Anyone plan to find out gender and change their mind?

kchaves815 · January 2014

I have my anatomy scan on Thursday. When I first got pregnant, I decided I didn't want to find out the baby's gender until birth. My husband did want to find out, but he said he would agree either way. A few weeks went by and I started looking at clothes and nursery stuff and decided I wanted to know.
But just this weekend I went to babies r us to look at cribs. I don't know if it was because I didn't see any bedding I liked or something else, but I had the strangest feeling that I just am not ready to find out yet. I can't explain it- this is my first baby and I just feel like this is a special time for just me and the baby. I know nothing will really change if we find out but it feels that way.
Anyone else experience feelings like this? I am now torn and have 2 and a half days to decide whether I want to know or not!

cMichelle0423 · January 2014

Personally I do want to know. I also found out with my first pregnancy, and I'm glad I did. Not only did I feel more prepared when I was actually able to buy clothes and all that for a specific sex, but I felt like I was able to bond more with my baby knowing that he was a boy. I know that it doesn't matter whether or not it's a boy or girl, but for me, just knowing a little bit more about them made me feel a greater connection.

At the end of the day though, go with your gut. If you don't feel ready to find out, then wait. You can always call and ask, or just wait til the day they're born.

ricecakes1216 · January 2014

amoot890 said:
You don't have to decide before your scan. You could have the tech write it in a sealed envelope and you can decide later if you want to open it.

I'm just throwing this out there. We were in the same position as you. We didnt want to make the decision right then as we were still deciding if we wanted to know. I asked the tech if she could write it down and she told us she couldn't do that. I was shocked. I really didn't think it was that big of a deal. She was an intern so maybe she just never was faced with this question.

In the end we found out. I am so excited to know that we are having a son, but I regret finding out. Maybe it's because we were forced to make the decision then. I just feel like the "it's a..." moment was taken from us. I really looked forward to that at the hospital.

jacksoha · January 2014

Originally I didn't want to know but my DH did, so I agreed to find out. However now that we have picked out names and our a/s scan is tomorrow I can hardly wait! I've had a hard time attaching to the baby (mostly due to a loss a long time ago) and I think being able to call the baby by its name will really help me! But I also really like the idea of having it put in an envelope so just you and your SO can find out together!

justme04 · January 2014

I planned not to find out. DH refused to clear out the office for a nursery unless we did find out. I gave in. And I was completely shocked because with the string of boys DH has to his name (our 2 and the boy he fathered as a teenager and gave up for adoption to the mother's distant cousin) I was of course assuming it would be a boy. I'm pleasantly surprised to have been told this baby is a girl.

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