Infant Specialist - Night Nurse - Night Nanny

mnsylvester · January 2014

Does anyone recommend any credible/reliable Night Nannies/ Postpartum Doulas in the local Newport Beach area that are reasonable in their fees. I've seen some rates at little as $24 and as much at $40/hour for an 8 hour minimum. Just curious if anyone has personal recommendations, insight to this type of service.

Thank you in advance.

NS

mrsseguin · January 2014

Just curious...is this to have someone come into your home and look after your baby at night so you can sleep?

NicoleNielsen59 · January 2014

I asked a similiar question awhile back and got completely bashed for being "lazy" and "wanting my beauty sleep". I suggest you dont ask that question here as many people don't realize that there are certain circumstances when this service is much needed for the good of both mom and baby. Do the research yourself. Good luck,

trudibell · January 2014

I think they have regional or local boards where you can ask this sort of question.

My advice? Take time off work and enjoy your baby, even the unpleasantness of getting up multiple times a night. They are only newborns (and babies) for so long and there is something special about being able to calm your child in the night that you only get to experience for a short while. Also, it's what's best for your baby. Your LO probably needs you specifically right now, and especially at night when they wake up hungry and confused.

mrsseguin · January 2014

Nicb13 said:

mrsseguin said:

Just curious...is this to have someone come into your home and look after your baby at night so you can sleep?

Oi. Sounds like it. Lame.

Agreed.

amberrrjade · January 2014

Jessntim? You moved?

SleepingBeauty79 · January 2014

Nicb13 said:

NicoleNielsen59 said:

I asked a similiar question awhile back and got completely bashed for being "lazy" and "wanting my beauty sleep". I suggest you dont ask that question here as many people don't realize that there are certain circumstances when this service is much needed for the good of both mom and baby. Do the research yourself. Good luck,

Hey smarty pants, remember posting this? "And, yes, I'm extremely lazy to tell you the truth. If I can pay a professional to assist me so I can get caught up on my sleep, why wouldnt I?"

You asked for it by acting like a newborn baby was such a big fat inconvenience for you. That whole thread sucked and you made yourself sound terrible. It's your job as a parent to take care of and bond with your newborn. Don't have a kid if you can't handle it.

This was sarcasm.

SleepingBeauty79 · January 2014

Don't judge. You dont know others' circumstances. You called the OP lame without even asking what they were. And there is no "should". You can say "should" about just about anything.

Rowansmom08 · January 2014

I live in NY and among my circle getting a night nany for a couple of weeks is fairly common. Not sure what the big deal is. Usually its a parent/grand parent gift.

trudibell · January 2014

I lived in NYC for years and knew people who had babies. They didn't hire night nannies. Maybe it's a thing in your own circle, but it's definitely not normal for most people.

Rowansmom08 · January 2014

Poor OP. Think she got scared off.

cagoldi · January 2014

I used to think it was odd that people would hire a baby nurse or night nanny for a single, healthy baby.

Once DS was born I realized I had been very wrong. Those first few weeks were so brutal; I would have been in a much better place emotionally if I had the extra help and got a little more sleep.

Speshul · January 2014

If I could I would have hired one a few nights. Those few times when I got help it recharged my batteries and helped me be a better mother. Sleep deprivation/debt is horrible; do whatever you need to do to be a happy and healthy family unit.

trudibell · February 2014

CFox815 said:

@trudibell

I have specified quite a few times in these threads that I was the only one IN MY CIRCLE who didn't have one.

I didn't poll all of NYC to see how they handled being new parents.

So, yes, it is the norm IN MY CIRCLE, as stated before.

This seems like an over-reaction.

trudibell · February 2014

@CFox815

You said "maybe it is an east coast thing" implying that night nannies was a regional thing. I pointed out that in my experience, it's not. No reason to attack my reading ability or get all wound up about it.

cagoldi · February 2014

trudibell said:
@CFox815

You said "maybe it is an east coast thing" implying that night nannies was a regional thing. I pointed out that in my experience, it's not. No reason to attack my reading ability or get all wound up about it.

@trudibell - she said maybe it's an east coast thing because that was an opinion posited by @Nicb. She merely acknowledged that's a possibility.

Knowing @cfox815, this isn't her being wound up about it. She is very precise with her language so I think it's just more about clarifying her point.

trudibell · February 2014

No worries

To each their own.

spacesong · February 2014

Who are you to judge this woman? Maybe instead of being mean girls, you answer her question if you know any information. I thought these forums were supposed to be helpful, not overrun by holier-than-thou mothers.

Krys6767 · February 2014

You don't have to understand it. She didn't ask you how you felt about what she was considering doing. Worry about yourself and if you aren't going to kindly answer a question, it may be best not to say anything at all.

Krys6767 · February 2014

Nicb13 said:

SleepingBeauty79 said:

Don't judge. You dont know others' circumstances. You called the OP lame without even asking what they were. And there is no "should". You can say "should" about just about anything.

The thing about judging is that everyone does it, whether you know someone else's situation or not. Most of the posts on TB are just glimpses into someone else's life and what they choose to share in order to get advice on a topic.
People use their own personal beliefs and opinions to give them the advice they are asking for. They might not want to hear it but that's the way discussion boards work.
Have you seen how people fly off the handle when a pregnant woman came on here asking about being in a wedding 2 weeks after her baby is born? People flipped out on her without knowing the whole situation. You can't pick and choose which situations are OK to judge.

I think the trick is sharing your opinion repectfully and kindly instead of like a fourteen year old . "lame". We all have opinions and it is fine to disagree ,but , there are better ways to articulate your feelings rather than being condescending and abrasive. It helps no one, it just serves to make yourself feel superior.

illba2011 · February 2014

you guys are a bunch of assholes, seriously!!! This is the 0-3 group. Do you have any idea what happens to a women after she gives birth??? And you would even question why she needs a nanny and attack her? You didn't even give her a chance, what if she had a really bad labor, or postpartum depression. WTF is wrong with all of you especially @Nicb13!! People come on here for help, not to get bashed. You should be ashamed, you're an awful human being. It makes me sick that you would treat a fellow mom like that.

nunzchucks · February 2014

Aw, @nicb13, I love you. Mar12 for lyfe!

illba2011 · February 2014

my class goes out the window, when someone treats someone else like that.

kennazebrowsky · February 2014

ForevAAROSE · February 2014

You ladies are brutal. I mean really, come on! By all means, she posted hoping for some suggestions. No one here knows her story. She could be a single parent and doesn't have time off work, or is going thru postpartum depression. We all live our lives differently, and what works for one person doesn't work for another. I've seen plenty of night nurses. My aunt who lives in CA had one because her oldest daughter was disabled and she had to take care of her hand and foot so the first few months she needed the night help as her husband was in Iraq. So again, you never know someone's situation. I now live in NJ and see lots of moms who have that help for many different reasons.

Sorry poster, hope you have tough skin girl!

illba2011 · February 2014

Nicb13 said:

illba2011 said:

my class goes out the window, when someone treats someone else like that.

Sure. Okey dokey.

how old are you? Seriously?

Lindsaym5! · February 2014

CFox815 said:
@rowansmom08 same here. I am the only one in my circle who didn't have one but we moved out of the city and into the suburbs before the baby came.

@nicb13 , as mentioned before, it's pretty much the norm in NY. The mothers still get up with the baby most of the time. But, in my circle at least, the husband goes back to work pretty quickly and my friends didn't have room to host family/friends to stay over and help. Also, a night nurse has taught my friends things because they were first time moms. I know plenty of friends with nannies, mothers helpers, night nurses etc., none of them are doing what "the mom/dad should be doing."

Can i ask what does a night nanny do then if the mother still gets up? My husband went back to work right away and my family all lives out of town so no one stayed with me and I was just fine. What are you doing when you get up at night besides feeding? My husband often offered to get up with me and I turned him down because I breastfeed so there was nothing for him to do.

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

I think the nasty ones on here are perhaps jealous that they cant afford to hire help. That would explain the judgement, holier than thou attitude.

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

Have you ever hired a babysitter? The difference is that a night nurse helps mom sleep and heal so she can function and take care of her baby well during the day while hiring a babysitter is often for the sole purpose of going out and having fun. Seems like getting a babysitter is the more wrong of the two.

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

Cute, but true :-)

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

Not that clueless. had a night nanny. Did I want to fork out big money for this? No. But when it got to the point that I was falling asleep at the wheel and my PPD/PPA were getting out of hand, I decided to do it. I wasnt doing it to "get my beauty sleep" or for "someone to watch my kid". I did it because I was spiralling down fast from lack of sleep and I felt in my case that it was the best thing for both me and my baby. I was not being a lazy mom. At the time, I thought I was because I was so depressed, but now I realize it was necessary.

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

Additionally, one of the most hurtful things you can say to a new mom is that she is lazy. Some people cope with sleep deprivation better than others. My baby is 5 now and we are connected at the hip.

SleepingBeauty79 · February 2014

Ok, well, I guess everyone is different.

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