Shower Question STM

PrincessJess19 · January 2014

My friends are throwing us a shower since it's our first girl. (YAY!!) But do I/should I create a registry? Since I'm a STM, I have most of the gear we'll need, just not the girl stuff. Is it helpful to register or a waste of time?

Kmbaybay · January 2014

Uh oh

knash87 · January 2014

I personally wouldn't. I keep being told if this one (our second) is a boy, they want to thriow us a shower. I already feel a little uncomfortable about it, and all the big stuff we have is gender neutral, so I personally wouldn't feel the need to create a registry. But it's really up to you!

sammy.k · January 2014

X_X

Letayloreo · January 2014

are you aware that there is a way to search and see if this topic has already been discussed? maybe you should do that...

Edit: spelling is tough tonight

AugustGlass · January 2014

Skip the registry. People will likely buy an outfit or something small and I'm not sure how many people would even look at a registry for those things anyway.

PrincessJess19 · January 2014

Wow! Some of you really know how to make someone feel awful for asking a simple question! I feel like if you can't be nice about it then don't even bother...

Letayloreo · January 2014

despicable me (456) Animated Gif on Giphy

PrincessJess19 · January 2014

I don't have much time and aren't around to search the boards often. I didn't take the time to dig and didn't know that I could search previous threads. For those of you who answered, thanks!

Ykford80 · January 2014

Your pregnancy, your baby, your shower. I say GO FOR IT! If I were you I would put small things on the registry like diapers, wipes, blankets, bottles...just the basics.

theoryofwhat · January 2014

PrincessJess19 said:

I don't have much time and aren't around to search the boards often. I didn't take the time to dig and didn't know that I could search previous threads. For those of you who answered, thanks!

It takes maybe a minute to do a search and find the right topic. It takes way more time than that to create a post and wait for answers. Just sayin'.

And since we're getting our GIF on:

EmilyGolden1 · January 2014

Why?

MamaLlama14 · January 2014

PrincessJess19 said:

I don't have much time and aren't around to search the boards often. I didn't take the time to dig and didn't know that I could search previous threads. For those of you who answered, thanks!

There's an entire board for baby showers if you didn't really "have the time" to look here for the answer. Don't get your panties in a bunch because people are honest with you.

FWIW, my opinion: showers are to welcome parents to parenthood- not to welcome the baby that isn't even here yet. Don't disguise a gift-giving event as a celebration of the baby. If you're already a parent, there's no need for a shower. Have a celebration for the baby after he/she arrives and I'm sure you can still count on people to bring you a few gifts, without the guise of a shower or registry.

mrstengallonhat1 · January 2014

LDQAM516 · January 2014

We had a sprinkle/tea party with our first girl…did not request gifts but everyone asked anyways. We just said if that if you feel the need…girl clothes would be appreciated. I personally do not see the whole fuss about a second get together. Some people have huge families and a huge circle of friends that truly enjoy doing these things. I have already been asked several times if I want to have a small get together. I refuse because this is our fourth baby…but still…the interest is always there and if someone wants to do it for you…then go ahead! But registering in my opinion would be weird and totally not necessary.

kristine526 · January 2014

This again? No. You don't need to register all over again. If someone is going to be gracious enough to throw you a shower/sprinkle after you just had a kid three years ago, you can be gracious enough to accept whatever the guests give you.

Kageer · January 2014

Yes to the shower, no to registering. If people ask, you can point them in a general direction, ie clothes, bibs, diapers. I am a third time mom, having my first girl and a friend, my mom and my mil all asked to throw me a shower. I asked that they combined forces to one event and I am keeping the guest list small and not registering. I am sure most people will get clothes which honestly is fine with me. I am not expecting anything but will be excited for anything I do happen to receive.

theoryofwhat · January 2014

ErBear1010 said:

Please refer to your other post:
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12206670/to-shower-or-sprinkle-or-do-we-even-bother#latest

Oh wow. So she's already asked here. Goodness, this just got interesting. I see many GIFs in this posts future.

deanna1313 · January 2014

@PrincessJess19 don't worry about asking the question again. It's really not that big of a deal. If people don't mind answering it again then they'll answer it. If not, they don't have to even open it:)

To each their own! If it's a small group of friends just doing a little shower for you because they are excited for a little girl, then no big deal. I'm a FTM, but don't plan to have a second shower when the time comes. I wouldn't do a registry. I would think it will be a small little stuff because it's #2 and mostly clothes since it's a girl.

If you are thinking about registering at babies r us I would do it soon since they have a promotion for an extra gift card after completion. Check it out!

MamaPiers · January 2014

I would not register for a second child unless it was a second marriage (and the first child for that marriage) or a very long time since the first baby. It's why gender neutral is the way to go:-)