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Please read and help! Sleeping at night.

JessdanrodJessdanrod member
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I really need advice and help on what I am to do with my LO. Everyone tells me to NOT have your baby sleep with you at night bc you can roll on your baby or you will have that much of difficult time getting them in their own bed when they are older. Me and my babies father are not together, she is with him every Wednesday and every other weekend. When I get her back her sleep pattern is always off. At his place she sleeps with him and not in her play pen (small house no room for her own crib). She can't sleep through the night in her playpen so they (him and his mom) moved her to the bed. There she sleeps through the night knowing the comfort of them being next to her. At my place she sleeps in her crib fine wake up at 4 wants to play and then I feed her she goes back to sleep. I assume this is a growth sput. However, on the Sunday nights I get her back she wake up every hour on the dot in her crib and I do not pick her up but put her back on her tummy and she quickly falls asleep. I guess my main question is, is there a problem with letting your LO fall asleep with you in the bed? Is it that much harder when they are older? I know she probably can not handle the back and forth, plus she is teething. I am just at loss of what to do because when I get her it takes me 3-4 nights to get her back on schedule everytime. PLEASE HELP!!!

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  • EveryusernameistakenEveryusernameistaken member
    Try asking this on the Attachment Parenting board, they can give you advice on safe cosleeping. Good luck!


     

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  • flummadiddle85flummadiddle85 member
    Everyusernameistaken said:
    Try asking this on the Attachment Parenting board, they can give you advice on safe cosleeping. Good luck!

    This. My experience with sleep setbacks with DS has been that he has always gone back to STTN in his crib without a whole lot of help from me. I don't mind bed sharing to get through rough patches.
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  • veetveetveetveet member
    I'd never put a baby in the bed with us. I know lots of people that do it and that's their choice. I have a few friends that have 4 and 5 year olds that have no idea how to sleep on their own and still sleep in their parents beds or in their room with one parent.... it's actually ruined a friend's marriage. Not for me.

    Occasionally my daughter will climb in and we don't mind. But it's never a habit.
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  • SLGILL1978SLGILL1978 member
    My husband is in the Army and gone large amounts of time. He was deployed the first five months of my daughter's life. We bed share. When it's just us two, she sleep on her side of the bed (against the wall) and I sleep on mine. Occasionaly she will roll to odd angles or right up against me but I always feel her. And she has only recently started to that when she became more mobile. Kind of like a mother's natural instinct you just know where she is. When daddy's home I sleep in the middle. Our bed is huge and can fit at least 3 full grown people comfortably. We also have a crib in the bedroom but baby has refused to sleep in it since day one. When she is ready we will transition her to her own bed. I am not concerned that it will be extreme because she sleeps very well on her own at daycare in a pack n play. I also have one at home (in the living room) that she naps in as well.
    I know bed sharing/co sleeping isn't for everyone and I never thought I would do it but it worked out great for us. I wish I would have started it earlier. That's my personal experience from a co sleeper :)
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