Uh-Oh Work Dinner....How to hide pregnancy?

drae86 · January 2014

So, I'm only 7 weeks today and not ready to disclose any information on this pregnancy to anyone I work with right now, I haven't even been to the doc yet (tom!!!!). However, my two big bosses just mentioned they'd be in town and want to take us all to dinner at this fancy restaurant.

I have to preface, that at least one of my bosses, is somewhat of a pusher. Alcohol is invoved in almost all work functions, and I have never been one to turn it down either. So far, I've been able to hide preggo with 'cleanses/detoxes' from friends because I have done them before. But that won't work when they're taking me out to dinner, not to mention I"m definitely going to eat all I can there, food is amazing. However, I'm sure they will order wine for the table or drinks all around etc. This is the predicament. I work practically with all men and am in line to take over the office...not sure how pregnancy would affect this.

Getting to far off topic. Do I order a glass of wine and slowly sip throughout dinner with water say I have to drive etc? Order wine and don't really drink it? Boss will know somethings up if i dont order anything

I have a plan to tell them, and me not drinking isn't the way to go about it.

kmbk27 · January 2014

I second the antibiotics excuse. It is what I used at my work dinner a week or two ago - worked well enough!

SingleMom31 · January 2014

I agree with PP. Either that or catch the waitress alone and tell her that you'd like her to hold the alcohol from your drinks... I did that once and she didn't mind ringing them up at the higher price and getting a bigger tip.

athara · January 2014

I'd go with the antibiotics excuse too, if it was me.

MMason12 · January 2014

I would just tell them you are on some medication (an antibiotic like others have said) where you can't drink.

SocraTeaseMe · January 2014

Tell them you can't drink b/c you are too hung over from drinking at your desk all day.

That should shut them up.

Are people that rude these days that they call you out for not drinking? It's my experience that a person who even notices that someone else is not drinking probably has a drinking problem.

Good luck.

Bonnesetter27 · January 2014

SocraTeaseMe said:

Are people that rude these days that they call you out for not drinking? It's my experience that a person who even notices that someone else is not drinking probably has a drinking problem.

Yeah I don't really get these posts on how to hide drinking. I am a social drinker but no one I know would really question why I am not drinking. And if they did what do I care if they suspect. I mean I am going to tell them about it sooner or later (if all goes well). If they are bold enough to say something I would just shrug it off and say I am really tired and not feeling like it tonight. I really don't think your guy bosses would even suspect because don't really think that way.

drae86 · January 2014

Thanks all. The prescription idea is golden. One of my bosses might not question, but like i said one is definitely a pusher and likes to have fun, and unfortunately I was apparently a lush prior to pregnancy, and they've never seen me turn down a beverage.

Being on antibiotics is a great idea and one I never thought of bc I'm never on them! Last weekend, we were obligated to go a bday party and I just bought some n/a wine and put it in old wine bottle. It definitely worked (but the n/a wine was not very good!)

JenniferAnn1972 · January 2014

I got away with the "on medication" excuse for an entire weekend away. It works great!

Ceridwen21 · January 2014

When I was pregnant with DS, for a work function I made sure I was the first to show up at the table and I spoke with the waitress beforehand so she knew to hold the alcohol from whatever mixed drink I ordered. I drank virgin ceasars and "vodka" sodas, and no one batted an eye.

bumpuser10024844 · January 2014

I agree with others that I doubt people will question you, especially since it's work related. But I went to dinner the other night with some friends, and the person who I thought was least likely to say something asked me why I wasn't having a drink. My excuse is that I'm nursing, which is actually a valid reason. But if you're not nursing, then I'd just that I don't feel like. I'm a really terrible liar. I'd probably get all flustered if I said I was taking medicine and I really wasn't.

coffee bean · January 2014

I work in the exact same type of environment. All men and when we go out, I'm not one to say no to drinks either. My boss would definitely know something is up if I didn't drink wine at a work dinner.

Hmmmmm. I guess I would either see if you can get a seltzer with lime at the bar ahead of time (maybe show up a few min early?), then sip it during dinner slowly saying you have to drive. Just say it's a vodka soda.

Or could you say there is some medical reason you can't drink?

henderson1026 · January 2014

SingleMom31 said:

I agree with PP. Either that or catch the waitress alone and tell her that you'd like her to hold the alcohol from your drinks... I did that once and she didn't mind ringing them up at the higher price and getting a bigger tip.

This was my idea, too. Order "mixed drinks" all night.

I get why some people feel the need to hide drinking, anyone who knows me knows I love my wine. Thankfully I have breastfeeding as my excuse this time. Expect with my moms group since they have seen me drinking before and know I EBF. We are having a mimosa brunch soon and I am sure one of them will guess correctly.

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