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"doing the deed" STM come in...

lifesaverzlifesaverz member
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So we "did the deed" today finally, at 7 weeks pp (would've tried at 6 weeks but got my period instead!).  It was okay but we def had to be gentle, & weren't really able to do any of the positions that get the spot for me because it was too sensitive/uncomfortable.  After not having sex for so long I'm a little sad, I just want to be able to do it right! lol.  STMs please encourage me, do you ever get back to a place where you can do everything you used to do & w/out having to be super gentle?  How long does that take?  TIA!
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  • edenkeeveredenkeever member
    You'll get back to normal eventually. Honestly I can't remember how long it took but I do know that the more you do it, the better it gets!
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  • leahraewkuleahraewku member

    It takes a few months, but things go back to normal. I could feel the scar from my episiotomy after DD#1 for about 4-5 months, but it didn't slow me down. It's like riding a bike! Wink wink.

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  • MissyC979MissyC979 member
    I think it took us a couple weeks last time and lots of lube, but everything went back to normal eventually.
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  • aundrea1225aundrea1225 member
    I hope it gets better for us too. DH can't even put it in all the way and its so frustrating.
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  • lifesaverzlifesaverz member
    Ugh so sorry to you other ladies struggling as well! I feel bad for all of us! Hopefully we'll all be having (enjoyable) sex soon!
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  • lifesaverzlifesaverz member
    So can I ask, what makes it get better more, time passing or having more sex?
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  • swirl25swirl25 member
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    Yep, just give it time. It took me probably a little longer than the norm after DD1 because of my granulation scar tissue, but after a few months it was just as good as it had been pre baby. The more you do it the more things get "loosened up" down there. ;) Just use lots of lube especially if you are BFing!

    I will say, ribbed condoms = BAD when you are first getting used to sex again after giving birth. I felt like DH had sandpaper wrapped around his business.
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  • 74dragonfly74dragonfly member
    It takes a while but it gets back to normal. The last few Times we did it was excellent.




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  • hjweberhjweber member
    Am I the only one who thinks it's never been the same since having a kid???

    I guess not the physical feeling.  But it just doesn't give me the mental feeling that it used to.  Does that make sense?  Sex used to be fun and exciting.  Since DD1, not so much.  I did get pregnant again so I guess that counts for something.  

    I think I need some women's viagra.  Or counseling.  Or a new vagina.  
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  • azmama20azmama20 member
    Not a STM, but I feel your pain! I'm sorry. Sounds like from PPs though that it gets better. In the meantime, we can commiserate together. :)
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  • KbrittonhartKbrittonhart member
    It took about a month with me after DD1 but I think it's because I had a small tear. No tears with DD2 and I've been more active this pregnancy so we will see how it goes in 2 weeks!
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  • lp0lp0 member
    It goes back to normal eventually. We tried at 6 weeks pp after DS was born and it hurt so bad we had to stop. Tried again at 8 weeks and while it still hurt I got through it. It slowly hurt less and less each time but it took months where it didn't hurt at all (usually the first minute or two was uncomfortable then it was fine). I agree though, I thought sex got better after having DS. I can't wait to get back to that kind on sex :)
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  • insertclevernameinsertclevername member
    It eventually goes back to normal. It took a bit longer for me but everything was definitely back to normal 5-6 months pp.
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