Opinions needed- split up or keep together?

mamatotwins0812 · January 2014

I need some opinions on this. It looks like we are going to be moving out of state (again, we just did this a year ago, sigh). The house we are going to, we technically have enough room to split up the boys (for mobiles they are 18mo). There are some days where I say we need to separate them bc one will wake the other and I get frustrated etc, but in theory I really always envisioned keeping them together for years. So my question is this. For those who have always had them together, and for those who have separated, please share your experiences. Keep in mind that we will be transitioning to toddler beds sooner than later, potty training etc so all of those things are challenges to consider under both scenarios. I am really struggling with this so would love to hear your input! TIA!!

wille2b · January 2014

Mine fight like cats and dogs but at the end of the day they really do much better together. They sleep better together even. I would be inclined to keep them together for a while. Good luck with whatever you choose!

Kissimi21 · January 2014

My guys are together. For the longest time they wouldn't sleep if the other was in another room. Even now, Sam has to be put to bed first. If I lay Ben down first, he will wake up screaming because Sammy isn't in the next crib.

caden · January 2014

My boys are 3 and still sleep in the same room. In some ways it's more convenient (all their stuff is together, get dressed together, play there together, etc), but in other ways it's tough. I have 1 early riser and he wakes my good sleeper every day. They get each other out of bed when they're supposed to be tucked in for the night. I deal with this because I don't care that much but if it annoys you try separating them. They'll eventually get used to whatever you decide. And what works now might not work a year from now so it's good that you have options. That said when we moved a few months ago my boys needed time to adjust so I'd probably keep things the same for a while until they get settled. I moved the same week I PTd my kids and switched them to twin beds. It was a disaster.

LucyRicardo3 · January 2014

oh, dear, moving again?! you have my deepest sympathy! I understand these things happen and you have to go with the flow. ugh..
My twins are sharing a room. I had to convert their cribs to toddler beds a few months ago when one figured out how to climb out, and then instructed her sister in the art of escape as well.
They do fight quite a bit, but as they've gotten older, they also comfort each other a little more and more. They are equally not ready when it comes to PT, as I've tried to get their interest by putting one at a time on the toilet but they are both terrified. So echoing @caden, "so I'd probably keep things the same for a while until they get settled."
Good luck with everything!~

chickaboo1974 · January 2014

My boys are 3- and they have always shared a room. We also have plenty of bedrooms that they could be separated- but I don't plan on doing that until one asks for his own room. Yes the transition from crib to toddler beds was difficult for about a month. They are very use to having the other with them.

CaliCarly77 · January 2014

Mine share a room due to space (we live in a Condo) I would split them up if I could though based on my own experience, I shared a room and was terrified to sleep alone when I went to college, and still have some rough nights when my husband travels for work. How pathetic is that?

mamatotwins0812 · January 2014

caden said:

My boys are 3 and still sleep in the same room. In some ways it's more convenient (all their stuff is together, get dressed together, play there together, etc), but in other ways it's tough. I have 1 early riser and he wakes my good sleeper every day. They get each other out of bed when they're supposed to be tucked in for the night. I deal with this because I don't care that much but if it annoys you try separating them. They'll eventually get used to whatever you decide. And what works now might not work a year from now so it's good that you have options. That said when we moved a few months ago my boys needed time to adjust so I'd probably keep things the same for a while until they get settled. I moved the same week I PTd my kids and switched them to twin beds. It was a disaster.

@caden this is my issue. I ave one good sleeper at night and one good nap sleeper...so in the morning a is always waking up b and during naps, b is always waking up a. So the thought has crossed my mind that splitting would be better, but I really like the convenience of them together plus I think it's cute

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The house doesn't have sprawling rooms, we would essentially be giving up a guest room/office by splitting them so preferably staying together is more space ideal, but we could do it if need be. At this point though we are trying to figure out what furniture to sell, what to buy, what rooms need to be painted etc so we are trying to be as strategic as possible.
@lucyricardo3 yes another move!!! I can't believe it! It's seriously traumatizing but necessary, and hopefully the last! I hope you and your LO are doing Well.
I do like the advice to not change things up for them right now...so I think we will keep things as is. I appreciate everyone's feedback!!

Reilly626 · January 2014

I have boy/girl twins and I'm so happy I separated them, I love that my daughter can sleep in and my early rising son can play without waking her. I only made it 6 months with them together.

mamatotwins0812 · January 2014

@reilly626 how old are your lo's? I'm pretty sure they're around my guys age if I remember correctly?

Mama-Bear · January 2014

We don't have room to split them up. We actually have their twin beds pushed together, they're very attached to each other.

mylittleladies1229 · January 2014

We have our 13 month olds split up. They have been in separate bedrooms since 7 months old due to sleeping issues. One would scream before going to sleep and we felt awful for the disrupted sleep the other was getting. They are great sleepers now, but IMO it is a better situation for us to keep them separate. When one wakes before the other I don't have to rush in and get her in fear of waking the other. And I get one-on-one with the baby who wakes before the other.

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