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MrsCase1 · January 2014

Cashier: Your son is cute! How old is he?

Me: Thanks. He's two.

Cashier: I see you're expecting again?

Me: Yup.

Cashier: When are you due?

Me: June.

Cashier: (Scrunches up face) Oh my God! Really?

Me: Yup. Just super fat, thanks for the reminder!

******Side note: I wasn't actually offended since I consider such comments a reflection on the speaker, not the recipient. But I felt I needed to shock her just a tad in hopes she doesn't hurt someone else's feelings that happen to be sensitive. This can be a fragile time for some women. After I commented on being fat she scrunched her face again, but this time she was (rightfully) embarrassed. She muttered something about me "looking further along." LOL!

Anyone made an AssHat comment to you lately?

jshrop · January 2014

Lol, 1. She prob figures June is a lot further away than it is. 2. You're awesome!!!

colllydon · January 2014

A broker at my work said "oh your pregnant? Did you just get married? Was it a shotgun wedding?" SERIOUSLY!? I said " well I got married in April so if it was I'd probably have the baby by now." Then I reported him to his broker manager. It's not the first time he's made rude comments to me, but it will sure as hell be the last.

kibean · January 2014

Recently I was talking about how I am supposed to lose weight and how annoying carb counting is, and my sister's friend said "Oh I knew a girl who was told she was too obese to get pregnant and she lost 50 pounds during her pregnancy without doing anything!" Gee-thanks.

Also, this isn't recent, but when I was in college I worked in a nursing home and the residents would ask me ALL THE TIME if I was expecting and some of them more than once because they would forget they asked. My default response to adults was always "Nope, just fat, but thanks for asking!"

MrsCase1 · January 2014

colllydon said:

A broker at my work said "oh your pregnant? Did you just get married? Was it a shotgun wedding?" SERIOUSLY!? I said " well I got married in April so if it was I'd probably have the baby by now." Then I reported him to his broker manager. It's not the first time he's made rude comments to me, but it will sure as hell be the last.

What an AssHat!

JulieSmiles · January 2014

My friend made a comment today about how I would be waddling soon. Then she added, "Well, I didn't waddle till 8 months." It just came off really odd.

kibean · January 2014

colllydon said:

A broker at my work said "oh your pregnant? Did you just get married? Was it a shotgun wedding?" SERIOUSLY!? I said " well I got married in April so if it was I'd probably have the baby by now." Then I reported him to his broker manager. It's not the first time he's made rude comments to me, but it will sure as hell be the last.

tbmadeamistake · January 2014

I was at a work dinner the other night. I had only brought one nice shirt to change into after our meetings and once on, I realized it accentuated the bump...but I didn't have another dinner shirt so oh well! I'm pregnant and they all know it. The new AR guy looked at me and went "Wow! I started three months ago and you weren't even showing yet. THAT'S changed!" Yes, I know I look like I have a basketball under my shirt, thanks. Idiot.

MrsCase1 · January 2014

Lilygrace48 said:

I was at a work dinner the other night. I had only brought one nice shirt to change into after our meetings and once on, I realized it accentuated the bump...but I didn't have another dinner shirt so oh well! I'm pregnant and they all know it. The new AR guy looked at me and went "Wow! I started three months ago and you weren't even showing yet. THAT'S changed!" Yes, I know I look like I have a basketball under my shirt, thanks. Idiot.

Basketballs under shirts are endearing. I have surpassed fluffy to fatty. Ha!

ricecakes1216 · January 2014

I was helping a lady at work and had to go get something. I came back and she was like "your feet are swollen" I told her no. The she responds "well you look like you're in pain in those shoes".

Um ok....I wear heels. I'm more comfortable in them than flats. Sorry if I look to be in pain but I'm not. At least not for that reason.

An old guy told me I was going to "pop" anytime. Nope. Not until June. He got very uncomfortable when I told him that.

bebemac · January 2014

Oh, man! These people telling you guys these comments kill me. I would just be like, "No, I ate too much Taco Bell last night and I haven't pooped yet."

This reminds me - what happened to that lady who supposedly *just* found out she was 20 weeks pregnant?

MrsCase1 · January 2014

bebemac said:

Oh, man! These people telling you guys these comments kill me. I would just be like, "No, I ate too much Taco Bell last night and I haven't pooped yet." This reminds me - what happened to that lady who supposedly *just* found out she was 20 weeks pregnant?

I missed that one!

bebemac · January 2014

Mrs Case said:

bebemac said:

Oh, man! These people telling you guys these comments kill me. I would just be like, "No, I ate too much Taco Bell last night and I haven't pooped yet."

This reminds me - what happened to that lady who supposedly *just* found out she was 20 weeks pregnant?

I missed that one!

It was JBC2020, the post was titled, "A very late introduction" or something like that.

kibean · January 2014

bebemac said:

Oh, man! These people telling you guys these comments kill me. I would just be like, "No, I ate too much Taco Bell last night and I haven't pooped yet." This reminds me - what happened to that lady who supposedly *just* found out she was 20 weeks pregnant?

Yes! I have been wondering about this, too!

colllydon · January 2014

There is a new thread by her. FYI

hubbs173 · January 2014

@colllydon I was just about to post that!! I knew that name sounded familiar!!

babygabe614 · January 2014

A coworker of mine came up to me last week and said, "From behind you wouldn't even know you're pregnant!" I told her thanks for the compliment, to which she responded "Well you never know... you could always blow up like a house in a couple months." Well.... so much for that compliment, lol

kibean · January 2014

babygabe614 said:

A coworker of mine came up to me last week and said, "From behind you wouldn't even know you're pregnant!" I told her thanks for the compliment, to which she responded "Well you never know... you could always blow up like a house in a couple months." Well.... so much for that compliment, lol

OMG

MrsCase1 · January 2014

bebemac said:

bebemac said:

Oh, man! These people telling you guys these comments kill me. I would just be like, "No, I ate too much Taco Bell last night and I haven't pooped yet." This reminds me - what happened to that lady who supposedly *just* found out she was 20 weeks pregnant?

I missed that one!
It was JBC2020, the post was titled, "A very late introduction" or something like that.

I never bother to read introductions because sometimes they don't stick around. I figure if they do, I will get to know them that way. I have fallen in like with posters over the years and they'll share something and then randomly disappear. This explains why I had no clue, LOL. I shall make an exception and head over.

diagonalley · January 2014

Last May, before getting KU, my friend's godmother put her hand on my belly and asked how far along I was. I was like ummm, not pregnant, just fat! This was after drinking several mimosas through the afternoon (it was my friend's bridal shower). Oh what I would give for a mimosa...I miss you, friend

tbmadeamistake · January 2014

Rachel5130 said:

I've always had a bit of a tummy; it is literally the one thing I wish I could change most on my body. And since I've been pregnant, I've lost two pounds, but gained some tummy. Have fun with that math lol. Well, people keep telling me, "You don't look five months pregnant... You don't look pregnant at all!" I know they are trying to be nice (I think?) but it just rubs me the wrong way. So you think I'm always this chubby in the tummy? I don't ever know what to say back.

I had people say this to me last time! I have never had a tummy, so I definitely look pregnant when I'm pregnant. I am generally also miserable when pregnant, so looking like it and being pregnant are the only things that make the misery ok. It used to really piss me off. I know they thought they were being nice, but really the only ok thing to say to a pregnant lady is "You look great!" and leave it at that. People need to learn.

Pepper6 · January 2014

I had a coworker come up and part my belly while I was making lunch in our kitchenette and she said "you're finally starting to look pudgy". Um, yes, I finally have a slightly noticeable pregnant belly, but "pudgy"?

Luna C · January 2014

Lilygrace48 said:

I know they thought they were being nice, but really the only ok thing to say to a pregnant lady is "You look great!" and leave it at that. People need to learn.

Or just don't mention our bodies at all and instead ask how we're feeling. I don't usually comment on my colleagues' appearances (other than the occasional, "I like that necklace"). Don't see what that should change once one gets ku.

kellyjayne · January 2014

colllydon said:
A broker at my work said "oh your pregnant? Did you just get married? Was it a shotgun wedding?" SERIOUSLY!? I said " well I got married in April so if it was I'd probably have the baby by now." Then I reported him to his broker manager. It's not the first time he's made rude comments to me, but it will sure as hell be the last.

We got married in July and I have literally had people at work count back the months in front of me to figure out if it was a shotgun wedding. First of all, if you have to count the months between June and July you're not very bright. Second, we planned the wedding for over a year. Third, for fuck sake what does it matter?! Lastly, none of your business nosy semi-stranger.

temursgirl · January 2014

The lab tech who did my blood draw:

Her: How far along are you?

Me: 17 weeks.

Her: OMG! You're huge! Are you sure you're only 17 weeks?

Me: Absolutely.

My head: Gosh, thanks. The ten pounds on my tiny frame has left me feeling winded, tired, and like I look like a cargo ship. I'm glad you reminded me.

Her: Are you having twins?

Me: No.

Her: Is it your first?

Me: Yep.

Her: You must be having twins.

Me: I've had several ultrasounds. Definitely one baby, due in June.

My head: Are you trying to freak me out? Why would you say that?

Her: Several ultrasounds? Why? That must be really expensive? Anyway, babies can hide behind one another.

Me: Dr. H believes in ultrasounds.

My head: My finances are none of your business! And why should I have super crafty fetuses that have hidden from the doctor multiple times?

Her: Well! I only had one ultrasound.

Me: When will Dr. H have the results from this test?

My head: A generous estimate tells me you were pregnant 20 years ago... maybe things have changed!

Her: Next week... well, your butt is surprisingly small considering the size of your belly.

Me: I noticed a stray urine sample in the restroom. You might want to take care of that.

My head: DO NOT use the San Mateo Lapcorp again. Ever.

rmjones15 · January 2014

We got married august 31st and people ask me all. The. Time. "A 'June' baby, huh? You look big for being 20 weeks..." It's SO fun.

winterstar1 · January 2014

One of my patients at work came to pick up his prescription in the drive-thru on Friday and my tech was helping him while I was sitting down working on stuff on the computer. He's really sweet normally and tells the technician she better be taking care of me. She told him she was taking care of me and my baby girl. His reply: "You mean she's not having twins? She needs to lay off the Mexican food then." I just looked at him in shock...so insulting on so many levels.

rachel8078 · January 2014

My mother keeps calling me "porky" which I think is supposed to be affectionate, but I'm confused because everyone else keeps saying I look too small for almost 20 weeks. She's a character.

katekat8721 · January 2014

My life....

(before being pregnant)
Guy: *touches stomach* ooh do you have something to tell us?
Me: Uh, yeah I just had laparoscopy surgery and I'm bloated and swollen and you're touching my incision...
Guy: Oh!

Lady: *touches stomach* oooh is this what I thiiiiink??
Me: It's just a post-Chipotle belly in a shirt I'm going to burn tonight.
Lady: Oh... oh! he, he. Oh, ok.

(since becoming pregnant)
Lady: Congrats! Is this your first?
Me: My first and second, we're having twins.
Lady: Ok that explains it....

Lady: When are you due?
Me: June
Lady: June what?
Me: They'll be here by June 12th
Lady: So that's their due date?
Me: Well they're twins, they'll induce my June 12th but they'll probably be here earlier
Lady: Oh you don't want an induction
Me: No, not really, but the doctor won't let them stay in longer than 38 weeks. The placentas can start breaking down.
Lady: Well maybe you'll surprise them all and keep them in till 40 weeks.
Me: *nods*

Lady: You're having twins? You know I had babies 18 months apart, they were practically twins.
Me: *nods*

Lady: Wow twins? My hairdresser/aunt/neighbor/coworker/mailman's sister/cousin/brother/girlfriend had twins.
Me: Oh cool.

Guy: Wow you're looking really slim, you sure you have twins in there?
Me: Last I checked, still babies, not the ever elusive velociraptors. Sigh.

Lady: Wow, look at your belly *touches belly*
Me: Yup.
Lady: It's just so, so round!
Me: Yup.
Lady: *puts face next to belly* Hellllooo babies!
Me: *stomach gurgles* They say hello.

People. Are. Weird.

katekat8721 · January 2014

@Rachel5130 lol, no worries. I laugh at them in my head too

curlylocks3 · January 2014

Lady: You're having twins? You know I had babies 18 months apart, they were practically twins.
Me: *nods*

------quote fail------

This is my personal favorite. I'm sure its not easy to have two kids that close together, but its not the same as two newborns at once. My ILs keep telling me and H that we'll have it much easier than BIL and his wife who have two kids 18 months apart. Oh. Ok.

hscoggins · January 2014

The only weird encounter I've had thus far is after I first came out at work one of my coworkers approached me and said 'I heard you're pregnant. (Pauses, cocks her head to the side and scrunches her face) Was this planned? Are you happy about it?' Wtf kind of judgmental question is that? I just laughed and said 'Yup!'

What I notice a lot now is often when I talk to people they stare at my belly. I'd rather someone ask me about being pregnant than obviously eyeing my bump the whole conversation!

coffee89 · January 2014

About 2 weeks ago at work a coworker put her hand on my stomach and proclaimed loudly across the store "Oh! You are all jiggly, not much baby in there yet? I thought you were farther along."

She also told me a while back that she wouldn't ever want to be pregnant unless she was super skinny because she wouldn't want to have to look fat when she gained the "ten pounds" of baby. Apparently you can't have a bump when you are overweight in her eyes .

kk627 · January 2014

Confession: I lie about my due date to coworkers and strangers so I won't get the judgy looks and stupid comments about the size of my belly. I'm 18 weeks and I've been telling people that I was 5 months since I was around 17 weeks.

When one of my best friends saw me at 12 weeks, she said "You're getting big already! You're going to be sooo huge!"

Bozzy2 · January 2014

Regular customer: Hey, I haven't seen you in a while anything new or exciting?

Me:*big smile* I'm 18 weeks pregnant.

Costumer: *confused look* is this good news?

Me: *walks away*

jacksoha · January 2014

I'm a specialist counselor at an elementary school. This was the conversation I had at lunch with my fifth grade boy the other day:

Student: Do you have any kids?

Me: Nope. But I'm pregnant with my first!

Student: I knew it!!!

Me: confused face

Student: Well you know when people are fat their belly jiggles and they are fat all over, but your belly doesn't jiggle and your stomach is big just in the front. Me and my friends were talking about it and we wondered if your pregnant. I even asked my mom if it was okay to ask you and she said no.

Me: (dying laughing inside) ohhh, well thanks for not calling me fat!

It was hilarious!

shellbell813 · January 2014

We had an accident (just a little one) last week and were stuck in the middle of nowhere in the fast-dropping temps. When the police officer got there, my dad mentions that I am pregnant. The police officer looks me up and down and says, "Wow, you are very pregnant."

Ummm... 17 weeks along.. not showing THAT much, mostly just fat. Thanks for that....

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