2nd posting on PGAL this week...just need extra support these days!
A little backstory, last time I was pregnant when I miscarried DH cousin outed us at a family function.
That same day we found out one of his other family members was pregnant too and our EDD were a week apart. I was ecstatic because I had someone to share my pregnancy with when pregnant with DS and it was amazing! The first few month were great. We talked baby names and I told her we had picked Mason for a boy. Obviously I ended up losing the baby.
A few weeks later she found out she was having a boy and announced she would name him Mason. My heart sank. It's hard enough for me to see her belly growing and see all her ultrasounds but on top of that she used the name I told her we chose?! I have never talked to her about how I feel.
Well a few more months have gone by and I have tried to be as supportive as I can. She asked me to do the candy table at her shower and because she helped so much with mine with DS, I agreed. I bought all the stuff and put so much work into the table but I can't help but feel like I just don't want to go. It's this weekend. I feel awful for being this way but I'm still hurting so much. And now that I am spotting with this pregnancy and I have so much on my mind I am almost in tears daily.
Would you go? How do I handle all this?
Thanks for all your support.
Re: Advice...support...bad week :(
I cant even imagine how hard this if for you. I am astounded that she would use the name you picked out after you lost the little one.
I think was she did was very hurtful and I completely understand you not wanting to go...but if it were me I would still go. The shower is about that child and that child had nothing to do with her decisions.
Maybe just skip out early.
I am sorry that you are dealing with this...I am sure this is not an easy time.
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Married 9/18/10
TTC 1/1/12
BFP #1 12/13/12 MMC Confirmed 1/30/13
BFP #2 6/17/13, (Clomid+Ovidrel) CP Confirmed 6/26/13
BFP #3 8/14/2013 (Letrozole+IUI) Charlie Grace born 5/2/2014
Laparoscopic surgery 8/15 to remove misplaced IUD
BFP #4, #5, #6 (Letrozole+IUI)all MMC, BFP #7 EDD 1/3/2017
I don't want to go and be mad at her. I don't want to go and cry. It's not about me. It's about her and that beautiful little baby that I am genuinely already in love with.
I am just having a hard time because of the obvious, my baby would have been born soon...and my current pregnancy isn't going well and I am terrified it's happening again. I have been crying all day because the spotting is getting worse, just like last time.
I feel so guilty but I am hurting so much I don't know if I can't take it emotionally.
Sending you many big ((HUGS))
4 rounds of clomid, 2 with IUI = BFN
BFP #1 May 20, 2013 MC June 27, 2013 BFP #2 August 2, 2013 Baby Boy born 4/25/14 (3 weeks overdue!)
April 14 August Siggy Challenge- "This time last year.."
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
BFP #1 : 3/20/13 | EDD: 12/1/13 | MC: 4/15/13
BFP #2: 1/9/14 | EDD: 9/21/14
Welcomed our rainbow bear on 8/31/14
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BFP #1, 3/12, EDD 11/9/12, MMC 3/27/12, D&C 4/10/12
BFP #2: 11/16/12, EDD 7/25/13, MMC 12/5/12, D&C 12/6/12, Complete molar pregnancy confirmed 2/9/13, benched for 6 months until August 2013
IUI #1, 8/16/13 Femara + Menopur, 3 mature follicles, BFN
IUI #3, 10/8/13 Femara + Menopur, six mature follicles, BFN
BFP #3, 12/9/2013, while on treatment break, EDD: 8/22/2014 Please stick and grow, LO!
Additional Dx: hypothyroidism, TgAb positive & anti-TPO positive, POR/DOR (2/2013), and suspected endometriosis
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BFP #1 08/05/12. EDD 4/15/13 m/c 08/27/12
BFP #2 06/05/13. EDD 2/16/2014 (Team Blue). Baby Wombat born 2/20/2014 7lb. 11oz and 20 in.