Is it so freaking hard??!!!!

mightymousy · January 2014

Is it so freaking hard to find your t-shirt and jeans without turning all the lights on??? I'm up all night with a baby who screams from 9-12 for no reason and then gets up every other hour at best to feed all night. Every freaking morning Mr.MM comes back in to the bedroom after his shower to get dressed and turns on blaring bright lights just to find the clothes he left on the floor in the first place and wakes me up, like he can't possibly see them with all the lights in the hall way already on and daylight starting to peek through the window! Adding to my frustration this morning he felt the need to hit snooze on his alarm. Now I'm usually understanding that he has to set one for work and deal with it waking me and sometimes the baby up, but it didn't HAVE to go off twice. I deal with all the baby stuff all night because I'm BFing and don't see the point in making him get up to help when he could use that rest for work. Is it so much to ask that he lay out his t-shirt and jeans the night before so I can maybe get that last hour of rest before taking care of a fussy newborn all day by my self and being up all night all over again?! WTF! He doesn't understand why I think he's being inconsiderate.

mightymousy · January 2014

Sorry *rant over*

aundrea1225 · January 2014

Wow that's exactly my life. Even the 9-12 bit.My DH is the worst with waking up LO. He aactually sets his clothes out in the hall way but he always forgets something and comes back in the room. Slamming doors and stomping around and yelling at the dog. This morning he came in to get ChapStick. Woke me up to ask where it was. So I made him change her diaper even though he was running late I was so pissed. Hang in there, some guys just need to be told more than once.

ReggieLou13 · January 2014

I feel like I wrote this. I finally got DH to stop snoozing and luckily his closet is in the laundry room. I made him realize how exhausting it is by having him get up all night w Reagan. Sorry, hope he changes his ways soon

imrachellea · January 2014

I had a similar thought about DH this morning...! He did get up with me to give a bottle while I pumped since it was about the time he gets up for work. I have specifically instructed him that we canNOT stimulate her much so she'll go back to sleep. So no bright lights...he throws on the hallway light and watches the news while he gives the bottle...no playing...he puts her in the bouncer (after he asked me if he should put her back down and I said yes) and bounces the monkeys around...then when I put her back in her bassinet (after I had to keep her on my chest for 30 minutes to calm her) he comes and is making faces at her so she'll smile. I get it that he misses a lot of time with her at work but SHE NEEDS TO SLEEP and so do I! Grrrrrrr

mamaj1220 · January 2014

I'm sorry

I hate when DF does that I want to punch him and K is a good sleeper if we get up twice it's a bad night for us so I can't imagine how tired you are. Hopefully he will get it.

mightymousy · January 2014

aundrea1225 said:

Wow that's exactly my life. Even the 9-12 bit.My DH is the worst with waking up LO. He aactually sets his clothes out in the hall way but he always forgets something and comes back in the room. Slamming doors and stomping around and yelling at the dog. This morning he came in to get ChapStick. Woke me up to ask where it was. So I made him change her diaper even though he was running late I was so pissed. Hang in there, some guys just need to be told more than once.

He woke you up over Chapstick? Holy crap id be pissed too!

mightymousy · January 2014

roxymatt said:

I feel like I wrote this. I finally got DH to stop snoozing and luckily his closet is in the laundry room. I made him realize how exhausting it is by having him get up all night w Reagan. Sorry, hope he changes his ways soon

If he keeps it up I'm totally going to do that! I love how when people ask us how it's going and if Archer's sleeping well, he'll immediately answer that it's been good, like he has any clue.

Caitlinh27 · January 2014

Definitely inconsiderate!

Brandi81012 · January 2014

Everyone needs to vent sometimes! I would be upset as well, sadly I am usually up with LO feeding her when DH alarm goes off.

mightymousy · January 2014

imrachellea said:

I had a similar thought about DH this morning...! He did get up with me to give a bottle while I pumped since it was about the time he gets up for work. I have specifically instructed him that we canNOT stimulate her much so she'll go back to sleep. So no bright lights...he throws on the hallway light and watches the news while he gives the bottle...no playing...he puts her in the bouncer (after he asked me if he should put her back down and I said yes) and bounces the monkeys around...then when I put her back in her bassinet (after I had to keep her on my chest for 30 minutes to calm her) he comes and is making faces at her so she'll smile. I get it that he misses a lot of time with her at work but SHE NEEDS TO SLEEP and so do I! Grrrrrrr

OMG yes! Mr.MM will come in to talk to him before he leaves for work after I just spent 30 minutes getting Archer back down because he woke him! How do they not get the concept of "stimulating"?!

Lmsr17 · January 2014

This is my life too! SMDH they just don't get it! Sigh.

mightymousy · January 2014

JennaDyer said:

I'm sorry I hate when DF does that I want to punch him and K is a good sleeper if we get up twice it's a bad night for us so I can't imagine how tired you are. Hopefully he will get it.

It sure is tempting isn't it some mornings? lol

mightymousy · January 2014

bay511 said:

This was us. Then, I had a slight meltdown, (oops) and DH took me seriously and took LO into the other bedroom for a whole lovely night. I pumped, then had some rum, took an Ambien, and slept 7 1/2 hours blissfully through. I didn't even move, my arm was asleep when I woke! After that, though, DH understands completely how difficult it can be to get her down, and how important it is to NOT STIMULATE her when she's tired or just up for a feeding. Hope you get some sleep soon, MM.

God that sounds amazing!

Ark2013 · January 2014

My H will come in after his shower to hug me and kiss me before he leaves. This would be fine if he wasn't so annoying about it. He will lean over the bed, on top of me for 10 minutes. Uhmm, yeah, I'm going to miss you too but I'm tired and I can't sleep while your squishing me. And he makes me feel like the bad guy when I complain about it.

Then this morning, Em starts to cry as he is leaving the room so he offers to bring her to me. I said no, just give her her soother so I can pee first. So he gives her the soother and brings her to me. Then I had to put her down so I could pee and she cried the whole time. She had a hard time going back to sleep from all the crying. By the time she was sleeping I had to get up to get my two oldest up for school. It's been a long day.

ErinO21 · January 2014

It absolutely chaps my ass when my husband doesn't turn off his alarms when he finally gets out of bed after hitting snooze at least 3 times. Sooo irritating. Luckily he hasn't done it since the baby was born.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

We've had the snooze war as well. I kind of sort of had a melt down about it and the following Friday I came home and there was milk defrosting on the counter. DH took DS and they stayed in the living room while I slept the whole night, just got up early in the am and pumped then went right back to sleep. It was glorious, any chance for something along the same lines for you? It helped two-fold; 1) I got to sleep 2) DH got to see what it's like to have to respond to the crying at night rather than just turn over and keep sleeping.

mightymousy · January 2014

Ark2013 said:
My H will come in after his shower to hug me and kiss me before he leaves. This would be fine if he wasn't so annoying about it. He will lean over the bed, on top of me for 10 minutes. Uhmm, yeah, I'm going to miss you too but I'm tired and I can't sleep while your squishing me. And he makes me feel like the bad guy when I complain about it.

Then this morning, Em starts to cry as he is leaving the room so he offers to bring her to me. I said no, just give her her soother so I can pee first. So he gives her the soother and brings her to me. Then I had to put her down so I could pee and she cried the whole time. She had a hard time going back to sleep from all the crying. By the time she was sleeping I had to get up to get my two oldest up for school. It's been a long day.

Ugh! That's so frustrating!

mightymousy · January 2014

McHotts said:
We've had the snooze war as well. I kind of sort of had a melt down about it and the following Friday I came home and there was milk defrosting on the counter. DH took DS and they stayed in the living room while I slept the whole night, just got up early in the am and pumped then went right back to sleep. It was glorious, any chance for something along the same lines for you? It helped two-fold; 1) I got to sleep 2) DH got to see what it's like to have to respond to the crying at night rather than just turn over and keep sleeping.

Right now Archer flips out when we try and give him a pumped bottle, but this is a really good idea. I'll have to get more diligent about trying to get him used to a bottle. It would be really nice to get a night off.

lp0 · January 2014

Omg yes! My DH doesn't turn the light on but has to open every draw ten fucking times. I tell him to get his clothes the night before but he doesn't. So I've been leaving his clothes folded in a clothes basket in the laundry room.

He also likes to hit the snooze button like five times. If he doesn't turn it off within a nanosecond he gets kicked.

I'm sorry your DH is being an asshat OP!

Buckeye608 · January 2014

mightymousy said:

bay511 said:

This was us. Then, I had a slight meltdown, (oops) and DH took me seriously and took LO into the other bedroom for a whole lovely night. I pumped, then had some rum, took an Ambien, and slept 7 1/2 hours blissfully through. I didn't even move, my arm was asleep when I woke! After that, though, DH understands completely how difficult it can be to get her down, and how important it is to NOT STIMULATE her when she's tired or just up for a feeding. Hope you get some sleep soon, MM.

God that sounds amazing!

That sounds pretty amazing. Throw in a bath or a leisurely shower and it'd be heaven on earth right now!

HerbanMom · January 2014

Men are just absolutely oblivious to their surroundings. SO is really quiet in the mornings when he gets up for work around 5:30... but after all that he'll go into the kitchen, which is close to our bedroom and slam cabinet doors, open and close the garage door which has a chime for the house alarm. He does the same crap at night while I'm trying to get LO to go to sleep, if I wasn't so focused on trying to get LO to sleep I'd go in there and slap him silly.

KelseyKetchum · January 2014

Unfortunately both my SO and I are loud we can't help it. So from day one we got baby use to slamming doors, TV, dogs barking in the room, use walking around his bassinet and loud voices (even though we usually talk at a normal volume). He sleeps through it all doesn't even flinch when there is a loud noise.

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