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Out of control babies!?!?

Felicity86Felicity86 member
in February 2013 Moms
I feel like my twins are out of control. I know they're infants and too young to understand restrictions, "no," etc, but I'm just having one of those days and need to vent. They get furious if I try to in any way curb their behavior/restrict their movement. Strollers, car seats, baby gates, being denied stair access, cabinet locks all make them FURIOUS.

I think it's the age...they know exactly what they want (mostly cell phones, remotes and electrical cords), but aren't quite to the stage where they understand "no." I'm just frustrated and exhausted.
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  • Felicity86Felicity86 member
    I mean, my son was hysterical because I wouldn't let him chew on my hand. I offered lots of teething toys, which he had zero interest in. The second he gets my hand in his mouth, he's all smiles. This is the kind of thing that's been frustrating me all day. What do you do in these situations???
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    Teacher Clark said:

    It's totally the stage they are in and will get better as they grow and communicate better. DD2 has meltdowns when we don't let her climb the stairs. When she gets really frustrated she balls up her little fists, tenses up, and kinda shakes in rage. It's super cute now, but won't be so cute if the habit continues when she's older.

    Yes! They're cute individually and I love their strong personalities, but....when one is shrieking because she can't climb the stairs and the other is shrieking because he can't chew on me, I'm ready to pull my hair out!!
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  • Felicity86Felicity86 member
    I hope nobody takes this post the wrong way. I love my babies more than anything and understand this is normal behavior. But still....GRRRRR!!!!
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  • Puck1182Puck1182 member
    See, DD totally understands and listens to "no." If I tell her "no," 9 times out of 10 she will stop what she's doing. But she is so freaking sensitive that half of that time she will burst into hysterical tears. Not her fake "I'm trying to make you feel guilty" cry and not her angry cry, but like I have genuinely hurt her feelings by correcting her.

    It makes me feel awful, but obviously I have to follow through so she knows what is and isn't ok, by my goodness that cry breaks my heart!


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  • holly321holly321 member
    I hope nobody takes this post the wrong way. I love my babies more than anything and understand this is normal behavior. But still....GRRRRR!!!!
    1ish is a hard age. You constantly have to watch them, hey want to get into everything, and they just don't understand. I don't think anyone would rake what you say the wrong way.
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  • kalyth76kalyth76 member
    Oh goodness, the laughing when I say "no"! -- My DS laughs too and I have the hardest time not laughing with him. I'm trying to show him that "no" means "no." Constant re-directing (and sometimes its a 3 or 4 times in a row deal) has been the only way to stop him and help him understand that me or my husband saying "no" means that he has to stop what he's doing one way or the other (either or his own or by us physically moving him).
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  • StephPethStephPeth member

    DD understands no, and she laughs at me when I say no. It is adorable and maddening all at once. She has just started to throw full blown hissy fits when I redirect her. I mean arms flailing, legs stomping and ugly face crying....this I find hysterical, and I cannot help but laugh at her when she does this. I am probably messing her up for life by laughing at her but it is just downright funny! And 2 seconds after she has the fit she wants to play with me! Maybe if I continue to show her that I won't give her what she wants because of a fit she won't throw them...

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  • shineupaboveshineupabove member
    holly321 said:
    DS understands no. He looks at me laughs and does it anyways.
    Yep. This is what happens half the time with my LO. The other half she pretends she wasn't about to do what I thought she was and walks away without any kind of reaction. 

    OP- I just went through a week when Addie would do straighten her body out and scream when I would stop her from doing something. EVERY time! I thought I was going to loose my mind. Finally she went back to being her nonchalant little self and just moves on to something else or waits a minute and tries again. I can handle repeatedly taking her away, its the tantrum that drove me crazy. Like others have said, its probably just a phase and before we know it they will be explaining with words that they want something. When that comes around we will able be complaining about them talking back to us and telling us "no." :)
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  • Puck1182Puck1182 member
    semcfadden said:


    holly321 said:

    DS understands no. He looks at me laughs and does it anyways.

    Yep. This is what happens half the time with my LO. The other half she pretends she wasn't about to do what I thought she was and walks away without any kind of reaction. 

    OP- I just went through a week when Addie would do straighten her body out and scream when I would stop her from doing something. EVERY time! I thought I was going to loose my mind. Finally she went back to being her nonchalant little self and just moves on to something else or waits a minute and tries again. I can handle repeatedly taking her away, its the tantrum that drove me crazy. Like others have said, its probably just a phase and before we know it they will be explaining with words that they want something. When that comes around we will able be complaining about them talking back to us and telling us "no." :)


    DD has done something similar to this! I let her hold a tube of diaper cream while I change her, but she isn't allowed to put it in her mouth. She had just gotten her VTech walker for Christmas and was enamoured with the phone on it. So when I saw her slowly moving the tube of diaper cream toward her mouth and gave her "the look," she got this sly grin on her face and held it up to her ear like a telephone, as if she was trying to trick me into thinking she wasn't actually about to up it in her mouth after all! I have a sneaky little one on my hands, it seems... :-p


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    Felicity86 said:
    I mean, my son was hysterical because I wouldn't let him chew on my hand. I offered lots of teething toys, which he had zero interest in. The second he gets my hand in his mouth, he's all smiles. This is the kind of thing that's been frustrating me all day. What do you do in these situations???

    Sometimes I just walk away for a minute and let her have her fit, get it back together, and then I come back.

    We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013.  We love her to pieces.  

    We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011.  She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.


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