she’s really stepped it up and been able to complete everything. So I was happy about that.
Then I was able to mention that I did notice there was a pattern of when she wasn’t in the office her work stacked up, and when the work stacked up I was pinged more with action items and therefore frustrated. I was able to throw in some key statements to let her know that I was aware of how much she was out of the office and I was aware of when she was out of the office it typically isn’t a productive day.
I was happy because I never once said “Oh I am sorry about ignoring you, let’s fix this” I just basically said “Yup, that’s how it is, and that’s how it will be”. I told her that if I am not calling her out on something, then everything is fine. She was looking more for the constant positive feedback option where I’d be stuck saying “good job” on everything that is her basic daily tasks and I am not there to stroke her professional ego, my boss can do that.
There wasn’t that much drama, I just left the path forward that if she continued to handle things like she has been doing in the last three days there wasn’t going to be a problem.
BFP 01/05/2013. EDD 09/18/2013. Low Progesterone. Gestational Diabetes. Rh Negative. Baby Ky-Mani born 100% healthy 09/17/2013. TTC#2 12/2013. BFP 02/01/2014! "Baby RaggaMuffin" due 10/07/2014.