Maybe I should just stop reading??

Gizmo1231 · January 2014

I found my birth club and was so excited to meet other September DD moms

Then I feel like I gravitate to posts about MC and loss... it scares me. I know that MC is such a huge chance in the first trimester. I know this. I'm just so scared that it will happen to me after we tried for a year to conceive. I had my first U/S at 7w2d and we heard the heart beat and saw baby. Everything looked good. Go back on Friday (8w4d) for another U/S (first one was precautionary because I fell down the stairs). Do any of you have good ideas for how to calm your anxiety nerves for the first trimester/pregnancy? This is my first pregnancy and I'm wondering if I need to just give the internet a break for awhile.

DogfishHead · January 2014

It is normal to have anxiety about miscarriage in the firstt ri. It is normal to worry about stillbirth int he second and third tris. It is normal to worry about SIDS during infancy. Part of motherhood is worrying. But, if you feel that your worry has reached an unhealthy level, it may be best to get off the internet for the time being. The internet can certainly add to the fear.

AnyMax · January 2014

Don't keep reading the posts right now if you are not in a good place. But miscarriages are not contagious.

After four losses and dealing with one of my loss milestones today, the best I can do is remind myself that today I am pregnant, and I love my LO very much.

GlitterMuffin914 · January 2014

It's totally normal to be nervous. I think we all are at times. The important thing to remember is that while miscarriages are a common occurrence, the odds actually are in your favor (something like 75-80% or so. After you see that heartbeat, even more so.

People tend to post a lot more with questions and in need of support, which is why there are a larger amount of loss and pregnancy problems related posts. People who have super normal pregnancies with no big concerns tend to post a bit less frequently. Keep that in mind too.

MrsLaLaBug · January 2014

GlitterMuffin914 said:
It's totally normal to be nervous. I think we all are at times. The important thing to remember is that while miscarriages are a common occurrence, the odds actually are in your favor (something like 75-80% or so. After you see that heartbeat, even more so.

People tend to post a lot more with questions and in need of support, which is why there are a larger amount of loss and pregnancy problems related posts. People who have super normal pregnancies with no big concerns tend to post a bit less frequently. Keep that in mind too.

This!!

Maggie-Moo · January 2014

Nope, sorry I wish I had a way to calm nerves, but drinking is out for the time being I agree with others that worrying is part of the mom-job and right now, m/c are scary for lots of us. I think it is good to be generally aware of the possibility of problems, but focus on the fact that everything looks good right now especially since you saw the heartbeat! Yay!

If you worry that you are getting obsessed, there is nothing wrong with taking a break and a little breather to put things in perspective and come back when you are feeling more ready to. Whatever works for you is the best thing for you to do! But, no, m/c are not contagious, nor can you jinx your pregnancy by reading too many/not enough posts about them.

AmandaR204 · January 2014

Take it a day at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. Most importantly, enjoy your pregnancy, they don't happen very often and are over quicker than you think. Then your children grow so fast. So be here now, in the moment newly pregnant and enjoy it.

Gizmo1231 · February 2014

Maggie-Moo I think we have the same due date

MMason12 · February 2014

You aren't the only one who worries about having miscarriages. There are plenty of ladies here who have gone through them in the past and are now pregnant again. At the end of the day miscarriages happen and just because it happens to one person doesn't mean it will happen to you. There really isn't anything you can do in the first trimester to avoid a miscarriage. As much as it sucks -- I've been there and experienced one -- it is out of your control.

You should really just try to take it day by day. One day at a time. And I would suggest you just stop reading the loss posts. Also, try to remember... thousands of women are pregnant and are due in September and there are only a couple hundred who post here. The sample size is small so each and every loss seems to have a bigger impact.

worldinapapercup · February 2014

I think pregnancy is a good trial run for ALL of the worrying we will do for the rest of our kids lives. I'm a natural worrier so I'm trying really hard to focus on the fact that I am indeed pregnant (right now) and not on what could be. I heard a quotation a month or two ago and it has become my mantra: "Worrying is literally betting against yourself."

mrsH1112 · February 2014

I can sympathize completly. Its hard because the more you worry or stress about it, the more you'll obsess about different things and feel like a ball of worry and stress.

I think its natural to worry. I personally try and take all the possible sad posts and put it against all the great posts of women who have had positive appointments and everything is fine.

Someone put a great line up along the lines of "As of Today Im pregnant and I love my baby" Im trying to think about that everyday!

Also give yourself little milestones, look forward to getting to your next drs appointment, seeing the baby again. Then get through your 10th week...then into your 2nd trimester. Makes things go by less slow.

Ive been obsessing everyday over my symptoms...then over my lack of symptoms...I dont even have my 1st appointment for another week!

My husband always tells me even if something happened, as sad as we would be, there is nothing we could have done differently to prevent that outcome and it happens for a reason.

Good luck!

Want a personalized experience?

Maybe I should just stop reading??

Re: Maybe I should just stop reading??

Choose Another Board

Search Boards