FTM anxiety

Jillsee · January 2014

Ive definitely been cooped up too long. I live in the frozen tundra!!

I'm a SAH FTM and today for some reason I'm super anxious about Js development/milestones/etc... I feel like I keep hearing and reading about babes younger than him progressing so much quicker. I definitely understand babies go at their own pace, I just feel super conscious about it today. Dr apt in less than a month so I'll address my concerns with him then and it's nothing to call about early. Just looking to vent/commiserate/I don't know, been super stuck in the house for what feels like weeks with nothing to do but take care if the baby, house, and over think everything.

Any other babies not crawling, pulling up, saying mama/dada/blah blah

Or should I call the pedi? See... Super paranoid today!

Eta: he's 8 months (2 weeks early) and a big dude. Almost 30in and well over 20lbs. He was late to roll back to belly but he is now, just hates being on him stomach! Was sitting early, sits like a champ.

megandchase · January 2014

I wouldn't worry too much he will get there when he is ready. My LO is 7 1/2 months and just started rolling back to belly on Monday and now its all he wants to do! He has no interest in crawling what so ever. As long as your LO is hitting some milestones don't worry too much.

TheTamedShrew · January 2014

E is 7.5 months and she still can't roll very well. She only rolls one way from belly to back, but she's been sitting unassisted since 4.5 months. She also hates tummy time now because she would much rather be upright now that she can sit and bear weight on her legs. She isn't pulling up or crawling, but she can stand holding on to furniture for about a minute. She is a big girl though and very bottom heavy so sitting and standing is just easier for her balance-wise than crawling and rolling. I don't worry about it. They will get there when they're ready. Babies can start crawling anywhere from 7-10 months, and some babies skip crawling altogether. She also just started saying "mmmamama" a week or so ago. No "daddaa" yet.

Edit: I also totally get the cabin fever from being a SAHM in the winter. It sucks but I'm just trying to get out of the house on warmer days (like above 20) even if it's just a short drive. I also have the first day of spring circled in red on my calendar and I am counting down the days.

Jillsee · January 2014

@megandchase @thetamedshrew @bleachy14 Thank you mamas so much. I try to not measure against other babies, just seeing it everywhere today, Facebook/bump/inlaws/Blah blah blah..

By nature I am a worrier, this cabin fever is exacerbating it to the max. I think we are supposed to get over 20 today for the first time in ... Who knows!? I'm hoping to get out for a drive, we are in the middle of nowhere and everywhere to go is over 30 minute drive, that said, maybe just a nice long drive to not be in the house! Is it spring yet?!?

Beaslejl · January 2014

My LO isn't crawling or really pulling up. I feel like we are just hitting the stage where she's learned she can roll as she pleases phase. Which means when I put her on her belly to work on crawling, she rolls immediately over to her back.

I'm not stressing it really. I can tell she has a solid core she's just not interested in belly play. She says mama sometimes. But she's really playing with her sounds and jabbering. Again, I think she's fine. I wouldn't stress.

ASmallWonder · January 2014

My kid is pulling up and that's it. Refuses to roll, does NOT talk (that's not even a milestone right now!) and the concept of hands and knees pisses him straight off

Try not to worry, he sounds perfectly fine.

Cricket81 · January 2014

Mine sits pretty well but now refuses to do anything else. If he's on his belly for more than 30 seconds, he throws a fit! I'm not sure how/if he's ever going to crawl with this attitude and he has stopped rolling too. He likes to stand on my lap, but not on the ground and has no clue that he could use anything other than my face and hair to pull up on. They're all different, but seeing all the crawling pics and videos does make me worry a little sometimes too. However, he's a sweet, happy boy and that's all that really matters!

Stefanie6743 · January 2014

I know how you feel! we are frozen in the boonies in upstate ny! it is hard when we are stuck inside all day, much easier to stress! Lo can sit very well and is just starting to get the hang of crawling and pulling up. but, he doesn't say anything. he hardly babbles, let alone saying words. i'm not too concerned yet. just try not to stress (ik you will, lol) and talk to pedi at next appointment

fabumama · January 2014

7.5 months. No rolling over unless I get her started, no crawling, walking, talking. She sits up like a champ and her hand coordination is good and her interaction in general is too so I'm not worried.

Jillsee · January 2014

Thank all you ladies! I really appreciate hearing about your LOs

My anxiety just got the better of me today for some reason. I am so thankful to have you all to reach out to!

mgoodwyn · January 2014

My little guy is making "dada" noises, but he doesn't really sit on his own and also has no interest in crawling. He is 7.5 months. I know how you feel, I am FTM as well and it seems like everyone's babies have been sitting by themselves for months, so I also get paranoid.

I also have some working mom guilt adding to it so I can't help but think that if I was home more and could do more tummy time that maybe he would be further along, *sigh*.

natalie115 · January 2014

I do the same thing, worry & compare even though I know shouldn't. I'm constantly worried there's something wrong w/ DS because he almost never sleeps longer then 2 hours at a time at night and only naps for 30min even when he wakes up still exhausted. Like others have said babies develop so differently and at their own pace. Just go with the flow (if you can

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HelgaFunk · January 2014

You're definitely not alone. I constantly compare what OJ is doing compared with all the other babies on here and it helps to see stuff like this to bring me back to being okay with where she is.

OJ will be 8 months Saturday, weighs a whopping 13 lbs., can sit up for a minute or so, just started rolling from her back to belly but still hates tummy time. The idea of putting weight on her legs just pisses her right off. But she does love to eat. Boy does she like to eat.

Don't let any of this "milestone" business worry you unless the doctor tells you to worry. And now I need to go take a dose of my own advise.

Hang in there.

Diana909 · January 2014

You. Are. NOT. Alone. I do the same thing all the time. LO doesn't crawl, sometimes rolls around, is very needy to be entertained all the time. He babbles, at times. He eats like a horse. Like you, I'm a FTM and SAHM so its so very easy to focus on EVERYTHING your child is or isn't doing. I just read an article that I got via email that its "normal" for kids to crawl between 7-11mo. It's so hard to be a FTM in general, let alone get the thousands of emails from every website possible and family asking "have they done this" or "are they doing that".

DH always says let him be a baby and stop worrying about things. Its easy for him not to since he maybe sees LO for an hour or two a day during the week. Its ok to feel this way!!

Sorry I just hopped on your complain ride.

cynthia2007 · January 2014

LO is 7 months now and doesn't crawl or pull herself up at all and no interest to do so. She hates tummy time! I try to out her on tummy twice a day at least before and after work but we get 5 min each time tops. She can sit unassisted pretty good but can't get to sitting position by herself. And if she topples over, she can't get back up. She can hold her weight ok when I get her standing and holding her arms but not for very long. I'm a ftm too and I worry about milestones ALL THE TIME!

ASmallWonder · January 2014

You know what helps? Realizing that nobody posts about their baby doing nothing lol It seems like all the babies are doing these big things because that's what's exciting to post about. The rest of us aren't all "Guess what my baby didn't do today? Roll, sit up, say a word, stand or walk. WOOT!"

+Preppy+ · January 2014

My DD is only 6 months but not doing anything that requires mobility. My son didn't crawl till 9 months. I guess he was maybe a tad late? He was a super chubby kid, 20.5lbs at 6 mo. But now, he's all caught up. Hell, he is in a toddler bed because he can climb out of his crib. The things he can do amaze me. My point, is that all kids catch up. You can't tell a difference between a kid who crawled at 6 months verse my kid now. So you just have to be patient. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with your kid at all. I know its hard to not compare, but you really should stop, because, in the end it doesn't matter. Your kid will crawl, stand when he's good and ready. Just keep doing tummy time, and he will get there!

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