I need your advice/opinions:
We have been informed that one of our twins may be discharged tomorrow at 34 weeks 5 days from the NICU. I have been just staying right there with the twins and they told us if one gets discharged first we could still continue to stay but the twin that is discharged is our complete responsibility which I understand and get. We all thought it would be great to be able to stay but this morning as I paid attention I realized it may be a little difficult! I have to use the bathroom (a walk from our room), go get food, (in the family room or cafeteria), eat (can't eat in our room), etc which requires me to leave the room and I would have to take our twin with me into the possibility of germs and how do I use the bathroom with her?! I know this would be the same at home but I could leave the twin in her bed, in a bouncy chair, etc and I don't have those options here. I truly can't see myself being able to leave one twin at the NICU and take the other home either. We live 75 minutes away and going back and forth with a preemie would be crazy too. Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do? What is your advice/opinions for us?
Re: WWYD One Twin Leaving NICU Before the Other
@kirotea I totally thought about the car seat! Unfortunately I don't have a sling/wrap at all and have a carrier but she is too little for it
@TallAsh Trust me I want to stay but am also freaking out a little bit now about the logistics of how that would work!!!
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@TallAsh We just have the double stroller that may be a pain but is definitely an option. I have thought about that too but I have only left the NICU twice after being in the hospital for almost 9 weeks now and was a hot mess both times I left. I would just feel really bad leaving the other one!!!!! Yes these are our firsts!
@bandteacher it is definitely an option. I just panicked before I knew it was an option!
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If you guys can afford a carrier, I would definitely try to get one tonight. I just read that baby is supposed to be 8 lbs for the K'Tan, so you might have to do a Moby. I haven't heard of any weight requirements for it.
That sounds like a really hard situation, and I think I would want to stay there, too. I'm sorry it's so difficult!
I really appreciate all the responses and advice! It helps a lot!!!
I guess my OP maybe was a little confusing in my panicked mind frame. I can't say they are for sure discharging one tomorrow because if she has a setback she is staying. But the way it looks now she will be discharged. There isn't an option to keep her as a hospital patient. The option is to discharge her and they will leave us the open crib but that is it. We can all still stay in the room but she would be a visitor right along with us and is our complete responsibility and therefore making things like eating outside the room, using the bathroom, etc. more difficult because we can't just leave her. Hopefully that makes better sense @Laura833 and @WisconsinCheese12.
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I love your sn! Sooo true! And I think you hit the nail on the head and are right...I'd be a mess if I left!
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Then maybe you and DH could swap times as to who goes to the hopsital and who stays with the discharged baby outside of the hospital?!
I'm sorry - this is a tough decision....but know that this is VERY common with twins. Soon both will be back home!!!!
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I agree w others. Get a moby ad just wear the other baby as often as possible. I'm sure you'll become an expert at getting baby in and out with all the practice. A car seat would also help. Even though it's an unexpected expense I'm sure a moby will come in handy in the future regardless.
Nonetheless, sorry you hafta stress about this in addition to everything else. Hopefully both babies can go home sooner than later!
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