Expecting Mother and Dad

Jguer3 · January 2014

My husband and I have always had a good relationship but I'm getting slightly worried because he's not understanding my difficulty sleeping and frequent bathroom habits. I know I'm keeping him up a little and he has to work the next day but he's getting too angry. I cannot help that our house is small, otherwise I'd go sleep in another bed but my only other option is the couch. I'm worried because I know when the baby comes that means less sleep also for us. Any other expecting mother experiencing this?

dunvilles · January 2014

What do you mean by getting "too angry"?

Excitedmum35 · January 2014

Um no! Does your DH have no idea? Maybe get him to read a pregnancy book describing the symptoms that we all get.
He should actually be supportive and trying to help u, not getting mad.

mcgeeva · January 2014

First off he can walk his happy @ss to the couch! The only reason I am keeping dh up is from snoring which only happens when im pregnant. He was sleeping on the couch when he was home (he is traveling every week now) but now I have just decided to sleep in the guest room. But he always left to go to the couch because he knows I can't help it. I would figure out a solution now becuase let me tell you if my husband got angry being woken up by my bathroom movements - what will he do when a baby is crying every three hours?

Jguer3 · January 2014

He's been very supportive until the last month or two and I'm afraid he's feeling overwhelmed. I worked for the last 18 years and recently quit my job 3 months ago because it's something he's always wanted and my job descriptions was going to change anyway. I think he may need some classes or something.

dunvilles · January 2014

I'd make sure he goes to your appointments with you and bring this up with the doctor. Maybe it will help having your OB explain things to him.

If I were to get up, flip on lights, moan and groan (unnecessarily) etc. to make sure DH knew I had to get up multiple times, I am sure he would be frustrated... but you're not doing those things right?!

Jguer3 · January 2014

He starts fussing loudly and that's how he comes across "angry" to me. I know lots of people are fussy when being awaken but I know being first time parents is a new lesson for both of us epecially being up all night. I think my body has already prepared itself for this and it's probably why I don't sleep well now

Jguer3 · January 2014

No, not turning lights on…the biggest thing is my cough from the baby pressing on my lungs! This only happens when I first lay down then it passes. I've stressed this to him to give me time but his patience just isn't there now i guess. He does have a busy job and owns 2 of his own businesses but I just think they have NO IDEA what a pregnant woman goes through and tries to make out that they do.

mcgeeva · January 2014

Again what is your plan with a crying baby? Sleep on the couch with it in a PNP so you don't disturb him?

JuneMrs · January 2014

Being pregnant is the most exhausting job on the face of the earth! While DH says he supports me and he's sorry I feel crappy he still couldn't possibly understand. Is it possible your DH is just overtired and cranky from being woken? It's outside of your control but that might make him short on patience!

micaelasmakeup · January 2014

Who is "they"? Men? Because I think all of our husbands most likely have jobs they have to get up for. Not to mention the pg women that pee all night and get up for their jobs.
With my first pg my husband left me for the guest bedroom at 7 months bc snoring peeing pillow overtake. But he was just trying to make both of us comfy and never complained. With this pg we have lost a guest room to new baby's nursery so he made it until last week I was 38w, but I'm blaming Breaking Bad on Netflix and my 9pm bedtime more than my comfort or his.

Check out if your hospital has a Daddy Bootcamp, and try to see if he will go. That was a great eye opener for DH.

DTNZ4Ever · January 2014

Show him a picture of what happens to your organs when pregnant. Just google it. He will see how small your bladder gets and that should tell hi why you have to pee all the time.

Alli0322 · January 2014

My hubby has been good, but I feel the same with having to wake him up when I go to the bathroom or moving around a lot in bed. We also have a pretty small house. He hasn't said anything about my night time habits. but I'm worried about his sleep when the baby comes, he can get cranky when he doesn't sleep. But we actually talked about it today and he's just going to have to deal with it, especially when I go back to work since he'll be the one getting up in the middle of the night (I work midnights). He was pretty open to the concept of having to deal with a crying baby, I think it's just about how you bring it up when you talk.

ahare2009 · January 2014

He better get over being woken up now. When the baby comes is he not going to help with it? Somehow my husband sleeps through me getting up 100x a night, but I obviously don't, and I have to get up and go to work the next day. I think your husband needs be a little more supportive and get over himself.

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