"Realistically, we figure he can be back in about 9-10 hours, depending on the next flight. "
You could have a baby in less than that. It happens all the time. I would not take any chances here, especially without another strong support system.
Also- your doctor is "guessing" that you have another two weeks. They also "guessed" that you would have the baby on your edd. It's a guess. Not a guarantee.
I can't stay away from this thread. I'm shocked he'd risk it. A baby could be born in 9-10 hours. Fingertip dilated means shit. I've had friends walk around at 3cm for weeks and friends go from closed tight to baby in arms in less than 8 hours.
You need to tell him that going means there is a very real chance he'll miss the birth and that you'll never forgive him.
I'm actually a bit disgusted that he'd leave his wife alone, on bed rest, with a high risk pregnancy for a recreational trip. This isn't a business trip or something he can't get out of. This isn't work. This isn't a deployment. This is him, choosing to go have fun, while you sit home alone on bed rest. That's not okay. Not okay at all.
Leave the possibly missing the birth alone. You're on bed rest. You're at the end of your pregnancy. You've had ptl and are high risk. Those are all the reasons he shouldn't go. It doesn't matter if baby doesn't come for two weeks. He shouldn't go on a VACATION and leave you alone right now. That would be wrong. That shouldn't even be an option. He shouldn't leave you alone to go have fun. That's terrible and unfair and irresponsible and unkind. You are his priority, not hunting. He is not acting like that right now.
With my first, I was checked on a Wednesday and was fully closed and not effaced at all. My FFN test even came back negative. By Friday I was in labor. I was dilating and effacing very quickly.
You have stated how you feel if he misses the birth of your child, which I think is very valid, but I would also ask him how he would feel. There will be plenty of opportunities to go hunting, but this child will only be born once.
I would not be OK with this and my mom lives a mile down the road from me.
I'm so angry about this. Really. What kind of man picks hunting over his wife on bed rest?
This.
If you are on bedrest, how will you properly take care of yourself? Without a strong support system physically around, you will have no choice but to do things you should not do. This alone could send you back into labor.
@rondackhiker I am hearing everything you're saying. I couldn't agree more- I'm just trying to get him to realize these things. I truly think he's in denial that anything could happen. But... As you've said- and as I've tried to get him to realize... Even if NOTHING else happens, leaving me right now isn't fair or worth it.
I feel like a fighting a losing battle. I'm about to go shread his hunting license.
I'm so angry about this. Really. What kind of man picks hunting over his wife on bed rest?
I don't think that's fair. It doesn't sound like he is choosing hunting over her. It sounds like she is telling him she is ok with him leaving (even though she maybe isn't?). If the doctor told my husband I probably have 2 wks to go, he would also take it as a green light. I would be defensive if someone said he is choosing hunting (or whatever) over me/our family. You can't sit around and put life on hold, just in case. Anything could happen to any of us, at any point, pregnant or not. As I stated earlier, you have to weigh the pros and cons. If she is truely on strict bed rest and has no one to help, and it would be unhealthy for her to be alone, then yes, he should absolutely stay home. If she is on modified bed rest, then they have to decide what is best for them.
@rondackhiker I am hearing everything you're saying. I couldn't agree more- I'm just trying to get him to realize these things. I truly think he's in denial that anything could happen. But... As you've said- and as I've tried to get him to realize... Even if NOTHING else happens, leaving me right now isn't fair or worth it.
I feel like a fighting a losing battle. I'm about to go shread his hunting license.
Have you told him that he is choosing a vacation over his wife, who is home on bed rest?
You need to be really clear.
"Honey, let me get this straight. I'm on bed rest with a high risk pregnancy. I can't properly care for myself and am in pain, lonely, and scared, and you're going to leave me for a WEEK to go on VACATION?! No. That is NOT OKAY."
I'm so angry about this. Really. What kind of man picks hunting over his wife on bed rest?
I don't think that's fair. It doesn't sound like he is choosing hunting over her. It sounds like she is telling him she is ok with him leaving (even though she maybe isn't?). If the doctor told my husband I probably have 2 wks to go, he would also take it as a green light. I would be defensive if someone said he is choosing hunting (or whatever) over me/our family. You can't sit around and put life on hold, just in case. Anything could happen to any of us, at any point, pregnant or not. As I stated earlier, you have to weigh the pros and cons. If she is truely on strict bed rest and has no one to help, and it would be unhealthy for her to be alone, then yes, he should absolutely stay home. If she is on modified bed rest, then they have to decide what is best for them.
This is the birth of their child. This is not extended family or a friend, this is her H. She is on bedrest. I don't think asking/expecting a SO to miss a hunting trip is asking anyone to put their life on hold. You are right, something could happen to any of us at any minute. However, we are all pregnant. We are all for sure going to deliver a baby. This is going to happen. It does not come close to saying something random could happen at any moment.
I'm so angry about this. Really. What kind of man picks hunting over his wife on bed rest?
I don't think that's fair. It doesn't sound like he is choosing hunting over her. It sounds like she is telling him she is ok with him leaving (even though she maybe isn't?). If the doctor told my husband I probably have 2 wks to go, he would also take it as a green light. I would be defensive if someone said he is choosing hunting (or whatever) over me/our family. You can't sit around and put life on hold, just in case. Anything could happen to any of us, at any point, pregnant or not. As I stated earlier, you have to weigh the pros and cons. If she is truely on strict bed rest and has no one to help, and it would be unhealthy for her to be alone, then yes, he should absolutely stay home. If she is on modified bed rest, then they have to decide what is best for them.
Skipping a WEEKLONG vacation when your wife is this far along, on bed rest with PTL and with no support isn't "putting life on hold". It's being a good husband.
This is his wife and his child. There will be other hunting trips. She will only give birth to this baby once.
I'm going to chime in with a somewhat different take on this whole thing.
I say, let him go. The man knows your feelings on the matter, and has chosen to ignore them and put his own desires first. Personally, that would disgust me enough to say "just leave." I wouldn't want my husband to stay out of guilt or "because I said so." He should want to be by your side during this time...but because his trip is paramount, he's making his priorities very clear.
I don't know anything about your relationship, but this whole ordeal raises red flags in my mind. Perhaps you could have one last heart to heart with him, but honestly, it's pretty evident what he plans to do.
In the meantime, line up some support and plan B options. Enlist the neighbors as potential drivers, even if it's awkward. Make sure your house is stocked with food, toilet paper, etc. etc. Take care as much as you can before he leaves, so you're not left completely helpless.
I am sorry you're dealing with this. His selfishness is pretty crappy, and I understand why you feel the way you do.
I agree with most of the PP...it's not ok that he's leaving you to go on a hunting trip.
My hubs and FIL were planning to go to a race (6 hours away) while I was pregnant with DD. I would have been 37 weeks and had no complications. I told him that I wasn't comfortable with it and he didn't go, THANKFULLY because I went into labor at 3 in the morning and had to have an unplanned c-section. If I wouldn't have told him that I wasn't comfortable with him going then he would have missed her birth.
Currently laying here bawling as he packs. Getting myself worked up only gives me tightening/Braxton hicks. I've said everything I could... Tried to ask how he would feel? Exclaimed that I'm petrified about having to be alone, not to mention potentially drive myself to the hospital if need-be. He is truly in denial and "I've got a month left until my due date." ...because all babies come on their due dates, right?
He said he called my mom and she would be able to come for the weekend. I tried to explain it was about having HIM here, not to mention that's 3-4 days away and a 6 hour drive for her.
At this point, it's not worth it. I've never in my life seen him act so selfish. I know he loves to hunt... But my lord.
I've got to focus on LO and myself now and try to stay relaxed and calm for the week. The hospital is 12 miles away, I've got a house full of food, and lots of books and bump buddies to try to keep myself occupied.
Thank you all for your thoughts. Positivity at this point! He has to live with this one- not me.
You are absolutely right, it's fruitless to waste your energy on him anymore. Concentrate on your self, relax and think about calming yourself down. Is there a friend close by who could possibly drive you to the hospital if at all need be?
Too funny! We toured there and had friends who had wonderful experiences there. I was high risk to begin with so they were hesitant about accepting me and we decided just to go the safe route with a hospital.
Have you ever been to Greenberries in Columbia? It's my favorite "high end thrift store." I've gotten so many maternity and baby clothes as well as gently used gear there!
Oh, good! Yeah, I've been running into people who've had nice experiences there too. Ho. Co. General is great too! My supervisor just had her baby there a year ago, and she said it was perfect. : ) No, I haven't heard of Greenberries! Thank you for the heads up! Where in Columbia? (I grew up there and go back a lot to visit, but they've been building so much recently.)
Oh man- you've got to go. It's like crack for pregnant women! I've gotten almost all of my maternity clothes there- gently used and amazingly priced. They have so many clothes for LO and tons of gear/strollers, etc. They only accept things to sell in excellent condition!
It's on Snowden River Parkway.
You can see it from Snowden, but you actually have to access it from Oakland Mills. :-) I'll be delivering at HoCo too. I had a great experience the first time!!
I did not know that we had so many MD ladies -- and esp ladies familiar with the "Colum-bubble" here on TB! : D Cozy
Currently laying here bawling as he packs. Getting myself worked up only gives me tightening/Braxton hicks. I've said everything I could... Tried to ask how he would feel? Exclaimed that I'm petrified about having to be alone, not to mention potentially drive myself to the hospital if need-be. He is truly in denial and "I've got a month left until my due date." ...because all babies come on their due dates, right?
He said he called my mom and she would be able to come for the weekend. I tried to explain it was about having HIM here, not to mention that's 3-4 days away and a 6 hour drive for her.
At this point, it's not worth it. I've never in my life seen him act so selfish. I know he loves to hunt... But my lord.
I've got to focus on LO and myself now and try to stay relaxed and calm for the week. The hospital is 12 miles away, I've got a house full of food, and lots of books and bump buddies to try to keep myself occupied.
Thank you all for your thoughts. Positivity at this point! He has to live with this one- not me.
@PeachLove25, I'm so, so sorry. This is just sooo wrong. ((Hugs)) I hope it helps, having your mom there for you.
I can't stay away from this thread. I'm shocked he'd risk it. A baby could be born in 9-10 hours. Fingertip dilated means shit. I've had friends walk around at 3cm for weeks and friends go from closed tight to baby in arms in less than 8 hours.
You need to tell him that going means there is a very real chance he'll miss the birth and that you'll never forgive him.
I'm actually a bit disgusted that he'd leave his wife alone, on bed rest, with a high risk pregnancy for a recreational trip. This isn't a business trip or something he can't get out of. This isn't work. This isn't a deployment. This is him, choosing to go have fun, while you sit home alone on bed rest. That's not okay. Not okay at all.
Leave the possibly missing the birth alone. You're on bed rest. You're at the end of your pregnancy. You've had ptl and are high risk. Those are all the reasons he shouldn't go. It doesn't matter if baby doesn't come for two weeks. He shouldn't go on a VACATION and leave you alone right now. That would be wrong. That shouldn't even be an option. He shouldn't leave you alone to go have fun. That's terrible and unfair and irresponsible and unkind. You are his priority, not hunting. He is not acting like that right now.
This is essentially what I said as well. He should under no circumstances be leaving you right now, no matter what the doctor "guessed." He still needs to be home with you, whether baby comes or not. How does he not see this??
I couldn't imagine having the baby without DH. If you have baby while he's gone, it'll go to the nicu- and only you and DH get armbands and can visit and make decisions. Not your mom. And you might not be allowed to visit for a few hours. Your baby will be alone. Honestly? I didn't even labor. I could not imagine going through labor for his child without him being there. It would put a huge strain on our relationship and marriage- and he's willing to risk that for a yearly hunting trip? He's willing to put your marriage and his relationship with you and his child at risk like that?
I agree with @jordyinindy. Punch him in the balls. He's so deserving right now.
I agree with pp. Change the locks! J/K or maybe not. I hope he doesn't expect you to cook the meat he brings back. I would "accidentally" unplug the freezer or whatever it's kept in. J/K...or maybe not. He's a turd and it would be a very cold house when he came home.
I am not married, and I try not to speak on things I haven't exerienced; so I tried not to comment on this thread. But I was abandoned when I found out that I was pregnant. I know the feeling of not knowing if you'll have someone there or not when you're in labor. And honey I am SO deeply, deeply sorry. There should be sedation for when you have to go through this kind of pain and emotion.
What he is doing is ridiculously fucked up, and I am angry with him for you. But I'm not going to beat the dead horse. What's done is done, and it sounds like nothing will change his mind. If he doesn't mind packing for a recreational trip while you bawl your eyes out, fuck him. Seriously. Right now, try to focus on you and LO. I know from experience that it's so much easier said than done. Throughout this pregnancy I have cried and cried every night, and like you said, it adds to the stress and physical issues for you and LO. The LAST thing I want to see is that you've gone into PTL alone while your husband is away being a fucking assrat.
If you need to talk, vent or just keep your mind off of things, please don't hesitate to PM me. There is no way I want you feeling alone. There are so many of us here, and while it is NOTHING compared to having a SO by your side, I learned throughout this pregnancy that talking to you ladies has literally kept me from allowing myself to shut down at my worst moments.
I hope your mom gets there soon. Please rest and try not to let his being douchebag of the day keep you from staying calm for your LO.
(((Peach))) I'm so sorry you are going through this. Right now just try to relax and focus on yourself and LO. I hope the next week is uneventful and flys by.
Sorry to hear that Peachlove- it sucks. But prob hard hearing people give out about your husband aswell so ill refrain and just say that I hope u use the week to concentrate on yourself, have loads of me time and if u happen to come across his credit card put it to good use!!!! Good luck x
I have to agree with SgrRay though. Maybe take this time apart to think about whether this is truly an isolated incident or reflective of his actual personality. There are so many big events in a family's life, is this the first of many his is going to miss selfishly?
Big Hugs. I hope it is a very uneventful week. On the flip side, if it is that doesn't prove him right. He shouldn't feel vindicated when he gets home. I'm not saying lay it on thick but there needs to be a serious talk about being a parent and priorities.
Yes!! While I truly hope you have an uneventful week, that should NOT be an excuse for him to say "see I was right" and brush it under the rug.
Question for you, OP -- how has he been, in general, about supporting you during this pregnancy? Is this unusual behavior for him, or something new? It's just baffling my mind that he could be so selfish and insensitive to your feelings...and so ridiculously unwilling to change his plans.
Thank you ladies so much. I'm tearing up reading your posts.
I've ran though my mind time and time again what it will be like when he's back- either with me in the hospital or me at home. The whole "I knew you'd be fine thing" makes me cringe.
He's been so supportive the whole pregnancy. Before this week, it would have been easy to say he's just as/if not MORE excited than I am. He has gotten so excited putting her nursery together and talks all the time about holding our peanut for the first time, and all the things he wants to teach her. In May 2012 I had a brain tumor and had surgery to remove it at Hopkins. He didn't leave my side for over a month. I'm truly baffled by how much this stupid hunting trip with the guys means to him and how it's reflecting in his shitty (insert worst expletives you can think of) choice of priorities.
That being said, the choice has been made and day 1 of 6 has begun. My mom lives near Buffalo NY where it's negative temps and awful snow. There's no way I'd even want her to try and come in this weather.
Netflix, books, my big comfy bed, and 911 in case of emergencies. I've got this.
Thank you ladies so much. I'm tearing up reading your posts.
I've ran though my mind time and time again what it will be like when he's back- either with me in the hospital or me at home. The whole "I knew you'd be fine thing" makes me cringe.
He's been so supportive the whole pregnancy. Before this week, it would have been easy to say he's just as/if not MORE excited than I am. He has gotten so excited putting her nursery together and talks all the time about holding our peanut for the first time, and all the things he wants to teach her. In May 2012 I had a brain tumor and had surgery to remove it at Hopkins. He didn't leave my side for over a month. I'm truly baffled by how much this stupid hunting trip with the guys means to him and how it's reflecting in his shitty (insert worst expletives you can think of) choice of priorities.
That being said, the choice has been made and day 1 of 6 has begun. My mom lives near Buffalo NY where it's negative temps and awful snow. There's no way I'd even want her to try and come in this weather.
Netflix, books, my big comfy bed, and 911 in case of emergencies. I've got this.
Thank you all, again.
What an awesome attitude to have! Good luck with your 6 days, and when he gets back, make sure he pampers the heck out of you!
I can't stay away from this thread either. I know my comment will only echo what past posters have said, but I absolutely have to lend my support as well!! I would be a hot mess if my DH was leaving for any reason right now, whether it was for something urgent or a frickin' hunting vacay.
I think the number of women commenting here and sharing their feelings speaks volumes about how wrong it is that your husband is taking off right now. The masses have spoken!! We're all in your corner, and I pray that nothing goes down while he's gone.
I can't help but think about a man whose wife could go into PTL (or any man who has a pregnant wife in her third tri for that matter) hunkered down in some bushes waiting to shoot something, and wtf would be going through his mind. Could he really be having a grand old time? How could he not be thinking of you constantly, fretting over the fact that he's so far removed from you and his baby, at such a sensitive time, with no way of checking in or knowing what's going on. I just. Don't. Get. It.
I hope I don't sound like I'm outrightly bashing him here, but.. Oh hell, maybe I am. It's like they forget that it's their kid too. We just have to do all the serious work to get them here.
Hugs, OP. Update us over the week, try to stay relaxed, I'll be checking in!
Lol @cauliflower thanks for the laugh. I don't understanding hunting and I have never have. Your hunkering down visual made me lol.
I don't get it either. I never will. Done trying. Her baby book has a place for "mommy's fears," and while I'm not trying to beat a dead horse, I made sure it's well documented so that some day even she too can say, "what the hell, dad!"
Hugs, Peach. You really shouldn't have to be alone like this. We'll do our best to keep you company.
On a lighter note, I vote that you spend the week ordering any movie you want on Pay Per View/Netflix/any Watch Instantly service. Do you have HBO or other movie channels? If not, order 'em! Buy anything you want on the Kindle, too. Same goes for mobile games, If he's going to take his vacation, try to take one, too!
Crank up the heat while you're at it. Throw a few long-distance phone calls to your friends and family out of town. Order delivery from a few new restaurant you've been thinking about trying. Nevermind the bill for now. The only who deserves to fret about this situation now is YR as he sits
on his ass in the woods all week wondering how the hell he could be so
selfish. Make the best of this week that you can from home and damn the expense! This is your week to take care of yourself and forget about the rest. You wont get too many chances like this after the baby comes!
I have been meaning to ask- who are these so call 'guys' he is going with? Do they know the situation? And aren't any of them minutely guilty or concerned? I think you mentioned family and if so I don't think they deserve being called. Men succumb very strongly to peer pressure, of course still not an excuse for him but if they were wee but considerate maybe just maybe he would get sone sense into him.
It's his dad, his uncle, and two cousins that are also in their early 30's. Cousins have kids but not newborns or pregnant wives! I talked to his dad, and had MIL talk to him, too... They all think I'm being dramatic (which I agree I can be... But NOT about this) and that it'll be fine. They're even more crazy about hunting than DH.
I sent FIL a nasty gram text saying that he was being a shitty father influence and his son needed to be a man and learn about priorities, but it was clear where he had learned that hunting came before family. Ouch. It was 4am when DH left and I was heated. Oh well. No response. Boom!
Just seeing this now- I'm so sorry @PeachLove25 that he's putting you through this. But I'm so glad you stuck up for yourself and baby! Like others have said, take this time to treat yourself. If he gets a vacation, then you do too for putting up with his bs! I just wanted to say I can empathize as my husband has not been very supportive. It's not worth the stress. He is a grown man and if he wants to make shitty decisions then he needs to own up to their shitty consequences.
I hope your mom has a safe trip, and know that everyone here will give you the support you need!
I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and my fingers are crossed all is well in the next 6 days. As others have said and you know, you deserve support during this time and I am sad with you that he is not there.
Re: DH leaving for a week :(
You could have a baby in less than that. It happens all the time. I would not take any chances here, especially without another strong support system.
Also- your doctor is "guessing" that you have another two weeks. They also "guessed" that you would have the baby on your edd. It's a guess. Not a guarantee.
You need to tell him that going means there is a very real chance he'll miss the birth and that you'll never forgive him.
I'm actually a bit disgusted that he'd leave his wife alone, on bed rest, with a high risk pregnancy for a recreational trip. This isn't a business trip or something he can't get out of. This isn't work. This isn't a deployment. This is him, choosing to go have fun, while you sit home alone on bed rest. That's not okay. Not okay at all.
Leave the possibly missing the birth alone. You're on bed rest. You're at the end of your pregnancy. You've had ptl and are high risk. Those are all the reasons he shouldn't go. It doesn't matter if baby doesn't come for two weeks. He shouldn't go on a VACATION and leave you alone right now. That would be wrong. That shouldn't even be an option. He shouldn't leave you alone to go have fun. That's terrible and unfair and irresponsible and unkind. You are his priority, not hunting. He is not acting like that right now.
I feel like a fighting a losing battle. I'm about to go shread his hunting license.
You need to be really clear.
"Honey, let me get this straight. I'm on bed rest with a high risk pregnancy. I can't properly care for myself and am in pain, lonely, and scared, and you're going to leave me for a WEEK to go on VACATION?! No. That is NOT OKAY."
This is his wife and his child. There will be other hunting trips. She will only give birth to this baby once.
I agree with most of the PP...it's not ok that he's leaving you to go on a hunting trip.
My hubs and FIL were planning to go to a race (6 hours away) while I was pregnant with DD. I would have been 37 weeks and had no complications. I told him that I wasn't comfortable with it and he didn't go, THANKFULLY because I went into labor at 3 in the morning and had to have an unplanned c-section. If I wouldn't have told him that I wasn't comfortable with him going then he would have missed her birth.
Tell him that you need him to stay!
He said he called my mom and she would be able to come for the weekend. I tried to explain it was about having HIM here, not to mention that's 3-4 days away and a 6 hour drive for her.
At this point, it's not worth it. I've never in my life seen him act so selfish. I know he loves to hunt... But my lord.
I've got to focus on LO and myself now and try to stay relaxed and calm for the week. The hospital is 12 miles away, I've got a house full of food, and lots of books and bump buddies to try to keep myself occupied.
Thank you all for your thoughts. Positivity at this point! He has to live with this one- not me.
I'm sorry @peachlove25.
I don't know if I could feel the same way about my husband if he left me alone on bed rest so he could go on vacation.
You are absolutely right, it's fruitless to waste your energy on him anymore. Concentrate on your self, relax and think about calming yourself down. Is there a friend close by who could possibly drive you to the hospital if at all need be?
((Hugs)))
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I did not know that we had so many MD ladies -- and esp ladies familiar with the "Colum-bubble" here on TB! : D Cozy
I'm pretty pissed at him right now and I don't even know him. What he is doing is so completely wrong.
(((Hugs)))
I couldn't imagine having the baby without DH. If you have baby while he's gone, it'll go to the nicu- and only you and DH get armbands and can visit and make decisions. Not your mom. And you might not be allowed to visit for a few hours. Your baby will be alone.
Honestly? I didn't even labor. I could not imagine going through labor for his child without him being there. It would put a huge strain on our relationship and marriage- and he's willing to risk that for a yearly hunting trip? He's willing to put your marriage and his relationship with you and his child at risk like that?
I agree with @jordyinindy. Punch him in the balls. He's so deserving right now.
((Hugs))
He's a turd and it would be a very cold house when he came home.
I'm sorry Peach!
I've ran though my mind time and time again what it will be like when he's back- either with me in the hospital or me at home. The whole "I knew you'd be fine thing" makes me cringe.
He's been so supportive the whole pregnancy. Before this week, it would have been easy to say he's just as/if not MORE excited than I am. He has gotten so excited putting her nursery together and talks all the time about holding our peanut for the first time, and all the things he wants to teach her. In May 2012 I had a brain tumor and had surgery to remove it at Hopkins. He didn't leave my side for over a month. I'm truly baffled by how much this stupid hunting trip with the guys means to him and how it's reflecting in his shitty (insert worst expletives you can think of) choice of priorities.
That being said, the choice has been made and day 1 of 6 has begun. My mom lives near Buffalo NY where it's negative temps and awful snow. There's no way I'd even want her to try and come in this weather.
Netflix, books, my big comfy bed, and 911 in case of emergencies. I've got this.
Thank you all, again.
I think the number of women commenting here and sharing their feelings speaks volumes about how wrong it is that your husband is taking off right now. The masses have spoken!! We're all in your corner, and I pray that nothing goes down while he's gone.
I can't help but think about a man whose wife could go into PTL (or any man who has a pregnant wife in her third tri for that matter) hunkered down in some bushes waiting to shoot something, and wtf would be going through his mind. Could he really be having a grand old time? How could he not be thinking of you constantly, fretting over the fact that he's so far removed from you and his baby, at such a sensitive time, with no way of checking in or knowing what's going on. I just. Don't. Get. It.
I hope I don't sound like I'm outrightly bashing him here, but.. Oh hell, maybe I am. It's like they forget that it's their kid too. We just have to do all the serious work to get them here.
Hugs, OP. Update us over the week, try to stay relaxed, I'll be checking in!
I don't get it either. I never will. Done trying. Her baby book has a place for "mommy's fears," and while I'm not trying to beat a dead horse, I made sure it's well documented so that some day even she too can say, "what the hell, dad!"
On a lighter note, I vote that you spend the week ordering any movie you want on Pay Per View/Netflix/any Watch Instantly service. Do you have HBO or other movie channels? If not, order 'em! Buy anything you want on the Kindle, too. Same goes for mobile games, If he's going to take his vacation, try to take one, too!
Crank up the heat while you're at it. Throw a few long-distance phone calls to your friends and family out of town. Order delivery from a few new restaurant you've been thinking about trying. Nevermind the bill for now. The only who deserves to fret about this situation now is YR as he sits on his ass in the woods all week wondering how the hell he could be so selfish. Make the best of this week that you can from home and damn the expense! This is your week to take care of yourself and forget about the rest. You wont get too many chances like this after the baby comes!
Feb. 2014 Moms January Siggy Challenge: Cute & Clumsy Animals
Maru!
I sent FIL a nasty gram text saying that he was being a shitty father influence and his son needed to be a man and learn about priorities, but it was clear where he had learned that hunting came before family. Ouch. It was 4am when DH left and I was heated. Oh well. No response. Boom!
I've been thinking of you a lot.
How are you doing? How'd the talk with your H go when he came back?