TTC and Panic

ed16564 · January 2014

This is my first cycle TTC. My DH and I have done a lot of bding and last night was ovulation baby dancing. I went to bed and 2 hours later I woke up in absolute panic. I was so scared that I'd get pregnant and not handle the pregnancy well, I was scared that maybe we weren't ready, I was scared that I wasn't mature enough. The thing is I want this but now I'm panicked that I've made the wrong decision and I'll get pregnant this cycle and not be ready, has this happened to any of you? What did you do about it. I'm just so anxious and it's another 12 days until I'll know if I'm preggo or not.

SmileyJay · January 2014

Well, it's a little too late now, isn't it?

There is less than a 30% chance you are pregnant, and even much less if you were not tracking your cycles and confirming ovulation with bbt charting. So odds are in your favor if not being pregnant. Just calm down (easier said than done) and wait to test. If you are pregnant, you will probably get excited about it considering you decided to ttc... which I would assume means there are reasons you want to have a child. If you are not, I would sit down with your husband and decide if this is really what you want and if you feel ready for it. It wouldn't be so bad to wait a bit if you aren't ready.

Pregnancy is a totally new experience and most all of us have heard horror birth stories or how awful pregnancy is. It is totally normal to feel anxious about that.

Helenahhandbasket · January 2014

Baby dancing? It's OK to say sex here. This is a message board full of adults talking about babies, conception and parenting.

That being said, your feelings are completely normal and 100% valid. Being a parent is scary-- I have had many bouts of anxiety, depression and sheer panic. These feelings and experiences though have been intermingled with some of the most intense love, joy and admiration I have ever felt.

My point is-- if you want to be a parent-- expect that there will be moments of doubt, terror, uncertainty and sadness. For me personally, my desire to have a child trumped these worries.

Good luck.

Jellybean813 · January 2014

Calm down OP. Yes, it's normal to be scared. DH and I just found out we are expecting, and we are lucky enough to have had this happen on our first try. I'm grateful, but also - I really thought it would at least take a couple of months. That being said, between the excitement and joy - I've also had moments of fear and panic, wondering what the hell we just did. As PP said, it's normal. But, if this panic consumes you and you don't end up pregnant this month maybe sit down with DH and make sure that you are both really ready for that BFP.

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