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NBR .... People giving you their shit

kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
in September 2013 Moms
So my husbands dad recently reconnected with us after a 5 year hiatus. He's come to stay over a few times while having marital issues with wife number 5...maybe it's number 6...

Anyways he's been giving is some of his old stuff he had because she likely doesn't want it. So currently I have like 20 boxes of shit from the early 80s in boxes in my dining room.

4 boxes alone labeled "mugs". Obviously he probably just didn't want to throw it away so he put it on us.

My question is... When people wanna give you their junk AKA shit they don't want.....do you keep it? Put some of it out on display? Toss it?

I don't want to hurt his feelings but I really don't need nascar mugs and snow globes and hideous dolphin statues
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  • LBibLBib member
    I have an unhealthy attachment to stuff passed down or up for grabs from the older members of my family. I have my Grandmother's hand crank meat grinder in a box in the attic. That being said, I have a rule that for me to keep it I gave to see myself or an immediate member of my family enjoying it one day. Other people's collectables that I don't collect or appreciate for sentimental reasons, no thanks.

    I think you need to have an honest conversation with your FIL about what your family wants. If you both don't want the junk/stuff have a garage sale, freecycle, or donate it to Goodwill.
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  • kailetkailet member
    Yeah I think Goodwill sounds like a good home for it.
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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
    Oh here's a few pics lol

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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
    sapphire0228 said:

    Goodwill or garage/yard sale. If its not things you want, selling it for 10 cents won't hurt your feelings. When we did our yard sale I told the people to fill a grocery bag and give me $10 whatever they had. I made $300. It was fun and easy and got the shit OUT!

    Thats a good idea!
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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    Salvation Army for me. This happens to me all the time, always from very well-meaning people. The thought is nice and sometimes they are items I genuinely like but if not I donate them.


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  • RoosterWranglerRoosterWrangler member
    My mom is notorious for bringing me junk every time she comes over. She consistently brings me expired makeup, little cosmetic bags (usually free with makeup purchases), white terry cloth hand towels, canned chicken (I'm a vegetarian), and old school work (book reports, multiple choice tests,etc.) from all the way back when I was in elementary school.
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  • JLMcWeeneyJLMcWeeney member
    RoosterWrangler said:

    My mom is notorious for bringing me junk every time she comes over. She consistently brings me expired makeup, little cosmetic bags (usually free with makeup purchases), white terry cloth hand towels, canned chicken (I'm a vegetarian), and old school work (book reports, multiple choice tests,etc.) from all the way back when I was in elementary school.

    My mom recently gave me a ton of my old school work. It is neat to see, but I would think she would want to keep in since it is more sentemental to her than me. She was probably just trying to get rid of stuff though.
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  • Zmommy2Zmommy2 member
    JLMcWeeney said:

    RoosterWrangler said:

    My mom is notorious for bringing me junk every time she comes over. She consistently brings me expired makeup, little cosmetic bags (usually free with makeup purchases), white terry cloth hand towels, canned chicken (I'm a vegetarian), and old school work (book reports, multiple choice tests,etc.) from all the way back when I was in elementary school.

    My mom recently gave me a ton of my old school work. It is neat to see, but I would think she would want to keep in since it is more sentemental to her than me. She was probably just trying to get rid of stuff though.
    My mom does this too! Some is fun to look through, but then what? I'm so going to be that mom though, I have so many preschool things saved already and dd1 is only 4... It's hard to throw away!

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  • charpecharpe member
    I remember discussing in an 'adults and aging' class in college that when adults start to understand their own mortality (no matter how far off...), they consciously and subconsciously begin 'preparing' so to speak. It's like they all of a sudden realize they can't take it with them and start giving stuff away. This realization happens faster when their kids have kids.

    I guess what you do with the stuff depends on any potential sentimental value. I usually ask my inlaws about whatever they are giving me. Sometimes I'll just flat out say I don't have space for whatever. But sometimes I'll take it and just donate it. I always keep anything sentimental though.
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  • Kristonita12Kristonita12 member
    I was JUST having thing conversation with a coworker about our MILs. We agreed, it's important to let them know that you don't want it and if they keep pushing it on you, that's disrespectful. Take your own shit to Goodwill, don't make me do it. I purposely DON'T hoard shit so don't make me responsible for your actions. 
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  • kje120kje120 member
    If it's something we'll use I'll keep it, but if not it's off to goodwill.
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  • sapphire0228sapphire0228 member
    @kennazebrowsky thanks! Even if you let them make $5 bags it's still something.

    My mother is the same way. I loved when she was bringing over VHS's of me as a baby. But I don't "need to go through all these boxes you kept". I didn't keep them mom, you did, you go through them. It is funny to read that in third grade I wanted to be a volcanologist and my oldest sister was my role model but I feel like that's way more sentimental to her than me! Then I get guilt tripped if I say throw it away.
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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    My mom has started bringing me crap that was mine when I was a baby. I've had to, on more than one occasion, tell her that I don't want them. If she wants to hang onto it for sentimental reasons, go bananas. But I have a small house with no extra storage for all that.
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