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Might deck husband

jessicat2283jessicat2283 member
in January 2014 Moms
With my oldest she wouldn't latch so I pumped for 9.5 months. There were a lot of tears 1) because I couldn't nurse 2) lack of sleep she was a fussy baby & up every 45 mins to 1.5 hours until she was 6 months old & not sleeping great at that time. 2nd child no issues I was able to nurse. 3rd will latch but screams terribly after each feeding I've changed my diet but we are still having issues with him crying (sweats & struggles to breathe). I told him I wonder if he's getting too much foremilk he's more of a snacker eats often but not long. I was switching sides each time. He tells me then just pump again. I told him I refuse to do that again. Seriously I was worn out & depressed with my 1st. He did no night feedings etc so to him it's no big deal. He seriously acted mad when I told him I refuse to pump again. Not because "breast is best" he's too damn cheap to want to pay for formula. I just carried this baby for 9 months do not try to guilt me into pumping mister.
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  • lolinshaglolinshag member
    Have you tried this? My LC said for me to try "block" feeding. Example: i feed Lyssa at noon on my right side and then at 2 on the same side. Then 4 & 6 on the left side. Etc.

    This helps with a baby getting too much foremilk. She said women with big boobs have that problem a lot.
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  • jessicat2283jessicat2283 member
    Thanks ladies!! @ lolinshag I was doing some reading on it today & started doing it. Since then he's been doing better actually. I do have larger breasts & a fast letdown. No drfinitely not offering to feed little one while I pump. With my oldest I was so sleep deprived by the time I fed her, pumped got milk put away I got 20-30 mins of sleep MAYBE on a good night.
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  • jessicat2283jessicat2283 member
    20-30 minutes between feedings should specify!!
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  • cnwilbur1030cnwilbur1030 member
    I also have forceful letdown and a similar issue with DD. I started pumping just a little (just til let down) during the day with DD and it helped her. I know you don't want to pump, but I found doing this twice a day helped and wasn't that bad for me.

    And I would totally be angry if DH said that crap! Hope it continues to get better!
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  • ababymaybeababymaybe member
    Omg I loathed pumping. If I had to do that or formula with my first, it'd have been formula all the way!

    Men are so clueless sometimes. In a way nursing is kind of like extended pregnancy lite (body still not totally "yours" again, still some restrictions on what you can take or eat, etc). I really doubt many men could hack nursing TBH so I tend to think they should zip it in this arena.
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  • jessicat2283jessicat2283 member
    Lol agreed. I'm still limited in what I can & can't eat. What I can & can not drink. What supplements I can take. It feels like I'm still pregnant. I don't mind pumping occasionally but i refuse to be hooked up to a machine every 2 hours of my life for the next several months.
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  • sugarland726sugarland726 member
    I told my H that I was debating just nursing/pumping while home on maternity leave with the baby (10 weeks) and he side eyed me. The amount of time and work it takes for me to pump, plus I have to change my hours at work and go in early so I can pump twice a day and take care of two kids just isn't worth it to me. I've already said that I don't think the benefits of breastmilk make that much of a difference in the long run. My heart just isn't in it. Anyways, I wanted to slug him. I'm torn between feeling like this is my decision (since really, it's not like he's doing a damn thing for breastfeeding), and feeling like this is a joint decision since it is what his son is eating.

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  • jessicat2283jessicat2283 member
    Tonight was a good reminder of why I don't want to pump. We went to a movie for h bday. His mom gave lo a bottle while we were gone so I pumped when we got home. Lo was screaming in his car seat while h made girls supper. I was helpless to comfort him. I don't think it's realistic to pump while watching a 4 yr old a 2 yr old and a newborn.
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  • slmille4slmille4 member
    sugarland726 said:

    I told my H that I was debating just nursing/pumping while home on maternity leave with the baby (10 weeks) and he side eyed me. The amount of time and work it takes for me to pump, plus I have to change my hours at work and go in early so I can pump twice a day and take care of two kids just isn't worth it to me. I've already said that I don't think the benefits of breastmilk make that much of a difference in the long run. My heart just isn't in it. Anyways, I wanted to slug him. I'm torn between feeling like this is my decision (since really, it's not like he's doing a damn thing for breastfeeding), and feeling like this is a joint decision since it is what his son is eating.

    I'm in the same boat. I am starting a stash but I just don't think it will be feasible. I'll be working close to 10 hours a day and will only be able to pump at lunch. I feel like I'll be able to spend much more time with Dd if we do formula
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