TTC panic

ed16564 · January 2014

This is my first cycle TTC. My DH and I have done a lot of bding and last night was ovulation baby dancing. I went to bed and 2 hours later I woke up in absolute panic. I was so scared that I'd get pregnant and not handle the pregnancy well, I was scared that maybe we weren't ready, I was scared that I wasn't mature enough. The thing is I want this but now I'm panicked that I've made the wrong decision and I'll get pregnant this cycle and not be ready, has this happened to any of you? What did you do about it. I'm just so anxious and it's another 12 days until I'll know if I'm preggo or not.

KrissyLeighN · January 2014

ed16564 said:
This is my first cycle TTC. My DH and I have done a lot of bding and last night was ovulation baby dancing. I went to bed and 2 hours later I woke up in absolute panic. I was so scared that I'd get pregnant and not handle the pregnancy well, I was scared that maybe we weren't ready, I was scared that I wasn't mature enough. The thing is I want this but now I'm panicked that I've made the wrong decision and I'll get pregnant this cycle and not be ready, has this happened to any of you? What did you do about it. I'm just so anxious and it's another 12 days until I'll know if I'm preggo or not.

MrMrsandBaby · January 2014

I have a LO right now and am TTC #2 - I still freak out once in a while about it. I think most women would say they are a little nervous every now and then - most but not all - about actually becoming a parent.

But if you wake up in a panic, you may not be ready? Like @NellyBluth said, read the newbie blog and do an intro (it helps).

Also, refrain from saying "preggo" in the future - you would be pregnant, not spaghetti sauce

MusicFanatic · January 2014

Baby dancing makes me cringe. It's sex. Meh.

But anyway. I think it's normal to have some freak outs, I have. Maybe not that extreme, but... I think it's normal to be nervous when we make big steps. If you're not actually ready, though, I wouldn't try. Maybe step back and think about it.

ed16564 · January 2014

I know I ovulated because I've been checking cm and using opks to track my lh surge. No I haven't checked the newbie section.

I am 25 and dh and I have been married a year and a half and been together almost 6 years... I'm an accountant. I don't know what else to tell you I'm pretty boring.

Siamese253 · January 2014

ed16564 said:

This is my first cycle TTC. My DH and I have done a lot of bding and last night was ovulation baby dancing. I went to bed and 2 hours later I woke up in absolute panic. I was so scared that I'd get pregnant and not handle the pregnancy well, I was scared that maybe we weren't ready, I was scared that I wasn't mature enough. The thing is I want this but now I'm panicked that I've made the wrong decision and I'll get pregnant this cycle and not be ready, has this happened to any of you? What did you do about it. I'm just so anxious and it's another 12 days until I'll know if I'm preggo or not.

Hmm, well this post will probably get a lot of snark. Particularly since you posted it on two boards, but... Sure, during my TTC process I have panicked over the thought of actually having a child.

It's normal, so relax. Either you're pregnant this month and you'll have 9 months to get used to the idea, or you aren't pregnant and you can reevaluate next cycle.

katie0919 · January 2014

It's okay to be nervous - I was PANICKED when I got a BFP with my son - first of all, we weren't trying/weren't preventing and I was 31 years old....naturally, I just thought it would take longer than a couple months of drinking a lot of wine and hopping in the sack. But my pani lasted literally 2 hours, then I was sooooooo happy and ecstatic.

Last month was my first cycle trying for a second baby and I had a mild freak out moment after I knew I O'd - what if I got pregnant?! Am I ready for a second child?? But, it passed quickly because I KNOW FOR SURE I want another baby.

You are pretty young and have lots of time. I say take a deep breath, calm down, and think things through. In reality, you only have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each month. So, if it doesn't happen this month, maybe take some time to really think things through with your H. If you still have doubts, wait a few months and try again.

You'll figure it out and either way it will be great! If you are KU this month, you may be in shock at first, but you will be so happy in the end.

ed16564 · January 2014

Thanks everyone. Sorry if I broke forum etiquette. I really just am super nervous all the sudden and never really use these things... Thanks for the newbie link.

archi35 · January 2014

I agree with @katiewest: if you wait until you're "sure" you'll wait forever. I too am nervous to have a baby simply because we waited a bit and are now set in our ways. But I look at all our friends who are making it work and I know we will too!

ed16564 · January 2014

Thanks so much for the info- I really appreciate it!

ed16564 · January 2014

Thanks for the advice. I really just had no idea that this was such a "friend" place. I know in high school I'd use yahoo questions for random things and it was never a big deal that you were anonymous. Should I just do a separate post to introduce myself?

janda426 · January 2014

ed16564 said:

Thanks for the advice. I really just had no idea that this was such a "friend" place. I know in high school I'd use yahoo questions for random things and it was never a big deal that you were anonymous. Should I just do a separate post to introduce myself?

You can if you want. Take what you learn from the newbie blog and maybe ease your way in by commenting in the two week wait thread posted daily.

missnacholover · January 2014

When I see "baby dancing" I think of the dancing baby from Ally McBeal. Anyway.

The first couple of months after I got off the pill I would have some slight "OMG, we're actually doing this!" panics, but it's worn off. I think it's normal because having kids is kind of a big deal.

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