NTTGP: I wish I could slap this woman.

joshua+rebecca11 · January 2014

Really???

https://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/

She makes me furious. I know some amazing moms and amazing career women. And have good friends in both places. And respect both of their choices for life.

I love how Amy Glass says,"Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. "

"Anyone can do them??" Really? Then why do I have an excellent friend who is attractive, has a good job, nice lady, and wants desperately to be married and to share her life with someone, and yet hasn't managed to do this thing that "anyone can do"? And why do I know countless people, who have tried for years to have a baby and can't? No, Amy Glass, "anyone" can't do them.

And FYI...one of the last things I want to do is backpack across Asia. And havin kids has nothing to do with that.

Sorry for any typos, i'm on mobile and don't want to fix them.

1and1is3 · January 2014

(O_O)
What the fuck did I just read?! I'm really trying to see where she is coming from but I don't get how anyone could say that taking care of a home and family isn't "real" work.

oneblessedmess · January 2014

I saw this yesterday. I honestly felt bad for that lady after I read it. I can't imagine what kind of life a person who thinks that major life events like getting married and having children are something to look down on would lead, but it can't be all that great.

It's one thing to say marriage and kids aren't for you, it's another to say that women who do those things are doing "nothing".

ETA: I particularly like the bit about how a woman will "never have the time, energy, freedom, or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids." Exceptional by what standards? Guess I'm doomed then!

wishiwaspreggo · January 2014

"You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids."

Um... I know plenty of women who are exceptional, and who are married with kids.

Empireceo · January 2014

wishiwaspreggo said:

"You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids."
Um... I know plenty of women who are exceptional, and who are married with kids.

Coming out of lurkdom to say WTF? So that applies for men too right? No exceptional men have wives and kids, right?

norweigan · January 2014

Hillary Clinton is married and has a kid. BOOM!

norweigan · January 2014

Also don't we want exceptional people to breed? So they can create more exceptional people? Why is she discouraging this.

ETA: I say this because I believe articles like this is what makes a lot of women who want kids or want to stay home be scared to do both because they feel like they will be judged by others. It's stupid. Read the Feminist Mystique for crying out loud. It was written by a housewife and was all about being able to choose what you want to do, whatever that may be.

wishiwaspreggo · January 2014

Empireceo said:

wishiwaspreggo said:

"You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids."
Um... I know plenty of women who are exceptional, and who are married with kids.

Coming out of lurkdom to say WTF? So that applies for men too right? No exceptional men have wives and kids, right?

Men can be exceptional with wives and kids because the wives handle all the mundane tasks that go along with child rearing and housekeeping. Every good feminist knows that childcare and maintaining marital satisfaction are *strictly* a woman's domain. Men are superior to us so they don't have to waste their time on meaningless nonsense like helping with the dishes or changing the baby's diaper. Which is why we must all strive to be men! Yay feminism!

joshua+rebecca11 · January 2014

@jefa621
Wow she really can't make up her mind, can she? I didn't see that other post she had done. Gosh, woman. And obviously she wants to/plans on/ has kids because she says something about "her daughters". Maybe she's against young women marrying and having kids and thinks we should wait til we're older and less fertile.

Twinkie0612 · January 2014

::looks at siggy::

Yeah, for some of us getting pregnant will be a huge effing accomplishment.

BabyCowbell · January 2014

I suspect she might have slightly exaggerated her opinions to get that shock value. Which probably would be another sign she's a terrible person.

musicalmommy3 · January 2014

If I ever met this woman I would slap her. She clearly can't find anyone to marry her 'cause she's a dumb b*&ch.

janda426 · January 2014

Meh, she's just writing troll-ish shit because she's not talented enough to write about any actual news stories. She wrote another article called "in defense of trolling" this woman sounds like she could use a family. She sounds bored as fuck.

LostFan716 · January 2014

MrsRexManing said:

It's beyond me how someone could get her panties in such a twist over someone else's life choices.

This times a thousand. I strongly feel this way on so many levels and have actually been really struggling lately with trying to get over what people (*cough*MIL*cough*) think about my personal life choices. I just don't understand people who take the time to judge life choices that have no negative impact on anyone. The whole concept infuriates me to no end!

LittleLadyAKS · January 2014

I see she's also the author of "Successful Women Don't Fall in Love." Sounds to me like someone's bitter about being alone and is trying to find a way to justify it.

To me, this blog post is about as awful as "23 things to Do Instead of Getting Married at 23". Here's the link if you haven't read this yet:

https://wanderonwards.com/2013/12/30/23-things-to-do-instead-of-getting-engaged-before-youre-23/

Here's the way I see it. Work your ass of in your career if you want. Work your ass of raising your family if that's what you choose to do. Get married younger or get married older. Neither option is better than the other. It all boils down to personal preference.

LostFan716 · January 2014

LittleLadyAKS said:

I see she's also the author of "Successful Women Don't Fall in Love." Sounds to me like someone's bitter about being alone and is trying to find a way to justify it.

To me, this blog post is about as awful as "23 things to Do Instead of Getting Married at 23". Here's the link if you haven't read this yet:

https://wanderonwards.com/2013/12/30/23-things-to-do-instead-of-getting-engaged-before-youre-23/

Here's the way I see it. Work your ass of in your career if you want. Work your ass of raising your family if that's what you choose to do. Get married younger or get married older. Neither option is better than the other. It all boils down to personal preference.

Dear Lord, that one killed me too. No 22-year-old should be doling out "wisdom" on the Internet. Or claiming to have "more life experience at 22 than her married peers will experience in a lifetime." Snort.

Pintobean39 · January 2014

LostFan716 said:

LittleLadyAKS said:

I see she's also the author of "Successful Women Don't Fall in Love." Sounds to me like someone's bitter about being alone and is trying to find a way to justify it.

To me, this blog post is about as awful as "23 things to Do Instead of Getting Married at 23". Here's the link if you haven't read this yet:

https://wanderonwards.com/2013/12/30/23-things-to-do-instead-of-getting-engaged-before-youre-23/

Here's the way I see it. Work your ass of in your career if you want. Work your ass of raising your family if that's what you choose to do. Get married younger or get married older. Neither option is better than the other. It all boils down to personal preference.

Dear Lord, that one killed me too. No 22-year-old should be doling out "wisdom" on the Internet. Or claiming to have "more life experience at 22 than her married peers will experience in a lifetime."
Snort.

Actually the woman that had the 23 things to do had some good points in there. I just don't think she came about it all the right way. When I look back on my life and how I was a 22 was no way the person I was at 30. Even though I was married and had a child I still was growing up and changing as a person. I have a son now that's 20 and my one piece of advice to him is "what's the rush, learn to live first". I want him to grow up first and learn who he is first before he settles down and I think at 22 many people just aren't there yet.

LostFan716 · January 2014

Pintobean39 said:

LittleLadyAKS said:

I see she's also the author of "Successful Women Don't Fall in Love." Sounds to me like someone's bitter about being alone and is trying to find a way to justify it.

To me, this blog post is about as awful as "23 things to Do Instead of Getting Married at 23". Here's the link if you haven't read this yet:

https://wanderonwards.com/2013/12/30/23-things-to-do-instead-of-getting-engaged-before-youre-23/

Here's the way I see it. Work your ass of in your career if you want. Work your ass of raising your family if that's what you choose to do. Get married younger or get married older. Neither option is better than the other. It all boils down to personal preference.

Dear Lord, that one killed me too. No 22-year-old should be doling out "wisdom" on the Internet. Or claiming to have "more life experience at 22 than her married peers will experience in a lifetime." Snort.
Actually the woman that had the 23 things to do had some good points in there. I just don't think she came about it all the right way. When I look back on my life and how I was a 22 was no way the person I was at 30. Even though I was married and had a child I still was growing up and changing as a person. I have a son now that's 20 and my one piece of advice to him is "what's the rush, learn to live first". I want him to grow up first and learn who he is first before he settles down and I think at 22 many people just aren't there yet.

I do agree that *some* of her points may be helpful for *some* people.

But, to me, the overall tone of her article comes across as "At 22 I have experienced so much, and anyone who does it any differently is doing it wrong and will never have the experience I have."

I think my 51- and 52-year-old parents would argue that they have experienced much more than she has despite having gotten married at 20 and 21...

Also, she makes some pretty offensive generalizations and assumptions about people who get married young.

janda426 · January 2014

@lostfan716 I agree. She suggests sitting naked in a window, disappointing your parents and eating Nutella as things to do before throwing your life away by getting married.

Uh yeah, I'm good- thanks. No desire to do any of those things. Also I guess being married means you can't eat Nutella? Dafuq?

My H and I have been together for 5 years and I was 20 when I married him. We've travelled every year to a new place together, bought a home, laughed, cried, explored, done MANY things and it's all that much better with him by my side.

She's all like "if it's really love, you can wait to get married" but if it's really love, then shouldn't you be in a committed relationship? Somehow I don't think she'd want to be "strapped down" and not be able to run off and do stupid shit as she suggests. Seems to me like she'd be looking to cheat on this person she loves and hopes they're still around in a few years when she's ready to settle down. I know it's one of those articles meant to be shared and discussed and get her popular, but people really do think these things and it pisses me off.

I don't judge anyone my age who's still "finding themselves" and partying often, spontaneously moving across country, or what have you. Do what makes you happy, and don't judge others when they're clearly happy and fulfilled with their life. She writes off our happiness because it's not the same as her own. I agree, she is very immature and probably shouldn't get married- however, she should look outside of her little judgemental bubble and see the world doesn't revolve around her.

janda426 · January 2014

DovahFel said:
And sure enough there was a contrast article. This first one pissed me off...this response, really make me angry.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/sarah-larson/2014/01/i-think-people-without-kids-have-empty-lives-and-im-not-sorry-about-it/

Oh. According to her not having kids is tantamount to being racist. Right.... Moving right along...

LaDyBostonRN · January 2014

I posted this on facebook and it generated the biggest outrage ever

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