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roundabout2roundabout2 member
edited February 2014 in Pregnant after 35
Hello,

 Had a shock when I took a test after being late and got a plus. Not a super happy shock either. Hubby and I have 5 other children, our youngest is almost 2, and we were done. We were using b/c and still, plus sign.  All I could do last night was sob.I don't even know how I'm going to tell my job, my boss thought I was crazy having this last baby. I'm scared of birth defects, and something terrible happening. Pregnancy was tough on my body this last time, I'm scared of what's going to go on this time. We've run out of room in the van, the house. 

Anyway, I sure hope I don't feel this disheartened for long.

Please, no flamers. I realize there are people who have been trying for years to get pregnant and can't, or recently have. I'm happy for them.
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  • kelley72kelley72 member
    Hugs, no flames... I'd bet once the shock wears off you'll be thrilled.  I'm 41 and expecting number 5 although my dh and I tried for 13 months including one loss it was still a shock with tears once the + showed up.  Of course you are nervous... you'd be naive to not be.  I wish you a wonderful pregnancy and a happy and healthy baby.  Hope your fears are put to rest so you can enjoy your blessing
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  • jbellejbelle member
    Hugs! 

    I tried for 3 years to get pregnant with my first (due in March), and I still freaked out after finally getting a positive pregnancy test! I can only imagine if it was not anticipated.

    Anyway, welcome! I don't know what to say about the van or the house, but I do want to say, the statistics are on your side that your baby will not have any chromosomal abnormalities. Doctors see the rapidly changing ratios and want to raise the alarm, but if you think about things in reverse, you can see how good your chances are; if your chances are 1 in 100, that's a 99% chance everything is fine.

    Best wishes! 

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  • stina76stina76 member
    Wow, I could see how you could be in shock!  Especially if you weren't trying and were on BC, but I'm sure it will be great.  I'm hoping you have an easy, healthy pregnancy!  

    Just think, now you guys are an even number!  No odd man out on rides at the carnival!  : )  
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  • QOTRQOTR member
    Welcome and best wishes!  I hope everything goes well for you.  And I love the note above about carnival rides. :) 
    Me-41, Hubby-40.
    1st BFP-8/17/12!  Missed Miscarriage discovered @ 8 week US.  D&C.
    2nd BFP-2/13/13!  Blighted Ovum discovered @ 8 week US. Natural miscarriage.
    3rd BFP-5/22/13!  By early June, progesterone plummeting.  Another loss.
    August 2013 - started Donor Egg process, but surprise BFP with my own eggs.
    Dear Son born 5/28/14
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  • obscurereferenceobscurereference member
    Welcome to the board!
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  • roundabout2roundabout2 member
    edited February 2014
    Thank you ladies! It helps to have support, and to see I'm not the only over 35, going through pregnancy.

    And stina76, lol, you are right, everyone will have a partner now.  I should have picked the user name Brady Bunch :)
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  • rcbukorcbuko member
    Welcome.  I think that all of what you are feeling is completely normal.  We have planned for and wanted all four of our kids and I still had an "oh shit" moment each time the pregnancy test was positive.  I have had moments in each pregnancy wondering what we were getting ourselves into.  
    As far as work, I can relate.  We live in NYC where people just don't have large families.  I NEVER thought we would have more than three kids but here we are.  People thought we were nuts when we had our third and think we are nuts for having this fourth baby.  My advice on this is to tune the dissuaders out and focus on the positive.  You will one day be able to focus on the positive.
    All of my pregnancies have been different as I am sure yours have.  My second child was my worst pregnancy.  I was convinced that my third would be horrible but it wasn't beyond the normal uncomfortable pregnancy stuff.  So far, this fourth pregnancy has pretty much been a breeze.  I hope you find the same happens with this pregnancy.
    As far as defects, we can all relate on that fear.  Try to get one of the free cell DNA tests so you can find out genetic results early in the pregnancy.  FInding out at 12 weeks that this baby didn't have the common chromosomal abnormalities let me start to enjoy the pregnancy much sooner.

    Hugs.  I hope you find some joy in this situation soon and if it takes longer than you expect, don't be hard on yourself.  

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  • roundabout2roundabout2 member
    Thanks rcbuko. Yes, I can't wait to hear what my boss says about me having another :/ I know I'll just have learn to tune all that out. 
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