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November 2013 Moms
Kfran84
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Updated: Daycare- Am I overreacting?
Kfran84
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N '13- give it to me straight- Would you freak out over this scenario?
I went to pick DS up from daycare at 4:45 today. Problem #1 is that he was sitting in a Bumbo in a room with just himself and another baby who was sleeping. The teacher was across the hall in another room. I noticed he was fussing kind of pitifully and had his hands in his mouth- clearly signaling that he was hungry. I picked him up out of the Bumbo and the teacher came in the room and said he had been kind of fussy since about 4:00 and she would have given him another bottle if he had it. Problem #2 is that HE DID have another bottle just sitting right there in the fridge. She either overlooked it or never checked. I'm leaning toward never checked because it's a mini fridge with just his bottle and another baby's bottle in it. Seriously hard to miss. He also has frozen milk in the school freezer along with a clean bottle that I leave in his cubby in case of emergencies.
My biggest fear putting him in daycare is that he would be hungry or lonely and he was BOTH when I walked in today. The teacher was very apologetic, but what the fuck, lady. I was nice to her about it, but went over the freezer milk and to definitely call me if this happens again because I only work a few blocks away and can leave easily to feed him.
UGH... I'm so disappointed. I am thinking of looking at alternatives like a nanny or another center, but it's so hard to get in anywhere.
Is this just part of the learning curve for the provider getting used to the baby... or is this outrageous and egregious? I'm just sad right now... sad that he was hungry for 45 minutes and went unfed and that I don't know how long or how often he goes unattended in the baby room.
Cookie cake pie for you if you got through that mess.
I went to pick DS up from daycare at 4:45 today. Problem #1 is that he was sitting in a Bumbo in a room with just himself and another baby who was sleeping. The teacher was across the hall in another room. I noticed he was fussing kind of pitifully and had his hands in his mouth- clearly signaling that he was hungry. I picked him up out of the Bumbo and the teacher came in the room and said he had been kind of fussy since about 4:00 and she would have given him another bottle if he had it. Problem #2 is that HE DID have another bottle just sitting right there in the fridge. She either overlooked it or never checked. I'm leaning toward never checked because it's a mini fridge with just his bottle and another baby's bottle in it. Seriously hard to miss. He also has frozen milk in the school freezer along with a clean bottle that I leave in his cubby in case of emergencies.
My biggest fear putting him in daycare is that he would be hungry or lonely and he was BOTH when I walked in today. The teacher was very apologetic, but what the fuck, lady. I was nice to her about it, but went over the freezer milk and to definitely call me if this happens again because I only work a few blocks away and can leave easily to feed him.
UGH... I'm so disappointed. I am thinking of looking at alternatives like a nanny or another center, but it's so hard to get in anywhere.
Is this just part of the learning curve for the provider getting used to the baby... or is this outrageous and egregious? I'm just sad right now... sad that he was hungry for 45 minutes and went unfed and that I don't know how long or how often he goes unattended in the baby room.
Cookie cake pie for you if you got through that mess.
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Re: Updated: Daycare- Am I overreacting?
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I would probably look elsewhere. Even if you involve the Director I can't imagine how much reassurance you would need to leave him in their care again.
And I don't know how you personally feel about the Bumbo but I ruled out a DCP that used it a lot. I don't want my DS in one at all. 45 minutes to sit there hungry and alone probably felt like in eternity to him.
Good luck. I'm so sad for you and your poor DS that his first day was so upsetting. I don't think you are overreacting in the least.
I know it's daycare and I don't expect someone to be holding him or catering to his every whim the second he needs it, but I DO want him to be fed when hungry and have an adult in the room with him. I didn't even think about him tipping over in the Bumbo... ugh. I'm just sick over this.
I just posted a listing for a nanny.
ETA: I will also be talking to the director tomorrow.
In all seriousness, I would be having a stern convo with the school director. (I have already had numerous conversations with mine ranging from the teachers putting her diaper on too tight, DUMPING a 4 oz bottle of gold, going through an entire box of wipes in 5 days,and changing her clothes for no reason). I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope that your trust in daycares hasn't been too destroyed. Good luck!!
I'm so sorry for you and your LO!
I'm so sorry for you and your LO!
But I also know if my LO was hungry for 45 minutes he wouldn't be just fussing a little, he would full out be loosing it. Also he might not have been in the bumbo for 45 minutes. And I don't know daycare rules but I do leave my LO unattended in a safe place sometimes, to go grab a bite, go to bathroom, shower etc. Sometimes I can lay him in his crib for that but other times he is not in the laying down mood and so I use a bouncy chair, or swing. Not really the bumbo yet cause he isn't all that stable. (I don't know your LO, and I'm definitely not agreeing with the daycare) but I would probably give them another chance and do some unannounced check in to just see if anything else seems off.
I'm not even sure about taking him back tomorrow. Ughhhhh. My heart is broken.
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It's one thing when your LO is fussy...it happens. LO is fussy sometimes with me even when all his apparent needs are met. But if LO is hungry and they are not tending to that need, big red flag. LO is left alone in a room...in a bumbo? No way would that be acceptable. Ever.
I thought at a center there would be some accountability. Grrr.
I might go back if they replaced the teacher immediately, but I really can't see leaving him in her care again.
I just called work and told them I need to use my extra FMLA week (I was going back a week early). Hopefully I can get something sorted out in a week.
Thanks for all the kind words. It really means a lot to me.
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As far as her being out of the room, apparently it is normal for them to step out for a few seconds without coverage, but if they have to leave for any length of time they are supposed to get the room covered. When I came in, she had just stepped across the hall for a kleenex to blow her nose. *Sigh*
As far as the caregiver not knowing LO had a bottle in the fridge- I was most livid about that- there's really no excusing it. She told me they would meet and work on organization and how something like that can be prevented from happening in the future.
I dunno guys... I just have so many concerns, but this center has a sterling reputation, so it's not like they abuse babies on the reg. I know that I wasn't overreacting Thursday, but I do want this to work out, so I'm giving it another go and trying to chalk it up to I stepped in at an awkward moment and my caregiver needs help getting better organized so she knows who has food and where it is.
I am looking for alternatives, but LO is back in the saddle at D.C. today. I'll be dropping in at random times this week to check on him.
Sorry for the novel again! I know many of us are going through the same gut wrenching transition this week and in the upcoming days. Lord help us all! Thanks for the sweet thoughts, I creepy-internet-love you ladies.