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Invite wording for non cliche shower
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My Mom and I are planning a shower for my cousin. I really don't know much about showers, but my Mom has been to a whole bunch. MTB isn't into the whole cliche pastel colors, you name it type of shower. That's fine, and I know we're gonna have fun with it. But my Mom wants to put in the invite a note stating to NOT buy cliche outfits. MTB hates the pastel in your face IT'S A BOY type clothing. So no football stuff, trucks, blue colored item. I don't think we need a note because you can tell from her registry that she's not into it, but my Mom says that she's seen lots of people disregard the list and buy whatever they want.
So if we include a note, what the hell do we say to not seem so rude? I suggested a witty poem or something, but I honestly don't think we need a note. Thoughts?
So if we include a note, what the hell do we say to not seem so rude? I suggested a witty poem or something, but I honestly don't think we need a note. Thoughts?
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Re: Invite wording for non cliche shower
Also, keep in mind that the people invited to a shower are supposed to be the MTB's "nearest and dearest". I.e. hopefully people who know her and will know what she likes/doesn't like.
Firstly I would like to say that I was nervous of how to say that on the invitation. I didn't think that it should have said anything, but my mother insisted (she and MIL are hosting together but MH and I designed the invitations b/c he is a graphic designer and works for a printing co., so the invitations were free) And there were a lot of people who commented on how much they liked them and wanted to know where we got them.
I'm sure there will be some on here that do not agree with the fact that it said that or think it is rude. Regardless of that it is too late and the invitations went out long ago. My shower is next Sat. and I'm pretty sure no one decided they weren't coming because they were offended that it said that on the invitation. My friends and family/MH's family know me well so I'm sure this hasn't caused anyone's panties to bunch!
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You never know. If I was going to your shower I'd probably go out of my way to get you a pink nursery decoration with kittens and hearts on it. And not include a gift receipt. Just to teach you and your host a lesson that this is not cool.
The only lesson this would teach me was that you obviously don't care that you just wasted your own money.
There have been a lot of things bought off the registry already and what isn't we will get on our own, I don't need it all to be bought for me. So if someone thought they were being a smart ass and "teaching me a lesson" they would be sorely mistaken. I really don't understand why people even want to give someone a gift they don't like or won't use. It's a waste of time and money. I always try to give people gifts that are practical and that they will like.
If you want it to be something that you will like, then go buy something for yourself and don't bother giving a gift at all. I think that's the point of a gift. To give someone something they like, can enjoy, and will use.
Sure, I would have preferred more gender neutral stuff because it's my style. But, fun fact, as the mother of two girls, when you're on our second blow out of the day and you haven't had a chance to do laundry in the week, you will be thankful for the clean pink onsie and not give a ____ about the fact that it's pink.
And into the trash your invitation would go. I wouldn't buy you shit.
If your cousin didn't want 'boy' clothing, then why did she find out the sex and tell everybody?
I'm not finding out the sex because while I'm also not into the whole pink/girl blue/boy, it doesn't mean I wouldn't accept a lovely gender specific gift after my son or daughter is born.
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