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October 2013 Moms
Welshgirl12
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just coasting
Welshgirl12
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Anyone else feel this way? I feel like I have zero time to myself to relax, absolutely zero time with Dh, nor enough time with LO. Our. Days are so rushed getting up to go to work, being at work, 1&1/2 hr commute home, eat, clean up, prep pump for next day, and bed since LO is still up several times a night...
I feel like I'm coasting, not like in getting chance to kick back and enjoy anything. Could this be ppd? I just feel miserable right now
I don't know where to find time in the day to do anything, and then our weekends are chock a block filed with laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning, feeding.
Maybe I'm just being a miserable cow.
I feel like I'm coasting, not like in getting chance to kick back and enjoy anything. Could this be ppd? I just feel miserable right now
I don't know where to find time in the day to do anything, and then our weekends are chock a block filed with laundry, grocery shopping, cleaning, feeding.Maybe I'm just being a miserable cow.
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Re: just coasting
I feel that my mornings with LO are rushed getting him ready for daycare and myself ready for work. Then when we get home 9 hours later, the cleaning of bottles/pump, dinner, bath, his colic and screaming. Then still getting up at least 3 times a night. And repeat. Sometimes I also feel that there isn't much joy during these hours with him.
I'm sorry you are going through this! No advice, just know you aren't alone!
My family had a little intervention for me last week bc I've been such a basket case. We went to my parents and they watched LOs while I got a massage. It was awesome but the relaxation was short lived.
Hang in there! I think it will get better though for all of us. Each month is just a teeny bit easier than the month before. Hopefully it will get a little easier with time.
You are not alone. I also feel like I'm coasting and have no time to do fun things.
I know with my daughter things eventually got easier closer to 6 months. Here's hoping.
BFP #1: Mother's Day 5/13/12...m/c Memorial Day Weekend 5/26/12
BFP #2: 2/16/13...Owen Ray born 6 weeks early 9/9/13
You are not a miserable cow. This shit is real. It's rough. I'm sorry you are feeling so down.
@ballygirl I was a mothers helper in my teen years for a new mom with twins. You have all my respect.
And now cutting my response short for a crying DS (it's only appropriate) thinking of all you ladies not just the two lovely ones I named
I don't know bout you guys, but we're stuck in this polar vortex thing, so going out much isn't really an option. Maybe life will get a little easier when the weather improves?
And I'm sick again. BF'ing might be great for DS but its killing me
I feel like this all day every day
You are not alone
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
All of you working mommas are fucking heroic.
But yes I understand the coasting.
I look at the clock and wonder how it got to be 2 o'clock and I've yet to do anything of substance.
I have been on TB a little less though because I've been really trying to make some IRL mom friends. I've found it helps me feel like a real person and more confidence in my handle on this new life.
:::hugs:::
Hang in the everyone!
ALL of this is temporary!
The only thing I look forward to some days is bedtime.
Eleanor 9.30.13
If you really think you have PPD, talk to a professional, seriously.
And talk to your DH about all of it. Acknowledge that it is a huge life change for both of you. It's just tough for men to relate to what is now your reality. Ironically and coincidentally, H's tend to experience a different isolation because they don't have the same bond as mom with LO. And they don't necessarily appreciate the isolation of the constant demands of LO. They will figure it out though. Sometimes it takes hearing it from someone else to realize you're not making stuff up.
You really have to communicate as much as possible. People tend to get in their own groove and disregard each other's reality because they are too caught up to care.
The good news is that (hopefully) the more isolated you feel, the more motivated you'll feel to break out of that isolation. Figuring out how to do that, for you and your family, is the hard part.
No doubt, your commute sucks and
takes up a huge chunk of your day. But you'll find your way.
You've shared with this board. Don't be afraid to share with other resources you have or may not even know you have. You never know.
The daily grind is tough stuff but it will become more of a groove. It all takes practice. Then you'll be like "I got this. Let's have another." Hard to believe but that's how people have multiple kids.
Breathe in. Breathe out. Repeat.
I know that my little boy is thriving and happy so that's what makes me feel guilty for feeling the way I do. I haven't talked to my friends in about 2 years (they basically said we were only friends because we were stuck working together. Whatever, d-bags). We have talked to my husbands family in 3 years which is great (they are mean assholes hahaha). In my family I only talk to my mom and one cousin, the rest only talk to me when they want something.
I sometimes feel like I'm on my own even though my husband is beyond helpful and a great dad. He works alot and owns his own business so when it's busy he's not really home. I had a hard time after my csection because he was in the middle of a crazy workload and I was at home trying to recover, take care of a baby and insecure dog.
Some days I sit and cry when I think that my little boy doesn't have cousins to grow up with or loving grandparents around. I'm an only child and even though my parents are together they shouldn't be. They stress me out to be around and I never take my DS over to see them.
I know this is all just temporary and once he gets older or into activities things will change. I'm glad my cousin mentioned this website. I feel like I'm not alone.
Good luck ladies!!
I had a full on cry fest this morning after I finally got LO down for a nap. She is at this awful stage where she is tired but hates to nap because the world is so damn interesting. She didn't nap enough yesterday and spent all evening screaming, too upset to eat and nothing was calming her down. When does this baby stuff get any easier? I'm in the boat with everyone else, it's lonely, DH doesn't really get it and I feel like I'm in replay mode each day. I'm not even back to work yet, 2 more weeks until that fun begins.
Glad to hear people saying it gets better at 6 months. I'd been told 3 months and that shit just isn't true, she's harder now then when she was a newborn. Hang in there, we can do this!
I agree! Harder now than when she was a newborn!!
Add me to the list of coasting mommas. Being at work, I stay busy, but spend the whole time wondering what DS is doing and wishing I was with him. I also feel alone at work because I spend my breaks pumping instead of socializing with co-workers. I almost feel ostrasized because of it.
Forget keeping in touch with friends. None live nearby and I just don't have the extra minutes in the day or mental energy to take time right now and call them up. The weekends are all about errands and catch up time with DH & DS.
By the time I pick up DS during the week and get home it's around 6pm. DH is great getting dinner around and cleaning up(I pre-cook on the weekends), but I am rushing around washing pumping parts and getting stuff ready for the next day. I like to spend the evening focusing on DS, but we both are usually worn out and it isn't the same playing together. He falls asleep by 8pm, so the time is also limited. The weekends are awesome and I feel like all is well with life again...and then Monday it starts all over. I just miss him so much and can't imagine keeping this routine up for another how many years. Phyically I can do it (barely); but emotionally I am not so sure. Trying to figure something out so I can be with him more....
BFP #2 - 2/13/13 - EDD 10/24/13 - born 10/29/13 - Kian Edward
BFP #3 - 7/16/15 - EDD 3/27/16 - born 3/23/16 - Liam James